From the Three Kingdoms Su's Confucius Family Language.
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Confucius said, "Those who are virtuous in business are virtuous in doing good. I don't know my son, it depends on his father; I don't know who he is, but treat him as a friend; I don't know who it is, see what it does; I don't know where it is, depending on its vegetation. Therefore, living with goodwill is like walking into Lan Zhi's room. If you don't smell it for a long time, you will melt with it. Living with poor people is like entering the place of abalone. If you haven't heard of it for a long time, you will melt with it. Dan hides red, while lacquer hides black. Therefore, a gentleman must be cautious. "
Translation:
Confucius said, "Xia Zi likes to be with people smarter than himself, while Zi Gong likes to get along with people who are not as smart as himself." I don't know how the child is, just look at the father. If you don't know yourself, just look at his friends. If you don't know the master, just look at the messenger he sent. If you don't know the local situation, look at the local vegetation. "
"So I often stay with people with high moral character, just like bathing in a room full of fragrance when planting Lan Zhi. After a long time, you can't smell the fragrance, but it is full of fragrance; Being with people with bad conduct is like going to a shop selling salted fish. After a long time, I can't smell it, but I am also integrated into the environment. The place where Dan is hidden will turn red after a long time, and the place where pigment is hidden will turn black after a long time, so a real gentleman must carefully choose his own environment. "
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1, choose your friends carefully, because you will be unconsciously influenced by what kind of people you get along with. So choose your friends carefully and choose your living environment carefully.
2, "near Zhu Zhechi, near ink is black", vermilion is red, and ink is black. Metaphorically, being close to good people can make people better, while being close to bad people can make people worse. Refers to the objective environment has a great influence on people.
Zhu Hechi: Something that can be interpreted as red; Ink and black are black things. Red is opposite to black, and red can be understood as justice and beauty. Black is relatively evil or bad. No matter who you follow, you will be infected by their personality.
In other words, learn from good people and bad people. Another way of saying "Chi" is to describe ancient soldiers (generals and soldiers). For example, if you are with them, you will have a red heart like them and become a soldier who died for the country; And if you follow those scholars (that is, scholars), you will naturally be cultivated into a scholar by their book spirit.
Family History of Confucius, also known as Family History of Confucius, is a book that records the thoughts, words and deeds of Confucius and his disciples. Today's Biography of Confucius Family Stories consists of 10 volumes and 44 articles, which are annotated by Su, with Wang Su's preface and postscript.
Wang Su, who pays attention to Confucian classics, is a famous master of Confucian classics after Zheng Xuan. He advocated the general study of Confucian classics, opposed Zheng Xuan's school of literal exegetics, and ignored the content.
Wang Su extracted various anecdotes from Confucius' posthumous works in Qin and Han Dynasties, and also extracted marriage, funeral, suburban burial, temple burial and other systems from The Analects of Confucius, Zuo Zhuan, Mandarin, Xunzi, Xiao Li, Da Li, Li Ji and Shuo Yuan. ?
Wang Su recorded the questions, answers, words and deeds of Confucius and his disciples in detail in Family Tales of Confucius, which vividly shaped the personality image of Confucius and was of great theoretical value for studying the philosophy, politics, ethics and educational thoughts of Confucianism (mainly the founder of Confucius). At the same time, because the book preserves many related records in ancient books, it has important literature value for the textual research of ancient relics and the collation of pre-Qin classics.
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