Frustration can temper one's will.

Strive to turn setbacks into wealth in life.

There will be setbacks in doing anything.

Learn from setbacks

Setbacks are not terrible. What is terrible is that you can never recover after setbacks.

It takes courage to face setbacks.

It takes perseverance to overcome setbacks.

Only by overcoming setbacks can we succeed.

Children should be educated about setbacks.

well-known saying

Suffering is the teacher of life. Through suffering, we move towards happiness. -Beethoven

A person must have some rebellious experiences, otherwise he will be unconsciously depressed, afraid that he will fall and others will not scold him. —— Guo Moruo

Life is like a flood, and it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without encountering islands and reefs.

Ostrovsky

Seeds do not fall in fertile soil, but in rubble. The seeds with vitality will never sigh pessimistically, because only with resistance can they be tempered. Xia Yan

Even if you fall a hundred times, you should stand up a hundred and one times. -Zhang Haidi

Difficulty and torture is a hammer that hits the blank. It is necessary to knock out fragile iron filings and forge a sharp steel knife. -Chekhov

Adversity inevitably promotes the development of human wisdom mineral deposits. Powder needs pressure to ignite.

-Dumas

If we have accepted the worst, we have nothing to lose. Carnegie

There is only one road to the truly great realm of mankind-the road of suffering. -Einstein

God has put many obstacles in our way just to strengthen our will. Tagore

Don't be complacent because of good luck, and don't be depressed because of bad luck. A truly strong person is good at finding shadows from prosperity, finding light from adversity, and always calibrating his goals. Ibsen

Overcoming difficulties is an opportunity to win. Churchill

Life is full of thorns, and the only way we can think of is to cross them quickly. -Voltaire

Hope is the faithful sister of bad luck. -Pushkin

I think setbacks and hardships are good opportunities to exercise my will and improve my ability. -Zou Taofen

Struggle is a school to master skills, and frustration is a bridge to truth. -Goethe

Face adversity bravely. -Horace

All happiness is not without troubles, and all adversity is not without hope. bacon

The difficulty is to bully the weak and fear the hard. The more you fear it, the more it threatens you. The less you look at it, the more respectful it is to you. —— Xuan Yongguang

There is no reef in the sea that can't stimulate the waves, and life can't stand setbacks and become strong. -Proverbs

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Someone's resume

(Overcome frustration and despair)

Here is a person's life resume:

18 16, his family was driven out of their place of residence, and he had to work to support them. 18 18 years, my mother died. 183 1 year, business failed. 1832, he ran for the state legislature-but lost. 1832, I am unemployed and want to study law school, but I can't get in. 1833, he borrowed money from his friends to do business, but went bankrupt at the end of the year. It took him 16 years to pay off his debts. 1834, he ran for the state legislature again-he won. 1835, when he was about to get married after his engagement, his fiancee died and his heart was broken. 1836, he had a complete mental breakdown and was ill in bed for half a year. 1838, he tried to be the speaker of the state legislature-without success. 1840, he tried to be an elector-he lost the election. 1843 Participated in the parliamentary election-he lost the election. 1846, participate in the parliamentary election again-I was elected this time! Go to Washington, DC, and the performance is very wonderful. 1848, he sought re-election as a member of parliament-failed.

In 849, he wanted to be a land supervisor in his own state, but he was rejected. 1854, he ran for the United States Senate-he lost the election. 1856, he was nominated for the vice president at the Republican National Convention-less than 100. 1858, he ran for the United States Senate again-and lost again. 1860 was elected president of the United States. This man's name is Lincoln.

Lincoln, who was born with nothing, faced setbacks all his life, losing eight elections, failing in business twice and even having a nervous breakdown.

Many times, he was desperate, but he didn't give up his life and became one of the greatest presidents in American history.

Kentucky fried chicken prelude

Face the setbacks in life bravely.

In the year when he lost his father forever, Harend was not yet five years old and could not spell his name completely. When his family was crying, he felt very funny, because he couldn't take care of him for a while and ran around the town freely.

/kloc-After dropping out of school at the age of 0/4, he returned to the farm in Indiana. He was unhappy at school. Doing farm work still makes him unhappy. Selling tickets on the tram still makes him unhappy. His thin face was covered with heaviness and sadness that was out of proportion to his age.

/kloc-when he was 0/7 years old, he opened a wrought iron shop and had to declare bankruptcy before the business was fully opened.

/kloc-When he was 0/8 years old, he found the first love dock in his life and lived here. But one day not long after, when he came home again, he found that everything at home had been moved away and no one was there. Love lost at lightning speed, and the dock became deserted.

He tried to sell insurance, but failed.

He tried to sell tires, but failed.

He learned to sail a ferry, but failed. He tried to open a gas station, but failed.

In almost all attempts and failures, he reached the middle age of his life. The middle-aged man's life is too pale to even see his daughter from his ex-wife. In order to meet each other day and night, the lonely middle-aged man thought of kidnapping and kidnapped his daughter. However, even this absurd move failed after he bent down and waited in the grass by the roadside for more than ten hours.

The man who was almost sentenced to death by failure wandered for decades and then retired. One day, he received $65,438+005 in social welfare, and he finally opened a fast food restaurant-KFC Hometown Chicken, which he wanted to make a living.

The subsequent history of fast food is a history of KFC.

Face setbacks

Maintain a good attitude in the face of setbacks.

On May 14, 2004, the Korean Constitutional Court ruled on the impeachment case of President Roh Moo-hyun: the impeachment case proposed by the National Assembly was rejected, and President Roh Moo-hyun immediately resumed the exercise of presidential power. The next day (May 15, 2005), President Roh Moo-hyun delivered a speech to the people, marking the end of his difficult days of being suspended from the presidency on March 12, 2002.

The suspension of the presidency is the first time in the history of South Korea, which is a major blow to Roh Moo-hyun and may also be the most serious setback he has encountered since he took office. However, in the face of this major setback, Roh Moo-hyun remained calm and fully demonstrated the self-restraint, mind, will and grace of an outstanding politician. According to media reports, during his suspension, his main activity every day was reading. He said that he used this rare time to read many books, especially the biography of Lincoln, and got a deeper understanding of this great man. He also discussed and analyzed the situation at home and abroad with his assistants to prepare for a comeback. In addition, he often walks and climbs mountains with his wife, which not only exercises his body, but also exchanges feelings with his family.

There is something to learn from Roh Moo-hyun's performance after his suspension. Some people encounter setbacks in life, but they are depressed, depressed and complaining instead of accepting them calmly and making positive changes, but he doesn't know that doing so will not only help, but also affect their physical and mental health because of their bad mood.

Liang Qichao wrote in "On Perseverance": "To cover the course of life, adversity usually ranks at 16 or 17, and prosperity also ranks at 13 or 14, and the two conditions often multiply alternately. The bigger the ....., the more setbacks you encounter, and the harder it is not to back down. If you are not strong, you will be good at the end. "

Friends, although we are all ordinary people, in the face of setbacks, we should also learn from great men at all times and at all times. Be brave, strong, work hard, and failures and setbacks will definitely pass.

Brandon Lee is not afraid of adversity.

It takes perseverance to overcome setbacks.

Professor Brandon Lee, an expert in mechanics and bridges in China, lived in an "isolation room" during the "Cultural Revolution", without papers and data. The white edge and seam of the newspaper became his world of calculus, and his wife's hairpin and children's table tennis net became his experimental tools. During the period of "isolation", he was often interrogated and examined. In such a harsh environment, he resisted all kinds of pressures and finally wrote a 654.38+ million-word monograph, Torsion Theory of Truss Beams-Torsion, Stability and Vibration of Truss Beams, which filled a gap in bridge architecture in the world.

There is no ship sailing at sea that won't get hurt.

Frustration is a test of life.

Lloyd's Insurance Company of England once bought a boat from the auction market. The ship was launched on 1894, encountered icebergs 138 times in the Atlantic Ocean, hit rocks 1 16 times, caught fire 13 times, and the mast was broken by the storm 207 times. However, it never sank.

Lloyd's Insurance Company finally decided to buy from the Netherlands and donate it to the country based on its incredible experience and considerable premium income. Now the ship is moored at the National Ship Museum in Salem, England.

However, it was a lawyer who came here for sightseeing that made this ship famous in the world. At that time, he had just lost a lawsuit and his client committed suicide not long ago. Although this is not the first time that he failed in his defense or committed suicide, he always feels guilty whenever such a thing happens. He doesn't know how to comfort these people who have suffered misfortune in business.

When he saw the ship in the Salem Ship Museum, he suddenly had an idea, why not let them visit the ship? So, he copied the history of the ship and hung it in his law office together with the photo of the ship. Whenever a business client comes to him for defense, he doesn't care whether he wins or loses, and suggests that they go to see the boat. It lets us know that no ship can sail at sea without injury.

all start again

(look down on setbacks)

One night, Edison's experimental building suddenly caught fire and burned into ruins. All the materials and samples he studied for talking movies were reduced to ashes. His wife said sadly, "how many teenagers' hearts and blood have been burned?" What can we do? "Although Edison is very sad, he will never bow before setbacks. When he invented the electric light, he tried more than 7,600 materials, failed more than 8,000 times, never backed down, and finally succeeded. The current fire can't bring him back.

Edison comforted his wife and said, "Never mind, although I am 67 years old. From tomorrow morning, everything will start again. "

Little wasp in NBA

(tested by setbacks)

Playing NBA when they grow up is the most desirable dream of all American teenagers who love playing basketball. "I want to play the NBA when I grow up." When young Boggs said this to his companions, they all burst into laughter, and one of them fell to the ground laughing. Boggs is too young. He is the shortest of his companions. He is only 160 cm tall, which is short even among orientals, not to mention in the NBA, which is too short for two meters.

Boggs did not give up his efforts because of the ridicule of his peers; On the contrary, he loves basketball and is determined to play NBA. He runs on the basketball court with his friends every day. Everyone else has gone home, and he is still practicing; Other children went to enjoy the cool, and he was still sweating heavily on the basketball court. He spends several times more time on the basketball court than others.

He knows that if he wants to enter the NBA, he must have something extraordinary. He makes full use of his small advantages: he moves flexibly and quickly, like a bullet; Dribble has the lowest center of gravity and will not make mistakes; Small, inconspicuous, often holding the ball.

Finally, he succeeded. In the NBA, Boggs is one of the best defenders with the least mistakes in the Charlotte Hornets. He is not only first-class in ball control, accurate in long-range shooting, but also fearless in layups with the ball in high positions. He runs around like a little wasp.

Boggs is not only the shortest player in NBA now, but also a record-breaking dwarf in NBA history. He turned what others thought impossible into reality.

Write a masterpiece

Frustration can temper one's will.

Pu Songling was born in Shandong in the early Qing Dynasty. Due to the prevalence of bribery and fraud in the examination hall at that time, he failed in all four exams. But he is not pessimistic and disappointed. He is determined to write a "book of loneliness and anger". He carved a pair of couplets on the copper ruler that pressed the paper:

Where there is a will, there is a way. If we cross the rubicon, 120 Qin Guan will belong to Chu after all.

Hard-working people are rewarded by heaven, and they have tasted courage. More than 3,000 armour can swallow Wu.

Pu Songling took this as a warning and encouragement, and finally wrote a literary masterpiece-Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio.

Flexible, diligent and brave.

(Courageously use setbacks as motivation)

Fu Cha, the king of Wu, thought that the country was no longer in danger, so he led the army to defeat Gou Jian, the king of Yue. He agreed to surrender and withdraw his troops to Wu.

After the withdrawal of troops from Wu, Gou Jian came to Wu with his wife and doctor Fan Li, served the king of Wu, herded cattle and sheep, and finally won the king's love and trust. Three years later, they were released and returned to China.

After returning to China, Gou Jian was determined to make a fortune and prepare for revenge. He was afraid that he would covet an easy life and stifle his ambition for revenge. At night, he sleeps on a pile of straw with weapons under his pillow. He also hung a gallbladder in the house and tasted it every morning, so that the soldiers outside asked him, "Have you forgotten the shame of three years?" He put Wen Zi in charge of state affairs and Fan Li in charge of the army. He personally went to the fields to work with farmers, and his wife also spun and woven. Gou Jian's behavior touched the officials and people of Yue State. After ten years of hard struggle, the state of Yue finally became armed, from weak to strong.

In addition, Fu Cha, the king of Wu, thought he was carefree after defeating Yue State, and since then he has been addicted to the beauty of stones and lived a luxurious life. At this time, Wu, seemingly powerful, has actually gone downhill.

In 482 BC, Fu Cha personally led the army to the north, competing with the State of Jin for the title of vassal. Gou Jian, the King of Yue, used the elite troops of the State of Wu to make a surprise attack, defeated Wu Bing in one fell swoop and killed his prince friend. After hearing the news, Fu Cha hurried home and sent someone to make peace with Gou Jian. Gou Jian estimated that Wu could not be destroyed at once, so he agreed. In 473 BC, Gou Jian personally led troops to attack Wu for the second time. At this time, the State of Wu was already a spent force, and could not resist the army of the State of Yue at all, and suffered repeated defeats. Finally, Fu Cha sent someone to make peace with Gou Jian, and Fan Li insisted on destroying Wu. Fu Cha saw that peace could not be achieved and regretted not listening to Wu Zixu's advice. He was so ashamed that he drew his sword and committed suicide.

Yilin story

Don't make excuses for yourself and give up your efforts.

There was a man who experienced two tragic accidents in his life.

The first misfortune happened when he was 46 years old. An airplane accident burned more than 65% of his skin. In the 16 operation, his face was turned into a colorful plate by skin grafting. Fingers are gone, legs are too small to move, so I can only collapse in a wheelchair.

Who would have thought that six months later, he personally flew the plane into the blue sky!

Four years later, fate brought him misfortune again. The plane he was flying suddenly fell back to the runway when taking off, and all his 12 vertebrae were crushed to pieces, and he was paralyzed forever from the waist down.

But he did not regard these disasters as the cause of his depression. He said, "Before I was paralyzed, I could do 1000 things. Now I can only do 9000 things, and I can still focus my attention and eyes on 9000 things I can do. I have experienced two major setbacks in my life, so I can only choose not to use setbacks as an excuse to give up my efforts. "

The strong man in life is Mitchell. It is precisely because he never gave up his efforts that he eventually became a millionaire, an orator, an entrepreneur and gained a place in politics.

Farmer's donkey

One day, a farmer's donkey accidentally fell into a dry well. The farmer racked his brains to find a way to save the donkey, but several hours later, the donkey was still whining in the well. Finally, the farmer decided to give up. He thinks the donkey is too old to save it, but the well must be filled in anyway. So the farmer invited his neighbor to help him bury the donkey in the well to avoid its pain.

The farmer's neighbor, with a shovel in his hand, began to shovel dirt into the dry well. When the donkey felt his situation, it began to cry sadly. But surprisingly, the donkey was quiet for a while. The farmer looked curiously at the bottom of the well. He was stunned by what he saw: when the dirt shoveled into the well fell on the donkey's back, the donkey's reaction was amazing: it shook off the dirt and stood on the shoveled pile! In this way, the donkey shook off all the dirt that everyone shoveled on it at the bottom of the well and stood up. Soon, the donkey proudly rose to the wellhead, and then ran away with everyone's surprised expression!

Just like a donkey, in the journey of life, sometimes we will inevitably fall into a "dry well" and all kinds of "silt" will be dumped on us. The secret to escape from these "dry wells" is to shake off the "sand" and then stand on it!

In fact, all kinds of difficulties and setbacks we encounter in life are "silt" imposed on us; However, from another perspective, they are also stepping stones. As long as we shake them off persistently and then stand up, even if we fall into the deepest well, we can escape safely.

Don't let setbacks get in the way of life.

A girl was fired by her boss for no reason. At noon, she sat on a bench next to the unit fountain, feeling dejected. She felt that her life had lost its color and become dull. At this time, she found a little boy standing not far behind her smirking, so she curiously asked what the little boy was laughing at. "The back of this bench was painted this morning. I want to see what your back looks like when you stand up. " The little boy spoke with a smug expression on his face.

The girl paused and suddenly thought: Aren't those mean colleagues hiding behind me like this little guy to spy on my failure and depression? I will never let their intentions succeed, and I will never lose my ambition and dignity!

The girl thought for a moment, pointed to the front and said to the little boy, Look, there are many people flying kites there. By the time the little boy realized that he had been cheated and turned his face angrily, the girl had taken off her coat and held it in her hand. The goose yellow sweater she wears makes her look young and beautiful. The little boy shook his hand, pouted and left in disappointment.

Frustrations in life can be seen everywhere, just like those wet painted chairs inadvertently make you miserable. However, if you have already taken it, don't be depressed. Face it with the mentality of "coming suddenly is not unexpected, coming unreasonably is not angry". Take off your fragile coat and you will find that a new life has just begun!

Setbacks can make you see the future more clearly.

Everyone in life doesn't like setbacks, but setbacks are meaningful, because setbacks will make you see more clearly and make you understand that this road is impassable, and you must find other more effective ways to succeed.

There was a young man who happened to meet a professor on his way to college. The old professor asked about the recent situation of young people with concern. After being asked by his former teacher, the young man told the old professor all the difficulties he had encountered since he left school and entered the company where he is working, just like a long drought.

The old professor listened patiently to the young people's complaints and finally waited until the young people came to an end. The old professor nodded and said, "It seems that your situation is not very ideal; However, the important thing is, have people ever thought about changing this situation and making themselves better? " The young man quickly replied, "of course I have thought about it!" " Professor, what's the trick? "The old professor smiled mysteriously:" There is a trick. If you are free tomorrow night, come to this address to find me! " After that, the old professor handed the young man a business card.

The next night, the young man came to the old professor's residence, which was a simple bungalow in the suburbs. When the old professor saw the young man, he happily put two cool chairs in the room and asked the young man to sit down and chat with him and look at the stars. The old professor talked with the young man for a long time, and the young man became impatient and longed for the old professor to tell him how to make himself better. The old professor smiled and pointed to the stars in the sky: "Can you count clearly? How many stars are there in the sky? " The young man scratched his head: "Of course I can't count. What does this have to do with me? "

The old professor looked at the young man and said seriously: son, the farthest thing we can see during the day is the sun; But at night, we can see stars hundreds of millions of times away from the sun, and there are more than one, and the number is countless. "

The old professor continued: "I know your situation is not smooth, but if you are young, you will be smooth sailing and you will only see one sun in your life;" The point is, when your life goes into darkness, do you see stars farther and farther away? "

Darkness is like a setback in life, which will make a strong person more mature, enrich life experience and teach life a lot of philosophy of life and struggle.

Therefore, everyone who has suffered setbacks and failures should be kind to setbacks, because only setbacks will make you see farther and clearer.

Frustration is the best gift in life.

A soldier had just left the army, had only a high school education, and had no skills, so he had to work as a delivery man in a printing factory. One day, the young man sent a car with forty or fifty bundles of books to the seventh floor office of a university. When he walked to the elevator with two or three bundles of books for the first time, a guard in his fifties came over and said, "This elevator is for professors and teachers. No one else is allowed to take it. You must take the stairs. "

The young man explained to the doorman, "I'm not a student, but I want to send a car load of books to the office on the seventh floor." This is the book ordered by your school! " "

But the guard said with a straight face, "No isno.". You are neither a professor nor a teacher. You are not allowed to take the elevator. "

They quarreled at the elevator for a long time, but the guard still refused to let them go. The young man thought, if you want to move all the books from this car, you have to walk back and forth at least 20 times, which will be exhausting. Later, young people couldn't stand unreasonable difficulties. He crossed his heart, moved forty or fifty bundles of books to the corner of the hall and left in despair. Later, the young man explained what happened to the owner of the printing factory and got an understanding, but he also resigned from the boss and immediately went to the bookstore to buy a set of high school textbooks and reference books. Swear with tears that I will work hard and be admitted to the university. I will never let others look down on me again. In the first half of the college entrance examination, the young man studied 14 hours behind closed doors every day, because he knew that his time was running out and there was no way out! Whenever he slacks off, he will cheer up and work harder when he thinks of the humiliating and discriminatory scene of "the guards forbid him to take the elevator". Later, the young man was finally admitted to the medical school of a university. Now, more than twenty years have passed, and he has become a medical expert in a famous hospital.

However, he thought, if it was not "unreasonable and discriminated by the guards" at that time, how could he dry his humiliating tears and stand up bravely? And isn't the security guard he hates also the benefactor of his life?

Money will be spent, status will change, and friends will leave us one day, but developing a good habit of dealing with "setbacks and failures" when you are young is the best gift for your life, and no one can take it away.

Indeed, everyone is frustrated sometimes. However, I believe that "frustration and failure are the best gifts in life". Only when people encounter setbacks, are made difficult by others, discriminated against and laughed at can they "wake themselves up" and wake themselves up with "blows". Isn't this the most precious gift in life?

Every setback, every pain and every failure in life has its own meaning.

thief

Before he became famous, there was a young painter who lived in a narrow little house and made a living by painting portraits. One day, a rich man passed by and saw his meticulous painter. He likes it very much and asks him to draw a portrait for him. Both parties agreed to reward 1 10,000 yuan.

A week later, after the portrait was finished, the rich man came to pick up the painting as promised. At this time, the rich man had evil thoughts in his heart, deceiving him that he was young and not famous, and refused to pay according to the original agreement. The rich man thought, "The portrait in the painting is me. If I don't buy this painting, no one will. Why should I spend so much money on it? "

So the rich man acquiesced and said that he only spent 3000 yuan on this painting. The young painter froze. He has never encountered such a thing, and he is a little flustered. He spent a lot of time arguing with the rich, hoping that the rich could keep the agreement and be a trustworthy person. "I can only spend 3000 yuan on this painting, so stop nagging." The rich man thought he had the upper hand, and finally I asked you, "Do you want 3000 yuan?"

The young painter was very angry when he learned that the rich man deliberately defaulted on his debts. He said firmly, "Not for sale. I would rather not sell this painting than be insulted by you. If you break your word today, you will have to pay twenty times the price in the future. " "Joke, twenty times, is two hundred thousand! I'm not stupid enough to spend 0.2 million/200 thousand on this painting. " "Well, we'll wait and see." The young painter said to the rich man who left angrily.

Stimulated by this incident, the painter stayed away from this sad place and resumed his apprenticeship, practicing hard day and night. God helps those who help him. After more than ten years, he finally broke into a world and became a famous figure in the art world. What about the rich man? After leaving the studio, I forgot the painter's paintings and words the next day.

Until one day, several friends of the rich man came to tell him in unison: "Good friends! One thing is so strange! These days, we went to visit an exhibition of a famous artist. One of the paintings is a figure exactly like you, and the price is 200,000. The funny thing is that the title of this painting turned out to be-"Thief". "

It seems that someone hit him on the head, and the rich man remembered what happened to the painter more than ten years ago. This incident hurt him so much that he immediately rushed to the young painter overnight to apologize to him and spent 200 thousand to buy back the portrait. Youth's indomitable ambition makes the rich bow their heads.

This gives us an inspiration: people should live up to expectations, don't be discouraged, take setbacks as a ladder, work hard, and finally realize their ideals and fulfill their wishes. Can you believe it? No one can insult and defeat you except yourself.

Turn setbacks into wealth in life

There is a well-known group boss. Before the age of 40, he was down and out, and his family was surrounded. No one respects him, including his wife. But he went into the sea alone, starting from a small business, and in just ten years, he expanded a manual workshop into a private enterprise with assets of hundreds of millions. A reporter interviewed him: "If you were born in a city, received a good education and had a stable living environment, your achievements will be even greater now." He was silent for a while and said, "Maybe. But I believe that if I didn't live in the countryside and didn't suffer so much, but like other urban people, I would live in peace of mind and never open my own family workshop. In this sense, I want to thank life. "

Pain does not mean eternal pain, and happiness does not mean eternal happiness. People's best work is often done in adversity, and mental pressure and even physical pain may become spiritual stimulants. The United States once conducted a sample survey of 1000 rich people, and found that most of them were born in ordinary families, and even some of them spent their youth in black areas. Sometimes life is really like magic, which can produce incredible results.

Suffering is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you don't realize that suffering itself contains endless opportunities. If you think this is a subtraction problem, then you already know the answer. This problem will subtract everything from you, including your life. If you think it is an addition problem, then the result of calculation may be infinite. Suffering is a fortune.

Application and innovation

The more setbacks, the better.

Frustration education is a very popular educational method in recent years. It can be said that this is a qualitative leap in the education system. In order to cultivate children's strong psychological character, many people begin to try frustration education. Unfortunately, most people only pursue the lively external form when implementing it, ignoring the fundamental elements of talent training and the negative effects that this educational method may lead to, which makes frustration education go into a misunderstanding.

Psychologists tell us that the ability to withstand setbacks is mainly cultivated in a state of insufficient preparation. Changes in the learning environment, family changes, betrayal of friends, setbacks in study or career … often come unconsciously. Only by enduring such setbacks can we say that we have successfully experienced frustration education. Therefore, frustration education should be carried out by teachers in daily life.

In frustration education, there is also a specious saying: "Let children receive frustration education in constant setbacks." It seems that the more setbacks children experience, the better. In fact, this is also a misunderstanding. Psychologists define frustration as: "frustration is a negative emotional state in which one's needs are not met due to obstacles and interference when engaged in purposeful activities." Since frustration is a negative emotional state, it is a basic psychological common sense that the more the better. Too many setbacks will make children lose self-confidence and become very inferior and weak. Therefore, frustration education should not exceed the necessary limit in quantity and quality.

Turn setbacks into games

On a sunny day, many children are playing happily in the sunshine park. One of them tripped over something, suddenly fell down and began to cry. At this time, a little girl ran over at once. Others thought that the little girl would reach out and pull the fallen girl up or comfort and encourage her to stand up. But I didn't expect that the little girl deliberately fell down next to the crying little girl and kept laughing while watching the little girl. The tearful little girl saw this scene and found it ridiculous, so she broke into tears and smiled. They are very happy when they roll together.

The game itself is a kind of excitement and joy gained by constantly overcoming setbacks and failures. If there are no setbacks and failures, even the best games will be unremarkable. If people use such a positive game mentality in their lives, they will not be so heavy and depressed in the face of failures and setbacks.