The princess who ate the poisoned apple just fell asleep, and the foam turned into after the mermaid princess died will also reflect colored light. Speaking of "death", adults tend to beautify it.
Therefore, under the influence of fairy tales, news and stories around, children may really have such an idea:
"Maybe ... people go to the clouds after death and continue to live."
"People go to the clouds after death and continue to live." It seems that death in children's eyes is veiled with romance. Do you feel a little romantic when you hear such gentle and beautiful words?
Romance is not enough!
Halloween is the most typical festival related to death in the west, and children in every household have to dress up in disguise. Many children will dress up as ghosts and jump zombies, and then go door to door to ask for candy: trick or treat?
In this way, to commemorate the day of death, spent in laughter.
"The social atmosphere romanticizes and entertains death in front of children, but such behavior will not be of much help to understanding, but will make children more confused, especially those who have experienced the death of their loved ones." Pontiacs believes that the death of a veiled child will make the child feel cheated before. The abstract concept of "death means the end" is very difficult for children in junior high school and before junior high school ... children who just went to kindergarten may not feel the real power of death.
They will feel that death will never happen around them, and even if it does, people around them have the ability to bring the dead back to life.
By middle school, most children can gradually understand the irreversibility of death-no prince can kiss a dead princess. "
Perhaps, not exposing children's romantic imagination of death and supporting children's entertainment are all good protections for children.
But ah! Dear mom and dad, children urgently need to learn the "death lesson" from you, because this will be their "life lesson" for life. Parents have two common misunderstandings:
(1) Hide sadness in front of children. Although being strong is a beautiful quality, it is not the most recommended way for psychologists to comfort the child with tears in case of the death of relatives and friends around him, because sadness is normal.
If the child falls down and feels pain and doesn't get a hug from his mother in time, he will feel sad and even cry. Isn't it the most natural reaction to cry and feel sad after experiencing such a greater trauma as the death of relatives and friends?
② Avoid and change the subject. Other adults, in order to cover up their sadness, even if they are talking about death-related topics, immediately change the subject when children appear, trying to pretend that death will not happen by keeping children away from death-related topics.
In fact, this is the least feasible. Some studies have explored the relationship between children's understanding of death and their anxiety about death, and found that they are negatively correlated.
In other words, the less children understand death, the more anxious and fearful they will be about death.