In the face of children's disobedience, parents must first remain calm; To correct children's disobedience, parents should first correctly understand this phenomenon.

How to treat children's disobedience? Is it completely bad for children not to obey? Actually, it is not. If parents carefully analyze the advantages and disadvantages of children's disobedience and look at this problem from two aspects, they will find that children's disobedience has two sides, both negative and positive.

Let's first look at the negative aspects of children's disobedience.

Children's disobedience is very negative, and its biggest negative impact is that it will lead children to develop bad personality, psychology or habits. If everything is centered on me, others can only give and accommodate what I need. When it is serious, it will breed selfish bad qualities.

It is easy to form a self-centered bad character.

Most disobedient children have a remarkable feature, that is, they don't respect their parents. When they consider problems, they only take their own feelings as the premise and never consider their parents' ideas. If parents give in to their children's disobedience or let them go, in the long run, children will develop a self-centered bad character, that is, a way of thinking that only considers their own thoughts and ignores the feelings of others, and gradually freezes into a habit. In this way, it is very harmful to their healthy growth and development.

It is easy to develop selfish defects.

If a child can't even listen to his parents' advice and instruction, can he still accept others' opinions? For a long time, children only consider their own interests and never consider others, thus developing a selfish character.

It will lead to a decline in grades and learning.

Every parent wants his children to study hard and get good grades. But disobedient children don't care about their parents' good intentions. They don't read when they should be reading, and they don't do their homework when they should be doing their homework. As long as there is an opportunity, they either go online or idolize, and they don't take learning seriously at all. Therefore, most disobedient children will have a decline in academic performance and academic decline.

Will lead to bad company.

It is normal for children to associate with others and make friends when they grow up. Because parents worry that their children are young, inexperienced and don't know the difference between good friends and bad friends, they often tell their children what kind of friends they should make and what kind of friends they shouldn't make. However, disobedient children often ignore their parents' suggestions. They only made friends by their own feelings, and as a result, they made some bad friends. Under the influence of these bad friends, they themselves will go astray in life.

Parents should see the negative side of children's disobedience and the positive side of children's disobedience. Only when parents treat their children's disobedience correctly can they shoulder the heavy responsibility of educating their children better and more effectively.

Disobedient children also have the following positive aspects:

A disobedient child has courage and willpower.

Studies on children's education in many countries in Europe and America show that naughty, rebellious and disobedient children often have strong courage and willpower. Because of strong courage and willpower, children stand firm and can decide things with their own judgment.

Heather, a German psychologist, conducted a follow-up survey on the behaviors of 100 children with strong resistance consciousness and no resistance consciousness. Tracing back to adolescence, it is found that 85% of children with strong resistance are young people with strong will and strong judgment when they grow up; Only 24% of children who have no sense of resistance have developed strong willpower, and most of them are people who have no judgment and rely on others to survive.

Disobedient children are often very creative.

Sometimes children's disobedience is actually "out of line" behavior. The reason for "out of line" is that children don't have the rules and regulations of adults in their minds. Imaginary thinking is an important starting point for a person to exert his creativity. An expert in early childhood education visited a foreign country and saw a child draw a "big apple" in blue. His mother came over and said, "Well, it's a good painting!" And lovingly touched the child's head. The child was ecstatic. At this moment, an expert from China asked his mother, "He painted the apple blue. Why don't you correct them? " Mother said, "Why should I correct it? Maybe he can really cultivate blue apples in the future. " It is reasonable for foreign parents to tolerate their children's disobedience in this way. It can protect their imagination and stimulate their creativity. The world children see is unique and their imagination is rich. If parents rudely interfere with them in an adult way of thinking, their imagination and creativity will be stifled. Therefore, parents give their children a little freedom of "disobedience" to protect their creative thinking and desires.

Creation needs some time and space. Children are restricted to death and have no freedom at all. How can they create? Parents should give their children more time and space to be "naughty" and let them daydream, move and create freely.

It can be seen that children's disobedience has its positive side. As parents, we should treat children's disobedience with a positive attitude and give full play to their positive factors. If we give correct guidance and adopt correct educational methods, we can keep the advantages of disobedient children, make them more brilliant, and then make them develop into independent, confident and strong people to adapt to the fierce social competition in the future.

In short, we should pay attention to two problems in educating disobedient children: on the one hand, we should not let the negative factors in disobedience drift; On the other hand, we should also protect the positive factors in their "disobedience" behavior, and don't forcibly stifle children's personality.

Correctly treating children's disobedience and balancing "negative" and "positive" discipline will certainly promote disobedient children to become obedient good children.