1, sincerity
First of all, we should put ourselves in a correct position with students, and realize that teachers are "preachers and confusers", and at the same time teachers serve students, that is, teachers serve students, whose task is not only to impart knowledge and truth, but also to create conditions for students to become talents and adults. To make students believe in you and serve him, we must adhere to the word "sincerity", treat others with sincerity and win the trust with sincerity.
For example, Zhu X mentioned in C's example, after the classmate transferred to my class, he was seriously wary of me and "stayed at a respectful distance". I talked to him several times, but he kept silent and died. But I was not discouraged. I insisted on talking to him and visited his house in the rain. In Zhou Ji, I instructed to make friends with him; I transferred him to the front row to improve his learning effect; I took the initiative to tutor him in Chinese for free, and I also tried my best to invite a math teacher to tutor him. Because of his poor math performance, several math teachers politely declined my request. My sincerity gradually dispelled his concerns and he began to talk to me. Later, I learned that this classmate's parents are in the literary and art circles, his mother has been organizing performances in other places for a long time, and his father used to work in other places. After being transferred to Shanghai, he was too busy to attend to his studies. In fact, this student is not as "bad" as the legend says, but lacks the code of conduct due to lack of management, care and guidance. He is not as "stupid" as the legend says, except for his poor academic performance due to some objective reasons and subjective lack of hard work, his talents in other aspects are not bad. Won the second prize in the school computer operation competition, and can decorate bicycles by himself; I can load and unload computers, especially literature and art students. I think we should treat such students dialectically, take the initiative to care more and help them sail successfully. I encouraged him to take part in the competition of the school art festival and give full play to his specialty. Sure enough, he won the first prize of modern dance and the first prize of foreign song singing in one fell swoop. On his twentieth birthday, I specially bought a 16 inch milk cake to congratulate him. He said excitedly, "Miss Wang, I must study hard and fight for breath!" " "Now this classmate has made great progress in all aspects, and many teachers say that he has changed", like a different person. "I realized that as long as you sincerely serve the students, understand with reason and move with emotion, even the' iceberg' will be melted by you.
2. Love
Teachers' love for students is selfless and noble, and it is the internal motivation of all teachers' actions. But generally speaking, the "nectar" of teachers' love is sprinkled on those smart students with good grades, and less on those students with poor academic performance and poor behavior norms. I noticed this problem and took a different approach. I think "poor students" need "love" more; Compared with good students, "poor students" need teachers' care and love more.
For example, Quan Xx in case A came to my class with the third lowest grade, and his parents often made trouble for the child. For such students, according to the school's upgrade and repetition standards, the burden may have been forgotten; But instead of doing so, I took the initiative to care for him, encourage him, point out his problems, help him build up confidence and solve his practical difficulties. In this final exam, students' grades have been obviously improved, and the danger of repeating grades has been avoided.
For example, in case F, Shen X is in poor health. I went to school for three years and suddenly had stomach bleeding for three consecutive years. For such students, I usually care and love them like my own children; When he was in hospital, I visited him many times to encourage him to fight the disease; After recovery, I tried my best to take care of his life and cook for him every day, while helping him make up lessons. The student took the college entrance examination shortly after his third hospitalization and was admitted to the Department of Economics and Management of Shanghai Normal University with 428 points.
3, strict
Love for students should be in the heart, but be "strict" in action. Students are like growing young trees, which need both sunshine and rain, fertilization, pruning and pest control. Therefore, we should strictly manage them, restrain and manage them according to the code of conduct of middle school students, and cultivate their good habits of observing the code of conduct.
For example, in case B, Zhang Xxx, this student is like a "candy", "he doesn't make big mistakes, but he keeps making small ones". He is often criticized and checked, but he often doesn't change. Instead of letting myself drift, I patiently educated again and again, talked with him, helped him analyze the reasons, and pointed out that his key problems were poor behavior habits and lack of strong will. I took pains to correct his behavior deviation again and again. After a period of training, the quality of this classmate has been obviously improved, and his academic performance has also risen faster.
4. Width
Be strict with students in ideological education and code of conduct, but be lenient with others in dealing with some specific problems. Even those students who have made serious mistakes should be treated with caution and not killed with a stick, because they are still students and they have such shortcomings. It is normal to make such mistakes. In the class where I am the head teacher, I generally don't punish students, but I am strict in education, management and leniency, because this punishment is likely to dampen students' self-esteem, cast a shadow over their hearts and bring him lifelong regret.
For example, Ling X, who has been quietly in class, stutters a little, dresses simply, and looks like a pathetic honest man at first glance. Both his parents work in other places. I tried to see his father several times, but he refused to drive because his father didn't come back. Once, the headmaster came to me and said that a parent had written to the district education bureau, reflecting that Mr. Wang Zengbao of No.60 Middle School had not contacted his parents for a long time, and even a Student Handbook had not been issued. At that time, I judged that it was probably written by the student's father, because my student handbook was given by each student's parents personally, only him. Make an exception, because his parents are away for a long time, let him take the Student Handbook. It is difficult to expose this matter. I asked my parents again and again when they would come back, but he stopped me again and again for various reasons. I decided to go to his house first. The first time I went to his house, the door was closed. I shouted for a long time, but I couldn't open it. I will go again the second time. This time, I asked my neighbor if he was at home, and the neighbor was sure that he was at home. I shouted hard for a long time, but I still couldn't open it. Finally, the neighbor went upstairs and shouted from the balcony next door. He came down to open the door and said, "I didn't hear you." When I entered their house, it was really difficult. I am sweating all over, and there is no broken fan in his house. Pour me a cup of dirty cold water, I dare not drink it. I sympathize with him very much. It is not easy for a person to learn to cook and wash clothes by himself. When I come back, I will be free of tuition fees, all kinds of tuition fees, and some money to maintain my life. But I always want to touch his father once to dispel my doubts. Every time I ask him, I always say I came back a few days ago and left yesterday. I don't think it is easy for this child to live independently, which means that he has neither father's love nor mother's love. As a teacher, I should pay more attention. Once, I went to my house again, and this time he heard my voice and came down. I asked if his father had come back, but he said no. I offered to go upstairs and sit down, but he was noncommittal and indifferent. At that time, I wanted to forget it, and there was no great need to go up, but I went up anyway to see if he had any difficulties recently and if he had any problems to help him. But when I climbed into the attic of this old house, I clearly saw his father sitting in the room! This time, my heart is really angry! I have been teaching for 20 years, from Heilongjiang to Huangpu River, and I have never seen such a student who lies to his face without blushing! He has always been called "honest man" among students. I didn't expect to be so calm when telling lies! I was cheated! Cheated by an ordinary young man, cheated by a student who saved him a lot of money! I feel a kind of spiritual shock! I exchanged information with his father. It turns out that his father has been coming back often recently, and he is also wondering why the teacher in No.60 Middle School has not contacted his parents for such a long time, so he wrote this letter to the District Education Bureau, and the Student Handbook I asked the students to hand in was hidden by the students! Should I be punished in the face of such students? According to my mood, I really wanted to punish him, but later I thought that education should be strict and treatment should be lenient, so I talked to him patiently several times to help him understand the harm of this kind of lying. That classmate cried bitterly and vowed never to do this again, so I didn't punish him. In the past, the student did well and was developed into a Communist Youth League member. Later, he was admitted to the College of Literature of Shanghai University with a score of 437.
From this incident, I realized that students must be punished carefully, because they are still children after all, and we should leave enough room for their growth.
5. Truth
On the one hand, helping "poor students" is to point out the direction, find out the gap and build confidence. On the other hand, we should help him solve practical problems in a down-to-earth manner and be meticulous, not "by hook or by crook".
Hu Xxx of Example D is a very special "poor student". His English is very good. He can explain the football match in English and translate his Chinese speech in English. But both Chinese and math are "red lights", and he belongs to a "poor student" who is severely lame. I have carefully analyzed his situation. Since his excellent English shows that he has a good talent and a good memory, how can he be bad at Chinese and math? The key is lack of interest, which leads to a worse foundation. On the one hand, I look for opportunities to create conditions for him to give full play to his special skills. On the other hand, I invite a math teacher "individual coach" to make up lessons for him twice a week, and I often care about checking the relevant situation and adjusting it in time to achieve the best results. Later, the student got grade A in English and grade B in mathematics, and entered the Foreign Languages Department of Shanghai University in the college entrance examination.
In the practical work in recent years, I have realized that the transformation of "poor students" is very important, difficult and key for No.60 Middle School. The key to the breakthrough of enrollment rate in 60 middle schools lies in the transformation of "poor students"; In order to implement the goal of "everyone becomes a talent", the key point is to transform poor students; To make a breakthrough in the work of our class teacher, the difficulty lies in the transformation of poor students. We all care about and care for the "poor students", so that the "poor students" will not go on, so that our "everyone can become a talent" can be implemented.