Filial piety is a kind of ethics, and the ethical relationship reflects order. Children can only be children at home, not "little emperors" or "little princesses". It is only natural for parents to educate their children. What they are discussing is only the way, method and content of education. Therefore, children should cultivate the habit of respecting their parents and elders from an early age. To this end, parents must demonstrate and set an example.

Second, the concept of contract-cultivate the rules of the game.

Contract is a game rule of modern social life, which embodies the principles of rights, responsibilities, obligations, equality, respect and win-win. When educating their children, parents should actively adjust the ways, methods and contents of education according to their physical and mental characteristics. With the gradual increase of children's "freedom", parents and children can reach a consensus through some form of "contract". This can not only reduce a lot of parent-child conflicts, but also show respect, cultivate children's awareness of rules and contribute to children's socialization. Putting filial piety and contract together is not contradictory, but embodies a reasonable equal relationship.

Third, the concept of communication-a bridge across the generation gap.

Family relationship should be embodied in three dimensions: intimacy, adaptability and communication.

Communication is an important dimension to promote the first two, which are the result of communication. Good communication is open communication with few problems. Communication emphasizes creating an unrestrained communication environment for all family members, and children can freely express their views. It is normal for parents and children to have different views. If the generation gap is inevitable, communication can build a bridge between two generations. Communication will be fruitful.

Fourth, the concept of adolescent education-the unshirkable responsibility of parents and schools.

In the process of psychological counseling, the psychological problems caused by adolescent sexual anxiety are universal. Sex education is a topic that accompanies people all their lives. Children have sexual awareness since they were very young. For boys, girls, men and women, gender role education is the starting point of sex education. The development and evolution of individual sexual psychology should go through the formation and evolution of gender roles, sexual orientation and sexual values. The essence of sexual psychology is the result of the interaction between the subject's physical and material conditions and the social environment, and once the sexual psychology reaches the "mature stage" of the individual, it will have relative independence. Sexual psychology is an important part of personality, and sexual mental health is also an important symbol of mental health. From the social point of view, active sex education is helpful to form a healthy sexual psychology; Cultivate the ability of heterosexual communication and love; Improve the safety of sexual behavior; Reduce and prevent psychological and sexual behavior abnormalities.

Fifth, the concept of gratitude-parents and children grow up together.

It is necessary to educate children to be grateful to their parents. At the same time, it is emphasized here that parents should also educate their children with a grateful attitude. Now many only children have become parents, but their psychological age is still immature. Parent-child communication resource exchange theory holds that parent-child communication is similar to the exchange of resources (thoughts, emotions, etc.). ). Different ways of parent-child communication lead to different development of children. The lower consistency level reflects more problems in the family, while the higher communication level reflects the socialization level of parents. Children educated by immature parents may face more problems.

Family education is both science and art, and parents can only master the laws of science and art if they feel and do it with their hearts. As long as you educate and study hard, parents will grow up with their children in the process of educating them and letting them grow up. The arrival of children is not only a gift from God, but also makes you really mature in the process of educating (not raising) children. Shouldn't we be grateful? If these ideas can run through the process of family education very vividly, it will not only help to close the parent-child relationship, but also help to cultivate children's good personality characteristics. Your children will certainly have greater flexibility and broader development space than their peers.