The pre-adulthood of college students' emotional characteristics refers to the individual development period from 18 to 35 years old. Where does the individual development come from? Big winds and waves? In the early youth, it gradually moves towards a relatively calm and mature development period. And college students are at the forefront of early adulthood. In the early adulthood, individuals are faced with new development tasks, including further education, employment, mate selection, family and so on. Eriksson believes that the task of individuals in this period is to gain intimacy, avoid loneliness and experience the realization of love. Therefore, in the face of so many important development tasks, the psychological quality of college students begins to be severely challenged, and they will experience various complicated emotional experiences. Therefore, the mood of college students shows its distinctive characteristics, mainly in the following aspects:
1. The richness of college students' emotional experience
The richness of college life has expanded the objects of college students' emotional activities and produced many unprecedented emotional experiences.
Entering the university, the environment of study and life has changed greatly, and the emotional experience is no longer limited to the previous academic achievements and family, but has expanded to a broader world. Interpersonal relationship, social practice, hobbies, concern for the country and society, yearning and pursuit of love and many other aspects have opened up a new world for college students' emotional experience.
2. The volatility and polarity of college students' emotions.
Compared with middle school students, college students' emotional excitability is still high, sometimes they are too excited and their emotions are easy to fluctuate. Explain that you will be happy and excited because of temporary success, but also depressed because of a little setback, showing fluctuations between emotional poles; Sometimes there may be inexplicable emotional alternation. College students are more sensitive than adults. A kind word, a touching story, a touching song, and a poem with a blend of reason and reason can all cause a sudden change in the mood of youth. A survey shows that 70% of college students' emotions are often bipolar.
3. The mood of college students.
With the development of college students' cognitive thinking, their emotions are not mainly controlled by the external environment like middle school students, and they are easy to be in a state of mind. Once their emotions are activated, even if the stimulation disappears, they will still analyze and think, thus transforming the state of passion into a state of mind. This situation is twofold. After positive passion is transformed into a state of mind, students can maintain an optimistic mood and become the driving force for continuous progress. However, the mania and anger caused by some negative events may turn into a depressed, long-term state of mind without enthusiasm and happiness. If this kind of bad mood lasts too long, it is very easy to have psychological problems, and even affect study, work and physical health. Many psychological problems of college students are caused by long-term bad mood.
4. The emotion of college students is decorative.
Because of their strong self-esteem, college students pay more attention to the adaptability of their emotions in a specific environment. When the environment is not suitable, avoid direct emotional expression, but hide your true inner experience through decoration and express your emotions in the way you think fit. In this way, you can maintain your good image in the eyes of others.
5. The stages and levels of college students' emotions.
In the university stage, due to the different training objectives and priorities of different grades, the education methods and curriculum settings are also different. Therefore, students in different grades face different tasks and emotional experiences. Just entering the university, new environment, new goals, new lifestyle, new classmates, new teachers, have different emotional experiences for different individuals. At this stage, the mood fluctuates greatly. Sophomore and junior, with the fading of the novelty of entering school, rethinking about academic, emotional and future life will also bring rich emotional experience to college students. The mood is relatively stable at this stage. Graduation season, due to entering a higher school, choosing a job, leaving a job, a sense of accomplishment and pressure are mixed together, and the mood is ups and downs. In addition, the emotional control and management abilities of different individuals are quite different.
How to cultivate positive emotions? Positive emotions are like fresh air, which makes people feel relaxed and energetic. Negative emotions hang over our hearts like dark clouds. Although negative emotions also have the function of social adaptation to some extent, positive emotions can make us feel happy, expand our thinking and resist negative emotions, which is more conducive to our physical and mental health. Therefore, for college students, cultivating positive emotions and improving emotional management ability are necessary preparations for the road to happiness. Positive emotions mainly include joy, gratitude, pride, tranquility, interest, hope, admiration, love and other forms. Positive emotions need to be cultivated as well as cultivated. The following suggestions can help you improve your positive mood.
1. Learn to be tolerant
? Gold is not enough, and no one is perfect? Everyone makes mistakes, and college students should learn to treat their own and others' shortcomings and shortcomings correctly. When someone accidentally offends you, you just complain and blame, right? Punish yourself with other people's mistakes? . Giving others the opportunity to make mistakes is an aspect of reflecting the maturity of college students' psychological quality.
2. Humor and smile
Humor is a kind of wisdom, and humorous people in life will always bring joy to themselves and the people around them. Humor is the spice of life, which enables us to discover the beauty of life all the time. On the contrary, rigid and closed people often fail to find that happiness is actually around. When negative emotions arise, an appropriate humorous discourse can eliminate anxiety, stabilize emotions, help us get rid of embarrassment and predicament, and enhance self-confidence. Therefore, in college life, you can consciously increase your humor. For example, watch more jokes and share them with classmates. In the face of some special situations, humor can be used tactfully to increase the atmosphere or resolve the embarrassment. A sincere smile can narrow the distance between people, convey a kind of friendship and trust, enhance mutual communication and experience a colorful world from communication.
3. Establish and maintain a strong friendship
Friendship during college is a precious friendship and a manifestation of human attachment. College students are a special group. When they are far away from their parents, friends are an important source of emotional support or material help. The complexity and diversity of college life will bring us different experiences. Sharing our feelings with friends, whether happy or sad, will bring us spiritual comfort to some extent. Establishing a solid emotional connection with friends largely satisfies people's sense of belonging, so college students are more likely to feel happy and satisfied.
4. Insist on physical exercise
Physical exercise can bring positive emotional state. Promote the health and function of human cardiovascular system and greatly improve human immunity. Regular exercise can reduce the incidence of heart disease or some cancers and make people live longer. Long-term exercise can reduce anxiety and depression of college students and improve learning efficiency. Therefore, keeping healthy and exercising regularly are the basic ways for college students to cultivate positive emotions.
5. Close contact with nature
When college students are busy with their studies, it is a good way to set aside time for themselves to enjoy nature in a planned way. Immersed in nature, the charm of nature will involuntarily attract people's attention and let their impetuous and anxious hearts slowly calm down. Warm sunshine and beautiful scenery often bring us positive emotional experience.
6. Reasonable exhaust
Taiwan Province writer Roland wrote in Roland's small language:? Emotional fluctuations can play a positive role for some people. That's because they will vent at the right time, and they will also control it at the right time, so as not to let them flood and drown others, nor to let them jam and let themselves collapse. ? The venting of emotions, especially the venting of bad emotions, is very important. From the point of view of mental health, excessively suppressing one's emotions will only aggravate emotional distress, which is not conducive to physical and mental health; Proper catharsis can release unpleasant emotions, relax and relieve tense emotions, and thus achieve a good emotional state. There are many ways to vent. You can release your depressed mood by exercising, shouting, crying and keeping a diary.
7. Be helpful
Helping others is a great source of human happiness. As the saying goes? Help others help yourself? If you have the courage to reach out your hand when others need it and try your best to help others, the gratitude of others will bring you great happiness and happiness. Moreover, when you are in trouble, you will also get the care and help of others. This kind of friendship and reciprocity can easily make people feel happy. On the contrary, if you have a cold relationship with others and are often despised or neglected by others, you will feel depressed. Therefore, in order to maintain a good emotional state, it is necessary to express goodwill in time, communicate sincerely with others, and actively extend a hand of friendship to help others. Naturally, with more friends and less barriers, your mood will become more and more sunny. In short, there are many ways to cultivate positive emotions. Besides the above, you can also experience positive emotions and happiness by doing things you are interested in, listening to beautiful music, learning to be grateful and cherish, and so on.
Chicken soup for the soul 1. Don't be a slave to your emotions at any time. Don't let all actions be subject to your emotions, but control your emotions in turn. No matter how bad the situation is, you should try to control your environment and save yourself from the darkness.
A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can win an ideal city.
3. Remember what should be remembered and forget what should be forgotten. Change what can be changed and accept what cannot be changed.
Apart from tears, time is the only thing that can wash away everything. The longer it takes, the lighter the conflict, just like undiluted tea.
If the enemy makes you angry, it means that you are not sure to win him.
I don't know if what I'm doing now is right or wrong, but I don't know until I die of old age. So what I can do now is to try my best to do everything well and then wait to die of old age.
7. Maybe some people are hateful and some people are mean. And when I put myself in his imagination, I realized that he was more pitiful than me. So please forgive all the people you have met, good and bad.
The fish said to the water, you can't see my tears because I am in the water. Water says I can feel your tears because you are in my heart.
9. Happiness must be accompanied by sadness, and the rain will clear up. If rain remains after rain and sorrow remains after sorrow, please let us face this parting frankly. Smile to find an impossible you!
10. Life is only a few decades. Don't leave any regrets for yourself. Smile happily. You can cry if you want. Love when it is time to love. There is no point in suppressing yourself.