Virtue teaches no words without doing anything. The best education is not preaching, but influencing.
After a hard day, parents will inevitably feel tired and anxious about their children's daily life problems such as not taking a bath, not doing homework, eating badly and playing mobile phones. People will be unconsciously influenced by culture, and the immaturity of parents indirectly leads to the situation of children, losing good parent-child relationship and children's awe.
We don't have much time to educate our children. We expect our children to be educated as soon as they get home, parents will educate them without preaching, and children will be educated invisibly. However, how to make education invisible, children are educated, but they don't know they are educated. This is an educational art and realm.
Dean Lin observed from the macro level of the system and the nuances of life and thought, and proposed to build a family style culture and a good family style. Starting from the details of life, pay attention to teaching by example, teaching by words and teaching by environment. Create family culture from many dimensions, such as ambition education, on-site education, leaving education and three-view education.
Dean Lin cited three examples: parents are children's scenery, a parent reading a book in the living room and a parent watching a mobile phone in the living room, all of which are forming intangible education for children, which is an example. If we don't consciously repeat it, it will become a family motto. Whether we are interested or not, we are all carrying out family culture, which is to teach by example. Expecting children not to play with mobile phones, we should create a culture without mobile phones, and at the same time establish an alternative culture, which is environmental education.
If the child's self-management surpasses ours, who are the parents? What is expected of children, what family culture should be established. Cultivate children's awe of family culture construction. Rarely talk to children, and children are still educated. This is the power of family style. In a family with a good family style, the advantages of children are naturally cultivated unconsciously, and the disadvantages are also cultivated by our carelessness, including many words and deeds, the environment we create and even the immaturity of parents. Ignorance is always the most expensive price. When we know nothing about a child's education, we will only use his life to pay for our immaturity. Many people have been healing their childhood all their lives, but parents who know how to educate their children enjoy their childhood all their lives. Our parents need to have an ability: how parents know and feel, so that children can grow up unconsciously, and at the same time, children are educated, but they don't know that they are educated. This is an art and realm of education.
Invisible is family style, tangible is family education. Family education is used to deal with existing problems, and family style is used to prevent problems. Sages do nothing, teach no words, do everything, live everything, do everything, and succeed in learning. The husband only lives in the house, so he can't go.
Learn family culture and build a good family style. The above is the thinking caused by the sharing of Dean Lin's 25-minute micro-lesson, which is a new starting point for me to build a family style culture at the institutional level in the future. I am honest and cultured, caring for my family, and I encourage everyone! [fuel] [love]