How do you feel about your relationship with your children? Do you often have heart-to-heart talks, do you understand his needs, and do you always oppose her ideas? Sometimes this may lead to the estrangement between daughters and parents. Usually, children will consider looking outside when they can't find the understanding and "love" they want. I'm a child, too, and I know that very well. I suggest you communicate with your child more, respect her and get to know her. You can also talk to him about your thoughts and your concern and love for him. First, build a communication bridge with your daughter, get in touch slowly and get better slowly.
Be sure to let him know that you care about her and love him.
As for academic performance, it is a matter of attitude. It also depends on your guidance, not just pushing her. You should tell her that everything you learn is for her good, and guide her to think clearly about her future and know that learning can affect her life. You can take your time, but let her think for herself. Just explain this to her. As for grades, that's another matter, and it also has something to do with personal ability. But attitude is a big problem. You must let her think independently and think clearly, which is good for his later life. Also, don't put too much pressure on him, don't make her feel bored, and let her know that learning is her own business, so it is very important for him to make it clear, and you can only guide him.
Rebellion is a common problem for children of this age, but you should influence him with love, understand her with communication and guide her, otherwise he will easily go astray. If you control her blindly and suppress her, she will certainly seek comfort from her classmates and friends, because students only have two environments, family and school. You must be very worried about how those friends guide her, so you should let your child feel what he needs here, so that she won't be too dependent on her friends.
For the transfer you mentioned, if it is useful, it is a good way to transfer. Boarding school is not recommended. As I said before, students have only two environments, family and school. Do you want to give up the influence of family environment on your child and let the school and those friends influence him? I'm sure you will understand.
As for other problems, it lies in your attitude towards your child and your guidance to him. You must have a good relationship with your child, respect her thoughts, get to know her, and then communicate with her and treat her as a friend.
Finally, I recommend a children's education magazine, probably called Family Education, which was edited by Sun Yunxiao. He is a famous expert in education. At that time, when I was young, the school gave it to my parents. Although I didn't have any serious problems at that time, there were some ideas and methods in the book. From the perspective of a child, I think it is still very useful for parents. If you really become the kind of parents suggested in the book, children will like you very much!
That's all I can suggest. The rest is up to you. Come on, I believe you will be a good teacher and friend for your children! ~