In the process of frying, I thought while frying, in fact, this kind of cooking is very similar to educating children:
Before cooking a dish, you need to do your homework, first understand its material, such as whether it is frying-resistant, and then choose the appropriate cooking method according to its characteristics, whether it is frying or stewing, perhaps several methods need to be together.
There is also what side dishes need to be prepared in time, including all ingredients and tools, so as not to be in a hurry and disorderly during the cooking process.
The same is true of educating children. We need to understand the characteristics of children by heart first. Are they extroverted, introverted, quiet or active?
Then, according to the characteristics of TA, choose the appropriate education method, which is mainly encouragement, strict supervision, or both. The ancients had a long-standing conclusion on this point, like Confucius' proposal of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.
Every child is unique in this world, and every child's characteristics are completely different.
Understand first, then teach, and choose the right way to help him grow.
Before that, we need to make full preparations.
By learning from yourself or others, how to better educate and guide children and make full preparations for all possible situations.
In this way, when the situation really occurs, we will not be at a loss, and we can only talk through screaming or instinctive shouting.
When cooking, besides the quality of the dish itself, the heat is also a very key factor. If it is too small, it is easy to be unfamiliar, and if it is too big, it is easy to paste.
You need different calories at different times. For example, you may need to stir-fry at first, and then simmer.
Pay attention to controlling the heat to cook good dishes.
Teaching children is similar. We need to grasp the scale, neither too indulgent nor too strict.
Excessive indulgence may cause children to have no sense of boundaries, do not know what to do and what not to do, and are self-centered, which is easy to develop children's lawless and complacent personality.
Being too strict may cause children to feel inferior and feel that they are inferior to others in everything, and they will be passive and have no opinions in the future.
Therefore, when facing children, we should pay attention to discretion and learn to be gentle and firm.
Set a safe boundary for children, which includes principles, the bottom line and the rules of this society.
Within this limit, children can be given complete freedom to explore and develop freely.
Only by grasping the scale can we cultivate children's sound personality.
Large dishes, especially meat dishes, such as stewed ribs, are well prepared before cooking. After mastering the heat, the next step is usually to wait.
It takes time and patience to stew slowly with a small fire, but haste makes waste.
The same is true of educating children. When we make all preparations and draw a boundary for him, it is gentle and firm, and the effect often does not appear immediately.
At this time, the most important thing is to wait patiently, know that you are doing the right thing, stick to it, and slowly you will be surprised to find that the child has changed little.
I have always liked a poem, walking with snails, which wrote:
Although the snail walks slowly, it is also climbing step by step. It has done its best. We need more patience to wait, wait for the snail to grow and advance, and believe that it will climb to the top one day.
Although the process of walking with snails is very long, as long as we calm down, we will also see many scenery that we neglected in the past on the roadside.
Children are the love of our life. It is worth our efforts to understand TA's rich and unique heart, make full psychological preparation, master the scale of communication with children, and then wait patiently for flowers to bloom!
May every child be treated gently and grow into the best self!