Education is like a trickle, which lasts for a long time and cannot be achieved overnight. It still takes ten years for a towering tree, not to mention patience and confidence in a person's life and the growth of children.
Parents are not born educators, they are human beings, ordinary people. He may be a powerful cadre leader, a corporate tycoon, a professor or a doctor, or an ordinary citizen. Although his position is different, the starting point of children's education is the same. They are also new parents. The difference lies in whether they have learned how to be a competent parent in this position.
Education is a major that needs to be studied, and parents should also learn in the process of educating their children. Learn child psychology, understand the stages and differences in the process of children's growth, and feel the needs of children of every age through their behavior. Learn to tolerate the mistakes in children's growth and feel their joys and sorrows.
Many times, when we educate our children, we always use our decades of growth experience and an adult's point of view to ask them to be obedient, sensible and good at learning, and restrain them with adult thinking. Finally, the parent-child relationship becomes tense.
Preaching is always rebellious, and so are children. Parents' talk will only make them feel small, which will lead to pressure. Because I am afraid of not doing well in the exam, I am nervous and insomnia; Because I didn't do well in the exam, I didn't dare to take the test paper home and lie and cheat. Maybe some bad habits of children are caused by parents.
Silent, it moistens everything.
The spring breeze is warm and comfortable. The behavior of parents in getting along with their children is like the fragrance of flowers in spring, which makes children naturally observe, feel and think.
Children are also individuals with souls, and their ideas sometimes surprise us. If you want them to have good moral behavior, you should set an example by yourself.
If you want to respect the old and love the young, do it for him yourself. Take some time to take children to visit their parents, chat with them, cook for them and send them meals. Children can feel how we treat their parents, bit by bit.
If you want them to study hard, give up their mobile phones first and chat and read books when they are with their children. I found that when I was watching TV in the living room, the child always watched TV, and I was embarrassed to scold him. And when he was watching TV, I didn't yell at him to let him read, but I went to bed and read silently after washing myself. As a result, in less than five minutes, the child took the initiative to turn off the TV, washed himself, and then went to bed and sat next to me reading. I asked him why he didn't read it. He said, I don't want to read it, but it's good to read a book.
If you want him to exercise, do it yourself. You don't have to go to the gym or playground to exercise. No one wants to be baptized by the cold when it is freezing. For me, the yoga mat at home is a necessity for exercise. Do a few push-ups or sit-ups or support for a few minutes in the game, and you can also train your physical fitness. But parents don't do it themselves, but it's no use asking their children to do it blindly. Children will resist. This is human nature-why ask others if you don't do it yourself? It's not fair not to bring children.
Education is a project, education is a science and education is the companion of practice. To lay every brick for a project, we should keep learning, lead by example, and learn to be a wise man and partner in the growth of children.