First, we must pay attention to the occasion when criticizing children. Don't criticize children in public or in public, and don't criticize children in front of relatives, friends or children's companions. This will make children feel embarrassed, their self-esteem will be seriously frustrated, and there will be contradictions in their hearts. No matter what parents say, children won't listen. In this case, the effect of criticism is of course not obvious, and it may even have the opposite effect.
If parents want to criticize and educate their children, they should do it in private, find time to be alone or in private space, communicate with their children well, save face for their children, and don't embarrass them. This can have a good effect.
Second, pay attention to the wording. Parents criticize their children in order to make them correct their shortcomings and grow up better. The intention is good, but they must pay attention to their words and don't hurt their self-esteem. Even if you are angry, be patient and don't say extreme things. For example, words like "You are hopeless", "How can you be so stupid" and "How can you not compare with one person" do great harm to children.
Originally, I wanted my children to correct their shortcomings. However, when this happens, it is very easy to cause children's rebellious psychology and hurt their self-esteem. In the long run, children will become less and less confident and will not achieve the ideal effect of their parents.
Third, parents who criticize their children should be objective and rational, focusing on how to promote their children to correct their shortcomings, rather than blaming them blindly. We should talk about the facts, don't dig up old scores, and explain the current things and children clearly, what we did wrong and how to improve them.
Parents should first calm down, don't get excited, don't cling to their children's mistakes, but focus on how to correct their children's shortcomings and focus on discussing this matter instead of blindly criticizing it.
Fourth, properly handle parents' criticism of children. Sometimes children are unwilling and unwilling to accept it calmly, and even have strong emotions and impulsive words. At this time, parents must calm down and take an indifferent attitude and handle it properly. Wait for the child to think calmly and calm down before communicating.
If both sides are very excited and only think from their own point of view, it is very easy to intensify contradictions, even forget what the conflict point is, and finally become just a quarrel, then of course there is no communication effect.
Parents should also pay attention to the ways and means of criticizing their children, rather than blindly accusing them. They should restrain their emotions, communicate with their children equally, objectively point out their shortcomings, look at things differently from others, pay attention to proper wording, save face for their children and not hurt their self-esteem.