First, parents have different parenting styles.
1. Too fond of children.
Scene 1: At a family gathering, Lolo's parents cooked a big table of good dishes, all of which were children's favorite dishes. Before the elders began to eat, the children began to eat regardless, and one of the dishes was particularly popular with the children, and the plate was directly brought to the front without saying anything. Parents and elders also let their children eat like this. Some children are "little emperors" and "little princesses" in the family. Parents are too fond of and indulge their children's bad behaviors, which leads to the children's bad habits of being spoiled and arrogant, resulting in a serious lack of manners and habits.
2. Parents pay more attention to grades than morality, which leads to the lack of etiquette.
Situation 2: Excellent academic performance is very good. She is good at piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and every time the teacher praises her for being great. But Lili is not happy, because she has no time to play by herself, and her parents don't even let her do housework. Every weekend. Lily envies watching children of the same age go to the park with their parents, but Lily has to take various interest classes, such as dancing, singing, playing the piano and calligraphy ... which takes up all her rest time. In the eyes of parents, Lily can't lose at the starting line. Some parents blindly pursue grades and think that grades are above everything else, but they often ignore the education of morality and etiquette, so that children can develop selfish, overbearing and unreasonable bad qualities, not to mention etiquette habits.
Parents are too busy to take care of their children, which leads to impoliteness.
Scene 3: Mao Mao is a very clever boy. He looks cute and likable. However, his performance in class is really a headache: free, willful, doing whatever he wants, never subject to any constraints. Make strange noises in class. When eating, put the leftover bones in someone else's bowl. Jump on the bed while sleeping. In the game, it is common to make trouble and hit people. Sometimes it has nothing to do with him. When he made a mistake, the teacher found that he admitted his mistake faster than anyone else and his attitude was touching.
Second, how to solve these problems?
1. Parents should set an example and master the correct concept of etiquette education.
Scene 4: Lele's mother sends her children to the kindergarten early, and the principal's mother greets each child at the door. As we approached the door, the director's mother greeted us with "good morning, baby". Lele's mother also greeted the director's mother and said "good morning", but Kororo didn't respond. Mom whispered to Lele, "Mom didn't seem to hear you say hello to the director's mother. I know Lele is a polite child. Maybe it was too quiet just now. From then on, Lele greeted others loudly every day. First of all, parents should set an example and strive to create a good growth environment for their children. Parents' behavior has the most direct and profound influence on children's growth, and has a decisive factor in the development of children's etiquette. Warm family life, freedom, equality, harmony and full of love. Living in such an environment, children will relax physically and mentally, feel safe, and easily form etiquette concepts. Secondly, use criticism with caution. Children's growth is a process of constant mistakes. So it is inevitable that children will make mistakes. As parents, we should not hurt our children's self-esteem, especially self-esteem, let alone conduct etiquette education. Parents are the first teachers of the children. Only when parents set an example can children have good manners and habits.
2. Morality first, etiquette is more important than achievement.
Scene 5: Huahua is a versatile girl. Teachers and friends like her very much. I can hear her happy laughter every day. Huahua is sometimes busy. She has to attend interest classes after class, but Huahua doesn't feel tired at all, because every week, mom and dad will take time out to play with Huahua, and mom and dad won't ask Huahua about her academic performance. In "Mom and Dad", Huahua learned to be polite and civilized, and learned to use her time reasonably. Huahua feels that she has had a full day. Parents should not treat their children as their own private goods. Children are the future of the motherland. Children belong to the society and the country. Children should sow the seeds of politeness and civilization in their hearts from an early age. Chen Heqin put forward one of the three goals of "life education": "To be a man, to be a China person and to be a modern China person". At present, some parents have many problems in moral education for their children. Many parents are concerned about: "What do children learn in kindergarten? What children's songs can you recite and what accidents can you say? What homework have you learned to do? What words have you learned? Is the child the top student in the class or something? If the teacher praises the kindergarten for being smart and taking classes seriously, the parents will smile; If the teacher reflects some problems in children's moral etiquette, parents will disdain it and even suspect that the teacher is biased against the children.
3. Spend more time with your children, and don't let busyness dilute etiquette.
Situation 6: Diandian is the only child in the family. Usually, parents are very busy in business, and only grandparents take care of her, but Diandian is still very happy and polite. Every day when mom and dad come home, Diandian will say hello loudly. Eating at the dinner table is also very polite, and sometimes I help my grandparents do some housework. Mom and dad also know that they are busy and have no time to take care of Diandian, but every night, mom and dad will take time to tell Diandian stories and accompany Diandian to sleep. So Diandian feels very happy.
Parents will bring warmth, happiness and courtesy to their children.
Parents' love should be rational, and love and strictness complement each other. Parents should not only satisfy their children materially, but more importantly, care for their young hearts, bring them respect and trust, and let etiquette and civilization enter their minds early. Let parents' education go hand in hand with children's etiquette.
In a word, as parents, we should not only learn and master the methods of scientifically educating children, but also constantly improve our quality in all aspects, so as to care for, understand and respect children and strive to improve the quality of family education etiquette. We should also educate our children on etiquette all the time in daily life, so that they can learn to be polite and have a healthy and happy childhood.