In recent years, I have been a class teacher in senior three and met many students who transferred to other schools. I will never forget the changes in Xiao Xu during this period.
Last semester, the sixth grade started for a month. A new classmate, Xiao Xu, was transferred to our class. Just in time for Wednesday, I gave my classmates a composition class. I clearly remember that the title of the composition was My Favorite Little Animal. At the end of a class, all the students handed in their compositions, but Xiao Xu only wrote the word "ant" on the manuscript paper. I can't believe my eyes. I asked him why he didn't write his composition, but he said nothing. I am extremely depressed.
Then I remembered what his mother said to me when we first met: "This child will be very angry if the teacher is unfair to him!" " "I didn't care about a word at that time, and now I think this student is extraordinary. After teaching for so many years, I have never met such a student. What should I do?
I talked to him first to find out his psychological state. He stood in front of the teacher, but his face turned to one side. I have to repeat his words several times before he can squeeze one or two words out of his throat that you can't hear at all! It only makes people anxious. Years of experience told me not to worry, but to be patient. I reason with him calmly, for example: when talking to others, look into each other's eyes, which is respect for others; Answer other people's questions ... After a period of communication with my parents, I found the crux of Xiao Xu.
It turned out that he was squeezed out of the original school. In my old school, I was often treated unfairly by my teachers and was always hostile to them. In terms of study, I never study my homework, often don't attend classes in the classroom and wander around the campus. Before the exam, the teacher memorized the exam questions and compositions in advance. When the exam is over, when the papers are handed in, and every parent-teacher meeting, parents see excellent results. However, his real achievement is that he failed the exam and didn't answer the paper correctly because he didn't practice the exam questions in advance.
For this person, I first respect him, convince others by reasoning, and let him be treated fairly in the class. Secondly, explain the importance of learning to him, encourage him to overcome difficulties, personally coach him every day, arrange for him to study hard, be patient with his old friends and help him study. When he doesn't do his homework for a long time, I will give him focused and as little homework as possible, and contact his parents with a notepad every day to help him develop the habit of finishing his homework. Gradually, he began to finish his homework, but he still needed constant supervision. Sometimes, he just doesn't want to write, which makes me angry and criticizes him. I talked to him afterwards, explained the reason why the teacher was angry and asked, "Are you angry when the teacher criticized you?" At first, he shook his head. Later, when this happened, he would say, "Don't be angry!" "I am very happy. I often tell him things that have nothing to do with study. I found that his relationship with the teacher was much better than when he first came, and he was not hostile to the teacher.
As always, care for him, help him and educate him. After a semester, he became very talkative. He not only had a good relationship with his classmates, but also was willing to help and care for me. Once, at lunch, there was no residue on the table. He saw it and quietly picked up a tissue and wiped it on my desk. I excitedly said to him, "Thank you!" Another time, he brought a lot of Dove chocolates to my desk for me to eat. A series of changes surprised me, and I was determined to care for him better and help him. Although he is still difficult to manage. Soon, another semester is over. In the final exam, he was able to answer questions independently, and there were few empty questions. He got more than 70 points in math and Chinese and more than 90 points in English. I was so happy that I sent a message to his mother. His mother called me specially at night to thank me.
Han Feng, a famous educator, once said: Students who are difficult to educate well are students who have no self-esteem; Students who can be educated well are students with strong self-esteem. This sentence will always affect my moral education. I think only love can really educate students, and we must protect the most precious thing for children-self-esteem.
That's what I think and do.