How can I educate my daughter if she doesn't obey the letter she wrote to her daughter? It is normal for children to have friction during their growth, but parents should also solve the problem in time. If it keeps accumulating, it will be harmful to each other's feelings. Let's take a look at how to educate our daughter about the letter she wrote to her daughter when she was disobedient.

How can a daughter be educated if she doesn't obey? 1 Dear daughter, when you grow up, you have a rich inner world, and you like to move in your own world. In the eyes of parents, you seem to have become a lot silent, and you are no longer the little girl who used to laugh and act like a spoiled brat. Dad may not be the object of your worship as before, nor the listener of your views and opinions on what you have seen and heard. We seem to be strangers. Don't you think this is the so-called generation gap?

But this is only a superficial phenomenon. In the eyes of parents, you are still the well-behaved good daughter, the studious and enterprising good daughter, the filial and obedient good daughter, and the daughter whose parents have high hopes for you, although parents are much stricter with you. But as the saying goes, the depth of love is the depth of hatred.

Yes, we are really strict with you, because when you grow up, you will go abroad to study alone next year, in a strange environment and a strange place. In this special period when you are not mature physically and psychologically, it is unrealistic for us parents to have no worries. So sometimes it is inevitable that you can't control your emotions and show excessive actions. Maybe doing so will have a great conflict with your ideas and make you a little inaccessible or even unruly.

I think your father and I are also responsible for this. Maybe there are still many shortcomings in our methods. Your generation, that is, the generation born after 1990, is more flexible in thinking about new things than our generation, and although parents also live in today's highly competitive social environment, they may not be able to understand and support some of your life ideas and behaviors.

However, mom still has many questions to discuss with you. I hope this is the beginning of our mother-daughter relationship. We all need to open our hearts. You know, you will always be mom's sweet little cotton-padded jacket. Is the closest person to my parents in this world.

Let's talk about the communication between us first. It is essential for harmonious families to communicate with each other. This should be our biggest problem. Once this problem is solved, I think all the problems are solved. It seems that your father and I should review ourselves first. Sometimes we really have a bad temper and lack patience when encountering problems. Sometimes we have a lot of nagging and even loudly blame you, and words are inevitable. But this problem must be treated in two ways. Why? Think about how many times you ignored our opinions and suggestions and went your own way; How many times have you been perfunctory about our communication without giving a positive answer? How many times have you kept silent about our questions? Although you are introverted, you can't come to this, can you?

Why do you have a good impression in the eyes of your classmates? You also said that many classmates like to tell you the truth, and you can open their hearts and make them laugh in a few words. You admit it yourself-you are rebellious and even know that you are wrong, but why don't you correct it? To tell the truth, because of this, your mother and I try to keep a peaceful mind, try not to lose our temper with you or lose our temper less, and try not to force you to ask too many questions. Sometimes, in order to achieve a good conversation atmosphere with you, parents will rehearse the topic of conversation with you in advance to avoid being in an embarrassing situation, but the effect is always unsatisfactory.

I have never understood why you are so impatient with us. For us, the biggest problem is mutual silence. The more so, the more communication obstacles, the more difficult it is. Sometimes we put forward our own opinions now. If you always ignore them, the conversation will become silent.

Dear daughter, you can think about it. As long as you clarify the problem, your mother and I will only give you opinions and suggestions. How many times have we scolded you? You used to be so considerate that you knew to take care of your sick mother at an early age; Seeing my mother unhappy, I will still care about asking this and that; . But now facing so many helpless expressions of parents, how can you become indifferent now? What makes you so indifferent? Parents are considerate to you at ordinary times, whether in daily life or in good health.

Sometimes what you say unintentionally will hurt the two people who love you the most in the world. Maybe you haven't noticed, because in your heart, family is a place where you can freely talk about your feelings in front of your parents without any disguise. However, you forget that parents are human beings, and they also have their own emotional world and life pressure. You and I both know that what people need is mutual understanding. It's not that we don't allow you to have your own little secrets, but we can always discuss something with each other. Including their future plans, goals and plans to go abroad.

We also know that you have been working hard these days. You have to deal with the homework assigned by the school and take the TOEFL. You are tired and your parents are trying their best to help you. However, there are some things that your parents can't bear for you. Since we have chosen this road, we can only work hard now. We believe that with your strength, you can completely realize your dream.

Your mother and I are not too strict about your academic performance. But you know best where you should be. You always say you know what you are doing. Are you too confident or are we asking too much of you? Do you feel it? It turns out that no matter what homework we finish ahead of time, we can put it off now. Those who can watch TV for a while watch TV first, and those who can surf the Internet first. Can you understand our anxiety?

Of course, you are still a child, and it is your nature to love to play, but we are not so strict as not to let you watch TV or surf the Internet. The key is to know what to do first and then what to do! Your Chinese and English are very good, and there is still much room for improvement in math and physics. My parents have discussed with you over and over about going abroad. Going abroad is not for the sake of so-called face, not to avoid the national college entrance examination, but to have better development space and an environment more suitable for one's own development under the advanced foreign teaching system. But what do you think, what do you think, and how do you behave after silence? We also know that you are a strong child, and you want to try your best to finish the TOEFL test without delaying your studies, so that you can understand the teacher's teaching skillfully when you go abroad. However, people's energy is limited after all. It's really difficult to persist in studying nine courses and strengthen TOEFL oral English and so many words. My parents are also in pain. For this matter, my mother also specially communicated with the teacher. So, daughter, you are not fighting alone.

Come on! Dear daughter, you can, you can! Now talk about your habits. The habits that a person develops from childhood will determine the fate and future of his life. Good habits are half the battle. There is such a short story that a reporter once interviewed a scholar and asked him what made him achieve such high achievements. He replied that it was the habit I developed in kindergarten that taught me to study, think, ask questions and do things (including eating, dressing and sorting). ), let me benefit for life.

It can be seen how important it is to cultivate a person's good habits. In retrospect, I always dawdle when I get up in the morning, and I worry about us if I shout too much. You know, every day mom gets up early to make snacks for you, and she has already prepared snacks when she calls you. In order to let you sleep for one more minute, your father went downstairs to warm up the engine in advance so as to send you to school in time. The study is a mess all day, and the bed is a mess all day. You took the initiative to clean up a few times, and there was the problem of blind worship. I've analyzed it for you many times. What is the key to worship them?

Who should you worship now? What have you learned from others? But you carved the names of those movie stars and singers on the table and on the wall. In addition, a person's normal communication with friends and classmates is very beneficial to his future development, especially if you have a good attitude and can make your classmates have a good impression on you, which is really hard to come by. But many things are hard won and easy to lose, so we should think carefully from many angles and weigh the pros and cons. Is it necessary or not? Be careful! Dear daughter, let's talk about gratitude again.

It is the responsibility and obligation of your father and me to raise you, but if you turn a blind eye to what we have done, you should understand our feelings. In order to make you eat more, ensure your health and ensure that you have enough energy to cope with your studies calmly, my mother always cooks more beautiful meals in different ways. Think about it carefully, will you improve your life every few days? Do I prepare jiaozi and other breakfasts for you before every exam? Will you adjust your diet again whenever you lose your appetite?

When my daughter is older, she likes to wear better clothes, and even her shoes are very picky. What should we do? But what about you? You just throw your clothes on the bed. Am I right? Every time I ask you to eat, I hope you can take the initiative to help clean up the dishes and chopsticks; Even if you can manage your own affairs in order, we are happy! Of course, there must be gratitude in this. We don't need it, but you will leave your parents one day. At that time, you can't do anything, how can we rest assured? Dear daughter, I don't ask for your gratitude, I just want to tell you the most basic truth of being a man.

Dear daughter, I have said enough. Maybe the language is a little extreme, but it's all true. Please compare yourself carefully, combine these habits, relax and calmly think about what you should do in the future. Of course, parents will also find reasons from themselves and get rid of the habit of losing their temper in the past. If you have any ideas and opinions, you can certainly talk to us or write to me. As the saying goes, "it's good to know your mistakes and correct them." I hope you can really read some truth from this letter!

Dear daughter, you are still our good daughter. Mom and dad love you! Love you and protect you for life! More importantly, let yourself learn to be a self-loving, self-reflective, self-reliant and self-reliant boy!

xxx

Xx year xx month xx day

How to educate disobedient daughters? 2. Letter to her disobedient 16-year-old daughter

My lovely daughter:

Hello! I started writing to you. My mother has a thousand words in her heart that she wants to tell you. First of all, I want to thank you for the infinite surprises and happiness you have brought to my parents in the past few years!

Since you were born, your mother has felt a heavy responsibility. She hopes that you will become a useful person to the country and society in the future. For this goal, my mother has been working hard, and she also hopes that you should pay more attention to learning cultural knowledge from now on. As the saying goes: "A day's plan lies in the morning, and a year's plan lies in the spring." Your present age is the golden stage to learn from you, and it is also the key moment to lay the foundation for the next course. Mom is usually busy at work and can't take care of everything in your study. This requires you to consciously complete every homework assigned by the teacher and never let the teacher and mom disturb you again. Can you do that, son?

Today, Mr. Wang sent a message saying that your Chinese exam was not ideal. Have you found the reason why you didn't do well in the exam? After reading your test paper, I think your understanding of the topic is not very accurate, which requires you to study hard at ordinary times, understand the content of the text, be a "hard-working" child in your study and pay attention to review. Here, mom gives you a suggestion. My mother wants you to play moderately, not too much. Can you do it? Mom wants you to "win without arrogance and lose with grace" in your studies, and get up when you fall. Look up to the students with good grades.

Besides, you also have many advantages, for example, you are smart, lively, caring, considerate of your mother in life, and so on ... These are all gratifying to your mother, daughter, you know? You are the driving force of mom's life and the source of happiness Let's cheer for a better tomorrow!

Love your mother forever.

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How to educate a daughter if she is disobedient 3 1, a simple letter to a rebellious daughter.

Dear baby, how time flies! You've grown so big in the blink of an eye. Not the little boy who spoiled in his mother's arms anymore. Not the naughty boy who followed his father. Your mind is maturing and your knowledge is enriching. You have your own opinions, and you have your own way of doing things. You start to feel that there is a generation gap with your parents, and you start to feel that your parents are behind the times.

You will often be impatient with your parents' inquiries, don't understand their concerns and laugh at their ignorance. These parents can understand and forgive, although they will be sad, but they can't bear to blame you, because they love you, so they are willing to tolerate you. However, today, my mother still wants to say to you, please respect your parents, ok? Because they love you the most in the world.

Maybe they are uneducated and can't answer many questions. Maybe they can't keep up with the trend and don't know many new things. Maybe they can't satisfy many of your wishes materially. But their love for you is the truest, purest and most selfless.

Parents' inquiries are concerned about you, parents' worries are concerned about you, and parents' blame is expected of you. They always give you love. In order to love you, they can endure hardships, be willing to do so, sweat and sweat, and even give their lives. They don't ask you for anything in return, just ask you to become better and stronger, realize your dreams and live a happy life without regrets.

Dear baby, mother hopes that when you are impatient and want to lose your temper with your parents, when you have the idea of laughing at your parents. Please look up at the white hair in their black silk, look at their loving eyes, and feel their hearts beating with yours.

Dear baby, please remember that your parents love you the most in the world. No matter how many times you hurt them, their love for you will never be reduced by half. But please don't make them sad, because you love them too. No matter how far you go and how high you fly in the future, there will always be two people who love you the most, looking forward to you and waiting for you to go home.

The original text of a letter from my father to my rebellious daughter.

Daughter:

In my opinion, the most valuable quality of a person is to have a grateful heart. Although the hard work of parents and grandma is the obligation of elders, as a child, you should not turn a blind eye to it. People who don't have the quality of gratitude must be selfish. How can a selfish person get along with others in society in the future?

what do you think? Do you have the quality of gratitude?

During this time, some of your rebellious behaviors have made us feel cold in the hot summer, and we have an unspeakable pain in our hearts. May I ask you some questions here?

1, who really loves you in the world? Are your parents or your desperate "circle of friends" deeply in love with you?

2. Is it necessary to be so persistent in making friends now? What can you gain from it and what will you lose?

You don't know where you learned rebellion now. In your opinion, you may still have a feeling of "victory", but have you thought about it? What can you get by doing this? What have you lost? Are you worthy of your parents? Do you have a grateful heart?

Daughter, I want to discuss the second question with you. Do you remember the report we heard last time about the number one scholar? Haven't you always admired Zhou Zhiyue, a fragile little girl in Zhejiang? "Since you have chosen a distant place, you can only leave the world with a back!" Yes, a person's energy is always limited and it is a fixed value. Since you have also chosen a distant place, you can only leave the world with a back, a back that transcends everything and is almost lonely! The noise of making friends and the frolicking between classmates, how to realize one's ideal?

Besides, are all your friends stereotypes now? Think about your father and that uncle in Beijing. They were so close when they were studying, like brothers. But today, he works in Beijing, and your father is just a teacher. This gap makes the former brothers look like passers-by! Two years later, the college entrance examination will spread you all over the world, and your level and status will be very different overnight. For example, if you can be admitted to Peking University or Beijing Foreign Studies University, you will have higher-level friends from Peking University. At that time, will you still treat these people as treasures? So, today, when time is more precious than gold, do you think this kind of communication is a waste?

For the third question, I have no intention of saying anything about treason. Let's make a comparison.

Your parents spend more effort on you than others, don't they?

Your parents communicate more with teachers than others, don't they?

Your parents have created a better learning environment for you than others, haven't they?

Your parents show you the world more than others, don't they?

………

Although in our opinion, rebellion is right, but you can't underestimate it, because we can choose "selfish" and "mediocre" just like other people's parents, but for your ideal and future, we often remind ourselves in our hearts that we must not be mediocre and be the best parents! In fact, when you are "rebellious", our hearts are bleeding, and sometimes we really want to drop all the blood on our bodies, so that our hearts will not hurt; Sometimes I think, maybe this is a discordant episode in the process of young people's growth. If so, let's pray for God's blessing to make our daughter's rebellious period shorter and faster. We would rather trade our lives for all this, because our daughter wants to go to Peking University, join the party, and. ...

Daughter, I really hope that you can wrap up your life in the first year of high school, whether it is success or failure, put it down and seal it! I really hope that the second year of high school can reproduce your glory. Actually, it can be done completely. I think you are top-notch in politics, history and geography. Your Chinese and English are the dominant subjects. You should consolidate them well and don't let others surpass you. Your math foundation is good. You should do more questions and don't answer correctly. "Problem is the core of mathematics, and thinking is the only way to solve it."

Daughter, the life of senior two is about to begin. You have a good foundation. Do not hesitate. Mom and dad will always support you and will always be your strong backing. Years or decades later, when your friends change one after another, the only constant is our eternal love for you! Therefore, today, in the most important two years of your life, you must plan from a high starting point, study with high quality and have a goal in mind. In these two years, bite the bullet and make up your mind to focus on this goal, no matter how difficult it is! What's your goal, son? Have you ever thought about what your parents can do to help you? Only study is your important thing, and you must work hard to achieve it. As parents, we can only provide you with material help and spiritual encouragement. In these two crucial years, we should be the best parents so that you won't feel lonely on the way to study hard! We should pay attention to you with silent blessings. When you look back, you will find the love of your parents behind you.

Dear daughter, I hope you can adjust your rebellious attitude and work hard in the most critical two years of your life. We look forward to your success!

You will succeed too!