1, in the face of children's disputes, parents first reflect on themselves.

Is there a problem with your own guidance? For example, is it because children have only bought one toy? Children want to play with their father alone, but you always let them "share their father's company"?

Sometimes, children need to be alone, but you think they need to be together. Are they not satisfied?

2. Give children a chance to solve problems.

After the parents reflect, if they find that they have done nothing wrong and the children are still arguing about trifles, let the children solve the problems themselves.

If the plan put forward by children is not feasible, they can be guided to put themselves in other's shoes until a reasonable method is found.

If the child is too young to solve the problem and only cries to express his emotions, he can take the child away from the scene and then negotiate with Dabao to solve it.

3. Treat disputes between children correctly.

Parents need to be clear that disputes between children are not a bad behavior, because children are still young and lack communication skills. So don't rush to find out who is the culprit when children have an argument. You can take this opportunity to let your children practice communication and expression.

4. Don't compare two children

Don't compare the two children in front of you, such as "Your sister was never so good at your age" and so on.

Before Bauer was born, parents should have reached this consensus. In contrast, it is a spur in parents' minds, but the actual effect is likely to sow discord.

Step 5 classify children's belongings

As long as the content at home is related to children, it can be divided into three categories: Dabao, Bauer and Ordinary. Then there is no special place and person in charge for these three kinds of goods. Divide all the items well and make rules: if the elder sister uses the younger brother, she needs the younger brother's consent; On the other hand, things in public areas can be freely taken as needed.

6. Help children build self-awareness.

Make sure that nearly 50-60% of the items related to children are personal items, not public items. Make sure that every child has at least some time every day, and it is not necessary to live together.

Only in this way can children have the opportunity to distinguish each other and establish themselves. This is a very important task for children in the process of self-growth.