The "enduring" star also gave birth to two sons with his wife in his early years, and the two children are not only several years apart in age, but also raised in different ways. It can be said that Sha Yi's two sons, the eldest son is raised by books, and the youngest son is raised by pigs. Now the gap between the two babies is obvious.
You know, many couples are novice parents when they are born, and they have no idea about raising children. So many educational methods are taught by reading books. After all, it is better to be serious than to indulge, at least the latter will not let the children indulge themselves too much, and in the end they don't even know their own direction.
Therefore, under the education of Mr. and Mrs. Sha Yi, the eldest son is obviously more calm and confident, because they are the result of the parenting of Mr. and Mrs. Sha Yi by constantly reading parenting books and discussing educational methods. Obviously, his children are excellent in everything except their poor autonomy.
After the birth of their youngest son, Mr. and Mrs. Sha Yi changed their education policy. He didn't apply the education methods for his eldest son to his younger son, but gave him more space and growth. Therefore, the younger son is not as serious as the older son, and even spoiled and cute. It can be said that he completely released his nature and lived happily.
Of course, for parents, the parenting style of Sha Yi and his wife is a reference object, but it is not necessarily their way. If you are twins or multiple births, you may wish to treat your child in the following ways to stimulate your child's potential and take care of your child's emotions.
0 1 So, what should parents of twins and multiple births do?
1, both rain and dew
Having given birth to many children, the problem of resource allocation is really a big problem. After all, material resources can be given equally, but love and education may not be able to do it. Everyone has his own preferences. Some children may make them want to take care of themselves, while others don't want to get too close.
But in any case, on the issue of taking care of children, we must treat them with a rational and objective attitude to avoid children hating each other because of rain and dew.
2. Don't deprive children of their personality.
Every child is a free individual, so parents should not always ask their children to wear the same clothes, or tap their children's same hobbies, because this will only obliterate their individuality. For them, if they use the same things as their brothers and sisters, they will gradually lose their individuality and become "vassals" of their brothers and sisters.
3. Don't enroll your child in the same interest class.
Many parents want to enroll their children in the same interest class because they have twins or multiple births at home. This is generally done to save money and convenience, but without the child's permission, the child will lose his future direction and goal.
Let the older children play the role of brothers and sisters.
Generally speaking, parents can let the older one play a leading role, that is, let him help parents educate their younger brothers and sisters, or interact with them to establish close relationships between them, let them know that they are all brothers and sisters, and reduce contradictions and quarrels between them.
02 conclusion:
It is difficult to take care of one child, and it is even more difficult to take care of many children. Therefore, if parents tend to have multiple births, or want to have a second child a few days after giving birth to a big baby, then we must know that taking care of children must not follow the thinking of a child, otherwise it will not only hurt two children, but also hurt their feelings. In this regard, parents themselves should constantly learn and improve their knowledge, so as to give their children a good growth environment.