Catch up with Chen Shu Huang Lei's "Things about Couples" in one breath. Although it was a TV series eight years ago, the truth about marriage and life is not out of date at all.

It ended well. Lin Jun and Nye both remarried and had children.

I wonder if the outcome would be different if they didn't have children. Some people say that this drama has three incorrect views, which seems to tell women that life is complete and marriage is happy with children.

I don't think this will rise to the question of three views. One thing we must admit is that this is a cruel fact. Men can't have children, and women won't divorce, but women can't have children, and there are still many divorces.

Although it is 2 1 century, everyone is telling us that children are not the whole of marriage, but for many families, children are still the hope of the family. Once infertile, the pressure on women is enormous.

Lin Jun is a typical example. Once upon a time, she was a strong woman, and she was all-powerful in her career. She stuck to Dink until she was 38. In her mind, children are a drag, and career is the most important.

So after many years of marriage with Tang Peng, she was determined not to have children. At that time, her marriage was very happy, and she took Tang Peng everywhere every year. Life is free and broad without the burden of economy and children.

At that time, Lin Jun didn't think that he would give up years of hard work for his children one day, nor did he think that his marriage would be in trouble because of his children.

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What really changed Lin Jun was the death of his father-in-law, because his greatest regret before his death was that he could not see his grandson. I'm sorry, but I want to leave a child for Don.

Soon, Lin Jun was pregnant, and the whole family was very happy. My mother-in-law moved here specially to take care of her.

In order to have a good baby, Lin Jun gave all the most important projects to others. Originally, I was happy to welcome the baby, but I didn't expect to be found to be an ectopic pregnancy. I thought it was no big problem. After the operation, I can rest and have another one.

Unexpectedly, the body does not allow it, and there are too many androgens in the body, so it is difficult to get pregnant. Lin Jun's serious exercise and healthy work and rest still have no effect. 1 year, I still can't get pregnant.

So, she decided to be a test-tube baby, thinking that she would succeed this time. However, IVF is not a complete guarantee. Lin Jun is old, and the number of eggs is running out.

The last two embryos were fertilized successfully, but the quality was not high, and the child may have problems. Lin Jun and Tang Peng thought for a long time, but they couldn't afford the risk and decided to give up.

At the last minute, Lin Jun still wanted to take risks, just to realize his obsession with having children. She was very careful, but she didn't expect that the embryo could not survive in the mother's body, which meant that Lin Jun's desire to have children was completely shattered.

This was a devastating blow to Lin Jun. Desperate, she filed for divorce with Tang Peng and moved out.

Many people don't understand why Tang Peng loves Lin Jun so much. Even if she has no children, Tang Peng can't abandon her.

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Some people say that Lin Jun's decision is because he loves Tang Peng too much and wants him to have a more complete life.

This is also on the one hand, but on the other hand, Lin Jun can't accept such himself, so he just isolates love from the outside world and pretends to be that cruel bad guy.

You know, Lin Jun is the best. After graduating from Ph.D., his design works have been recognized by many people and can be said to be winners in life. She is very strong, everything is under her control, and there has never been an accident.

She has no choice but to have children. Coupled with her guilt for her in-laws, she blamed herself for all the problems. Once so excellent, she lost all her aura at that moment.

At one time, she didn't question Tang Peng's love for her, because she thought she was worth it, couldn't have children, and lost a large part of her value. She began to doubt Tang Peng's sincerity.

Nothing happened between Tang Peng and Susan, but Lin Jun lost confidence in her heart. In front of young Susan, she lost all her pride and self-esteem. Giving up voluntarily is better than being defeated, and it will be less embarrassing.

For a successful woman like Lin Jun, it is impossible to accept that she is worse than others.

Others get pregnant easily, why is it a luxury for her? All this is beyond Lin Jun's life. The more she thought about it, the more she hated it, so she lost her mind and made extreme behavior, completely cutting off the relationship with Tang Peng.

In fact, Tang Peng is a good man, but what he didn't do well was to impose his parents' regrets on Lin Jun.

He always thought Lin Jun made her unfilial. This idea sprouted in Lin Jun's heart like a seed. Until she was confirmed to be infertile, the seed grew into a tree in heaven, and she could no longer bear it.

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Infertile woman, why go crazy. It's hard to imagine a powerful woman like Lin Jun denying herself because she can't have children. What became the last straw to crush the camel.

Perhaps it is not the marriage itself, but the traditional education of women in China. I don't know why, there are always some rules and regulations about women in this world. When do you want to get married and have children?

You think Dink, you are unfilial; You are afraid of the pain of giving birth. You are your woman, you must endure it. Women should be husband and wife, carry on the family line. Such ideas are endless, and over time, even women have begun to use these standards to frame themselves.

Lin Jun is such a modern woman that she still can't escape the secular pressure. Children were born to fulfill the wishes of their elders. Later, in order to fulfill my obsession, I gave birth to a child.

How to drive a dink woman crazy? Just force her to have a baby.

When children become women's obligations, when children become women's faults, there is no happiness in marriage and there is no fairness in this world.

Finally, I want to tell all women that you are free to choose whether you are infertile, dink or want children. You don't need to change yourself for any external conditions.

I like a passage that Carina Lau said:

"In my life, I often hear three words: Why? Why do you have to go to work at such an age, why don't you have children after marriage, and why do you have to challenge such a difficult drama? ...

We are all used to judging others with our own outlook on life and morality, but everyone is unique and born a woman, so don't copy others' living methods, and believe what others say is the truth, including what I am saying now.

The beauty of a woman has always been a process of tolerance, compassion, inner strength and self-awareness. "