First of all, Mr. Dai began his speech with a story about an active child with poor grades and how his mother encouraged him to become a talent: the school held a parent-teacher conference for the first time, and the teacher said that your child was active and could not sit for three minutes. When the mother came home, instead of blaming the child, she encouraged the child to say: Son, today the teacher praised you, saying that you couldn't sit for a minute before, but now you can sit for three minutes. The children were very happy when they heard the teacher's praise. Later, they often think of the teacher's praise in class and slowly calm down. When I was about to enter middle school, there was another parent-teacher conference. Because the child's intelligence is not very good and his academic performance is poor, the mother asked the teacher if the child could be admitted to a key middle school. The teacher said: Take an examination of key middle schools? It was just a dream ... I went home as usual, and the children asked about the parent-teacher conference as usual. The mother said, son, I said I was promoted to a key middle school before, and now the teacher says it's conceivable that you should work harder. Hearing this, the child was even happier. From then on, he studied harder and made much more efforts than ordinary people, and finally he was admitted to a key middle school. To the mother's surprise, the child was finally admitted to the university.
The story told by Teacher Dai impressed me deeply and was very touching. It is the power of mother's love that urges the mother to educate the child attentively, and through encouraging the child to establish self-confidence, the child will eventually become a talent. Another experience is that there are no "useless" children in the world, only careless parents. As long as parents adopt the right methods, they can completely shape children with poor grades or even less intelligence into useful materials.
Regarding learning methods, Mr. Dai talked about three points: 1, to cultivate children's interest in learning; 2. Establish children's self-confidence; 3. Cultivate good study habits. These three points, I think, are very important, especially the interest in learning. Without interest, no matter how clever a child is, he can't learn, let alone his academic performance. So how to cultivate children's interest in learning? Teacher Dai told an example about how a child didn't like learning and how his parents racked their brains to try various methods according to their children's characteristics. Finally, by hanging a map on the wall at home and measuring the height of the child on the map, the child will gradually become interested in the map, and then through the parents' explanation of geography and other related knowledge, the child's curiosity will be stimulated and his interest in learning will be aroused, thus improving his academic performance. This example actually tells us that children need to cultivate their interest in learning and pay attention to skills, so that they can get twice the result with half the effort.
On teaching children to be human, Mr. Dai also mainly talked about three points: 1, learn to be grateful; 2. Learn to communicate and feel the concern of teachers and parents; 3. Learn to get along well with partners, establish cooperation and coexistence, and gain a win-win relationship. For the first point, Mr. Dai gave an example, which I seem to have read in the Reader many years ago. It's about a laid-off female worker who has a very loving son at home. Because of being laid off, there are not many sources of income at home. One day, the child said he wanted to eat shrimp. Although I used to buy shrimp for my children at home, the economic situation is not allowed now. Mother felt in her pocket, and there was still twenty yuan left. Finally, the mother felt sorry for her son and bought shrimp for her child with this only twenty yuan. The child is full, leaving one or two shrimp heads and brains. Mother reached out her chopsticks and was about to eat the leftover shrimp. Unexpectedly, the child hit his mother's hand and said, it's mine, don't eat it! This story is very sad. When my mother spoke, her eyes still revealed a lot of helplessness. Someone asked, did you eat shrimp when you bought it for your child? My mother said that I didn't worry about eating before, so I left it to my children. The child also asked me why I didn't eat it, and I was distressed that the child had to say that he didn't like it.
In fact, it is important to educate children and study, but teaching children to be talents is the most direct and unshirkable responsibility of parents. Do we educate our children to be well-developed children who only care about themselves but don't know how to care about others, or a caring and responsible boy with excellent academic performance? The answer is self-evident. Then, let our parents, as parents, care and educate our next generation with their heart, so that they can grow up healthily, comprehensively and vigorously.