1. "Mom, I don't like this dress." The boy tugged at his skirt and said softly and weakly. It seems that I want this voice to be heard by my mother, but I don't want my mother to hear it. Say that finish, my head is so low that I want to stick it on my chest.
"Why don't you like it? It's good! There is no shortage of money, what do children choose! " Mother didn't give the boy any chance to explain, nor did she see the boy's sad expression. It should be said that she didn't see it at all, and she didn't want to see it.
I only know that in the future, he will wear whatever clothes his mother buys him.
Many years have passed!
2. "Grandma, I don't want you to get a haircut. Your hairstyle is ugly. " The little boy struggled to refuse to cooperate.
Grandma continued to push the little boy's head with a pusher and said, "How nice it is to have a flat head! Boys should talk to Pingtou. "
The boy continued to struggle: "No! Last time I cut my hair, the children in my class called me bald, and I didn't want to cut it. "
3. Mom and Dad talked about the little boy's hairstyle, saying that the little boy had his own aesthetics and didn't want a crew cut. Father and mother shared the story of his childhood.
When I was a child, the clothes my grandmother bought for my father were all mature and were laughed at by the children at that time. It is similar to the scene of the little boy now, except that he chose to give up the struggle and face the children's ridicule with great strength.
I finally understand why dad always wears clothes and never asks for anything. I have always attributed the lack of dressing style to my own aesthetics, which is related to genes. Now it seems that it is grandma's desire for control that makes dad lose interest in dressing up and give up on this requirement.
My mother has gradually grown into a grandmother, but she is still so controlling. If everything around you is turning according to your own ideas, then someone must have made concessions and sacrifices for it.
And if just because children are young, we feel that we should be the masters of their own affairs, that is to control them. It is hard to imagine how much creativity has been stifled and how many sparks of inspiration have been extinguished by the hegemonic control of parents.
If the child is under our control as expected, we will deprive the child of the right to choose and limit the child's spiritual freedom.
If children are out of our control, we usually feel frustrated. Driven by this sense of frustration, some people will have a stronger desire to control, and children's awareness of escaping control is also increasing. Time and time again, we were raised as a rebellious child.
Education is not control, nor is it a mechanical transmission of ideas and concepts. Education means that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another.
Education is in love and freedom, listening to children's inner voice, subtle guidance, tireless watering, and then waiting for flowers to bloom.
If you want to educate your children well, please put away your desire for control.