Parents want their children to grow up and be independent, but they give them more love, so their children become unruly and rude, and even go further and further in the direction their parents expect. At this time, I often hear a word, that is, "other people's children." Other children study well, other children get good grades, and other children are excellent in all aspects. But parents want their children to do this, and they need their children to be clear-headed. The premise of a clear mind is to know how to listen, understand clearly, understand the meaning expressed by others, and understand the language meaning of others to grasp the key points, which is conducive to the growth of children.
Simply put, listening means listening and understanding.
What is listening ability? Listening refers to the listener's ability to translate the information expressed in the speaker's spoken language into the meaning in his mind. Listening is easier said than done, because listening requires careful listening, which is more profound than usual. It requires you to listen, listen accurately, understand accurately, respond to what you hear, appreciate, understand and distinguish.
First, listening has an impact on behavior.
The most intuitive influence of listening is the child's behavior expression. A child with poor hearing can't cooperate with each other better in behavior. For example, in kindergarten, teachers will ask children to put down their belongings, wash their hands and then come back for dinner. Some children will do it right away. Some children don't know what to do. If you ask the child, do you hear? The child will hear it again. But I heard you. Why not carry it out? At this time, the child's understanding ability may be problematic. Therefore, the most intuitive influence of listening is the child's behavior, which will turn a deaf ear to the teacher's words and develop bad behavior habits, always dragging its feet.
Second, poor hearing may affect children's socialization.
Children who are good at listening can establish their own image and be more polite in the crowd. Be able to understand others' expression intentions more clearly, distinguish between good and bad, and plan and understand through your own ideas. This will be of great help to children's socialization, and it can also help children to establish good social habits.
Third, good listening helps children's learning ability.
Children who are good at listening can better find the focus of learning and concentrate on their learning ability. Children with poor hearing can't use hearing and vision together, and there will always be some deviations. Can lead to inattention. For children, hand-eye disharmony is more likely to occur. For students, inattention in class will lead to relatively poor grades. Even with the growth of age, if the hearing is poor in society, it is not so perfect in work, so good listening can improve the overall efficiency. Such children can't be bad at school.
Fourth, children with good hearing are more active in thinking.
Children who don't necessarily like to express themselves have strong thinking ability. Many children have a good hearing, and can find the frame to be listed from the intention expressed by the other party, and can find a fixed thinking mode. So such children tend to have more divergent ideas.
Fifth, listening ability can promote children's language ability.
Especially for children before the age of six, it is extremely important to form a good habit of listening to others, not interrupting and not answering words. This can help children learn other people's language thinking through good listening and constantly improve their language ability. Listening carefully to others can also broaden their information width and master more knowledge, so that children can improve themselves through continuous learning experience.
Listening is very important for children's growth, not only to understand other people's intentions, but also to help children grow up.
First, learn to listen through training.
Parents want to improve their children's listening ability, which can be achieved through some usual training. For example, let children perform some simple tasks to practice. Let the children do some independent little things by themselves. Parents tell their children some simple passwords, let them listen and execute them slowly. Parents can make things more difficult when children can understand their parents' passwords and execute them in the right way. Let children achieve their goals through thinking. This not only exercises children's hearing, but also scatters children's thinking. When children do well, parents should give them appropriate encouragement to make them feel that listening is an easy thing to insist on, and this interaction can also increase the relationship between parents and children.
Second, improve listening through the practice of concentration.
Many children can't sit on the bench and have poor attention. So when they are obedient, they are always distracted by other things and can practice their concentration. As long as the concentration is improved, it will also help children's listening. In the process of training, try to let the children have less complicated things around them, so that it is not easy to distract the children and gradually develop certain good habits.
Third, develop good living habits.
Parents should teach their children not to interrupt others' speech, which is the most basic courtesy. Therefore, listening, as a good habit in life, should be taught as soon as possible, listen carefully to others' speeches, don't disturb others' speeches halfway, and don't rush to express your thoughts. When the other person knows what he is talking about and understands the other person's expression intention, parents should give appropriate encouragement and recognize the child's expression. This can also make it easier for children to affirm themselves and combine listening and thinking. In this exercise, not only children's listening, but also children's thinking can be distracted.
Fourth, parents should set an example.
Parents should first learn to respect their children in life. Parents should not neglect to listen when children ask. The expression of children is always vague, which will also blind the growth of children. Parents should first learn to be a good listener, and then let their children do it slowly, which will be much easier. Words and deeds are not as good as teaching by example. We should learn to respect children, let children learn to respect their parents and practice listening.
I want to cultivate children's independent thinking ability and learn to cultivate children's listening. It is much more useful for children to learn to be independent than for parents to worry about it every day.