Education without criticism is "calcium deficiency" education, irresponsible education and dangerous education. Criticism is also a kind of love for children.

In recent years, in the process of reflective education, there is another tendency, that is, parents and teachers praise their children and avoid criticism. Some schools even explicitly stipulate that teachers are not allowed to criticize students. Is this right? Does it conform to the law of education?

On the surface, uncritical education seems quite humanized, but the essence is educational ignorance. Education without criticism is "calcium deficiency" education, irresponsible education and dangerous education. For children, strict requirements and criticism are also indispensable love.

In the process of educating children, it is always right to insist on praise and encouragement, and it is always right to insist on criticism and punishment as a supplement. However, for every minor, critical education is an indispensable and precious nutrition in life; For the only child who is easily spoiled, uncritical education simply makes them wander in front of danger.

In real life, no one can guarantee that their children will be loved forever, and no one can avoid that their children may encounter setbacks. No matter how much the education department attaches importance to the construction of teachers' morality, there must be immoral people in the teaching staff, and there are even more immoral people besides teachers. Perhaps, complexity and unpredictability are the characteristics of society. Therefore, our only and necessary choice, just like vaccination, is to educate children to fight setbacks from an early age, in which criticism and punishment education are one of the necessary means.

Criticism and punishment education can also be called educational punishment. Its core is to educate people to admit their mistakes and take responsibility for them, and its method is to wake up the sleeping giants in the hearts of those who are at fault with respect. Obviously, criticizing and punishing education is by no means equal to insulting discrimination or beating and cursing. On the contrary, the more criticism, the more respect and the more reasonable punishment. The goal of criticism and punishment education is to cultivate people's "ability not to be overwhelmed in the face of setbacks", or, as Dr. Yue Xiaodong said, to cultivate a "pressure bomb" quality. In other words, in the face of adversity in life, people should have the ability to resist setbacks as well as setbacks. We advocate "bullet-pressing" education for teenagers in order to promote their self-growth and personality perfection.

Piaget, a famous psychologist, believes that children grow up by making mistakes. Therefore, in the face of children's mistakes, parents and teachers need not panic, but should regard it as a good opportunity for growth. In fact, when children make mistakes, it is often the easiest time to educate. The key is to use the situation to promote the transformation of children's inner contradictions and to promote the transformation of children into truth, goodness and beauty. If you do this, you will hear the sound of crops jointing and blooming, which is the most beautiful sound in the world.

Criticism and punishment are also a kind of love, but this kind of love should pay special attention to ways and means. What kind of criticism is most acceptable to children and most conducive to their growth?

If you find your child's mistakes, you'd better criticize and correct them at once. If the mistake takes a long time to think of criticizing him, he may have forgotten it, and he will feel puzzled, unacceptable and even contradictory.

When criticizing a child, don't completely deny him because of his momentary mistake, or when pointing out this mistake, shake off all the previous "historical problems" and criticize them one by one. But talk about one thing at a time and focus on how to correct them.

Parents sometimes judge their children's mistakes according to their own moods. When they are in a good mood, they feel that this is not a problem and let themselves go. When you are in a bad mood, make a fuss, make a fuss. When parents criticize their children, don't abuse them. It is better to praise first and then criticize, so that children can accept it easily and the effect will be better.

At the same time, parents should pay attention to the following points when criticizing: First, be kind when criticizing. Children nowadays are mainly obedient. If his parents criticize him condescendingly and aggressively, he will feel threatened and depressed, which will lead to rebellious psychology. On the contrary, his parents are equal to him, and he will accept it easily. The second is not to be emotional when criticizing children. Criticism is not an end, the purpose is to help children correct their mistakes. Don't beat them with your hands and scold them with your mouth open, which will easily make children form a rebellious mentality. The third is to criticize and not pursue hard. The main points of criticism are concise and to the point. As long as the child understands the meaning of criticism and has repented, he should forgive him and end the criticism.

Some experts pointed out: Let children set up a set of "traffic lights" system in their hearts, so that children can know the consequences of violating regulations, principles and standards, and thus know how to regulate their behavior.

Criticism, like praise, is also a means of educating children, but criticism needs art more.

Strict requirements are also a manifestation of loving children.

The so-called "love is deep, responsibility is cut", that is, strict requirements are based on deep love. Therefore, parents should not be dominated by blind love. There should be "love" in strictness and "strictness" in love. Of course, strict requirements do not mean being strict with children and scolding them at every turn, but taking rationality as the premise. At the same time, be patient and persuasive.

Strict requirements are very important for children. This is because children are often inexperienced, the boundaries between right and wrong are sometimes unclear, and they are often not good at controlling their emotions and behaviors independently. If parents are not strict with them, they often can't actively and consciously study and act according to moral standards. Therefore, it is more necessary for parents to have strict requirements on their children's thoughts and behaviors, so that children can develop good thinking and behavior habits. But only love can not necessarily educate and cultivate excellent children, but should combine love with strict requirements.

To sum up, parents must be strict with their children, and never pamper, pamper or spoil their children. We must be rational and have "appropriate limits". Only in this way can children be trained into outstanding talents with good personality and conduct.

Strict is also a kind of love.

1. Strictness can temper people's will and learn to overcome adversity.

2. Strictness can make people play a higher efficiency.

3. Strictness can make people form strict habits of life and study.

4. Strictness can make people go forward regardless of difficulties.

5. Strictness can exercise people's lifestyle and make them grow.

1 Without strict education, there will be no self-discipline and no success, so the teacher is strict with you and good to you.

Strictly speaking, it is the way for teachers to cultivate you into a mature person.

The teacher's stern back is concerned about you and your gains and losses.

Strictness can temper people's will and learn to overcome adversity.

5 Strictness can make people form strict habits of life and study.

1: As the saying goes, it's true that a strict teacher makes a master! Under strict requirements, you can form a habit: do things carefully and avoid unnecessary problems.

Without strict education, you will be lazy and inefficient.

3. Strictness is also a kind of love.

Under strict requirements, you will find that you will exert greater potential than others, which may be unexpected.

In short, strict requirements are not only love for you, but also love for society! !

Yan is also a kind of love, which is a great proposition. Many people are generally unwilling to accept strict requirements and often show rebellious psychology. Because this kind of love is bitter first and then sweet. This post-sweetness sometimes takes time to prove.

I think there are too many reasons why "strictness is love". In fact, one is enough, that is, "for your own good."

Do things well, be a man and let you do well. So I think there is only one reason: "for your own good!" "

First of all, I just want to talk about my feelings, not to get a reward.

I used to be a teacher. When I am strict with my students and they don't understand, there is only one sentence in my heart: "This is for your own good". When students grow up, they will understand. They said: at first, the teacher was very strict with us for our own good.

There is no right or wrong between the two sides of the debate. Don't deny each other. It is important to include the other side in your own argument. . . Come on! ! )