"Petting" is a must. Parents should let their children grow up in an environment with enough love and help them grow into people with enough love, so that their future lives will be happier. It is useless to "spoil". Children can't stay under the wings of their parents all their lives, and others won't spoil your children without principle and scale. Parents' overindulgence of their children will not only make their children's future better, but will also bring many difficulties for their children to adapt to the environment outside the family.

1, which is not enough to meet the demand.

We have always advocated that children's needs should be met quickly, so that children can feel the full respect and care of their parents, but at the same time, we will also pay attention to the fact that we will not "get one free" when meeting children's needs. For example, if a child wants a birthday present, parents will spare no effort to buy expensive gifts for the child and give the child a "big surprise".

2, do not meet the excessive demand.

Some spoiled children will be used to asking too much of their parents, such as eating several servings at a time, and only eating a little food by themselves, and others are not allowed to move. Neither of the two children in Zhenxin's family made a similar request, because they knew that even if they did, their parents would definitely answer, "No."

3. Let children learn to wait

When a child says, "I want what I want, I want it now!" " "What would you do? Some parents may immediately drop everything to "obey" whatever they are doing.

We have never encountered such a thing, but in normal times, we will pay special attention to let children learn to wait. Adults have something on hand, and children ask for it. We will tell them, "Wait a minute, mom and dad are busy at the moment, and I will help you later." Children are used to waiting, so they won't be in a hurry and can't wait for a moment.

4. Let children understand and sympathize with the difficulties of adults.

We will try our best to meet children's needs in time, but when there are difficulties, we will make it clear to them, for example, we have no time today, something can't be found at the moment, or the current conditions can't be done, so that children can understand that it is not what he wants, and adults will certainly realize his wishes.

4. Help, but don't serve

When children need help, we will help them in time, but we will not wait on them in every detail.

For example, when children go out in the morning, they wear shoes with "shoehorns", and now we will squat down to help them pull. "

I won't do what you can.

Another principle is that what children can do, we will not do for them. If we don't help our children carry their schoolbags, pack their schoolbags and remember their homework, we won't do what we can, can and should do at that age. We even wrote an article about who should carry children's schoolbags.

6. Respect parents and other elders

Some children beat their parents at an early age and get extremely improper encouragement from adults, so he is probably a child who likes to joke and speak ill of his parents and even grandparents in his teens, and he is probably a student who doesn't respect his teachers at school.