Let's talk about food first. The child doesn't eat. My advice is to ignore him. You know, the child can't be hungry. You should make a rule for him that he must come to the table by himself when eating. If he doesn't come, there will be no food after the time. After eating, you will clean up everything. When he has had enough fun and wants to eat, you must tell him that this meal is not allowed for his own reasons. You can't give him any snacks, let alone pocket money. As long as you can make up your mind to do so, you will find that you don't have to catch him everywhere like a thief when eating, and his habits will gradually change.

It can be seen from this incident that you are still very pampered with your children, and you have to follow them in many things. This way of education will certainly not educate children with good habits. Everything must have rules, and the rules must be strictly enforced. Only in this way can children develop good behavior habits. As parents, we must pay attention to our behavior and habits and influence them with our own actions, instead of preaching and criticizing blindly. As the saying goes, there are no children who can't teach well, only parents who can't teach well. Children's behavior habits are closely related to parents' education methods. Don't blame children for their bad habits. You should think more about whether your education method is appropriate and whether your words and deeds set an example for your children. No one is born to educate children. As long as you study more and constantly improve yourself, you will find the best way to raise your children. You should also learn to make friends with children, communicate with them more and respect them more. I found an article on the internet to introduce to you, hoping it will help you.

A good tutor can be condensed into six sentences.

Good parents are learned.

There are no parents who are naturally successful, and there are no parents who don't need to learn. Successful parents are the result of continuous self-learning and improvement. I have come into contact with so many excellent parents, and none of them has succeeded in teaching their children easily. An excellent mother even said: Many people think I am relaxed and say that your children are so excellent that I don't need your care at all. As we all know, I even sleep with one eye open at night! A good mother nip in the bud, and an unqualified mother is a child whose problem is so serious that even the teacher has talked to the child, and she has not realized the existence of the problem.

Comrade Shen Liping, one of the top ten outstanding mothers in China, is a painter. She said that in order to learn painting, she not only went to college, but also went to the Central Academy of Arts and Crafts for further study. I not only bought many books, but also visited numerous art exhibitions and listened to numerous academic reports. However, she never realized that it takes time to train children. It was not until the child was severely disabled by the air crash that she really began to learn to be a mother. Thanks to her own efforts, she finally helped her children overcome their disabilities and became the "China hero" praised by the Norwegian people.

2 1 century, the information society requires more and more people's quality, and any post needs training and assessment. However, it seems that only children are born, and without education, it seems that they will automatically find jobs and will never be laid off. In fact, this understanding is wrong. Everyone should learn relevant knowledge before becoming a parent. The sooner you prepare your awareness and knowledge of how to be a parent, the better.

Good children are taught.

I have contacted hundreds of excellent parents. They have one thing in common, that is, like Comrade Shen Liping, they have made great efforts in educating their children. If she hadn't said it herself, people wouldn't have thought that she had put so much effort into the growth of her son Wang Jiapeng. Her colleagues and friends all said: you did everything to the extreme except that the plane fell at that time, and you didn't delay the children. But how difficult it is to do this!

Some people may say that so many parents can't read a word, isn't it also educating their children? In fact, illiteracy is not uneducated, and these parents are also experts in educating their children.

The program "Focus Interview" once introduced the story of An Jinpeng, the gold medal winner of the world middle school students' mathematics Olympics. His family is so poor that he can't afford to attend a key middle school. His father said to let his children go out to work. People can't find a job when they go to college, let alone whether you can go to college. But my mother resolutely disagreed and sold the only donkey in the family. The child is the only one in middle school who can't even afford vegetarian food, and the only one who can't even afford soap. Supposedly, such a child is all on his own, right? When asked face to face, I realized that although the mother didn't graduate from junior high school, she let her children learn the four arithmetic thoroughly before they went to primary school. How many parents who graduated from college can do this?

Good habits are cultivated.

Many parents blame their children's bad habits on schools, teachers and children, not themselves. In fact, most of children's habits-good or bad-are cultivated by our parents intentionally or unintentionally. Just as Shanghainese speak Shanghainese and eat Shanghainese food, Sichuanese speak Sichuanese and eat Sichuan food. It seems that they are born untrained, but it is not like this! My parents have been teaching so much that they don't realize that they are teaching. This is "hidden education", which is much more powerful than "explicit education" and is also essential.

Most excellent children are the result of quality education, while problem children is the product of problem families. Most of the children's problems are not caused by the children themselves, but reflect the parents' problems. Parents are often the biggest maker of children's problems and the biggest obstacle for children to correct their mistakes and shortcomings. The urgent task is not to educate children, but to educate parents. Without the change of parents, there will be no change of children. There are no children who don't want to learn well, only children who don't learn well; There are no children with poor education, only parents who can't educate; There are all children in the world, only parents who are not. Therefore, scold yourself before scolding your child, and beat yourself before hitting your child. Only in this way can you completely change yourself.

Good grades are helpful.

The whole society should have a correct understanding of quality education and exam-oriented education. Examination-oriented education is an unavoidable problem for both schools and parents, and it needs to be adapted by both schools and parents. There is no contradiction between exam-oriented education and quality education, and quality education without exam-oriented ability is not real quality education.

According to statistics, there are nearly 10 million "idle" minors in China. The so-called idle minors refer to children who should be studying at school but choose to drop out of school. 94% are the result of academic failure. Learning backwardness, weariness of learning, truancy and running away from home have become the four steps of juvenile delinquency.

Therefore, it has become our parents' duty to help children adapt to the exam-oriented education, and the best way to help children reduce their burden is to make our parents increase their burden, that is, to make our parents become their children's learning tutors.

Of course, good grades are brought out by school teachers, but today, with the fierce competition in exam-oriented education, these good grades are more and more soaked in the sweat of parents.

Good communication is all heard.

For parents whose children enter junior high school, there is a general confusion that it is difficult to communicate with their children. There are many contradictions between adolescent children and menopausal mothers, not only because they are in a period of inner psychological turmoil, but more importantly, both of them are under great external pressure. Children are under pressure to enter a higher school, and mothers are under pressure from their careers (some of them are laid off), so they need more communication.

Most excellent parents do well in these aspects, and their good communication comes from consciously following these three steps.

The first step is to listen, that is, let the children speak out and understand the true meaning of their words. The second step is understanding, that is, whether it makes sense to think from the child's point of view, and the result is often reasonable. The third step is advice, that is, a reasonable child may not be able to take the right action. At this time, parents should give advice.

Of these three steps, listening is the worst for parents.

Every child grows up with problems, and every parent grows up with problems. Children who don't have problems can't be found, and parents who don't have problems can't be found. The key is to calm down and find a solution like those excellent parents.

Good grades are made.

Intelligence is not the most important thing. What is more important than intelligence is will. What is more important than will is morality. What is more important than morality is a person's mind and ambition.

Unfortunately, fewer and fewer people pay attention to morality now, so it is not appropriate to talk about moral education with parents. As for a person's mind and ambition, it is an overseas anecdote that our parents don't want to hear, because it has nothing to do with the current exam results!

In fact, these are the most important things in one's growth. When we read biographies, we often leave a deep impression on the extraordinary childhood of the biographer, because this achievement motivation has a great influence on a person.

The most important factors, such as will, morality and mind, are not through "explicit education" such as parents' preaching, but through parents' behavior, that is, "implicit education", which is transformed into children's flesh and blood, so as to produce results. Therefore, children stand on the shoulders of their parents. How far parents can go, how far children can go and how tall parents can be.

The best way for children to develop a big mind is to let them read more famous books and biographies of great men, and let them learn to look at society and themselves from the perspective of great men.

Wang Donghua, director and researcher of the Institute of Mother Education of East China Jiaotong University, has long been concerned about the education of minors. From 65438 to 0999, he published 800,000 words of educational monograph "Looking for Mothers", calling on the whole society to re-recognize the value of mothers. In recent years, she has actively participated in the national outstanding mothers' selection, and is one of the top ten outstanding mothers' judges in China, Beijing and Tianjin. Face-to-face close communication with hundreds of outstanding parents across the country, and detailed analysis of their successful cases. Together with the All-China Women's Federation and other relevant departments, he went deep into juvenile detention centers, drug rehabilitation centers, women's prisons and other places to investigate and study, and mastered a large number of positive and negative facts. His family education philosophy is: let every mother have a good child and let every child have a good mother.