It rained all night, and the 8-year-old son Hao Hao also frequently appeared "abnormal":
Originally clever and serious, he started fighting at school and his grades dropped sharply.
Helpless, Xiao Ting personally went to the battle for counseling, but Hao Hao seemed to deliberately oppose her, looking in all directions in her homework, and answering a wrong question again and again.
She couldn't help shouting a few words on the table, and her son talked back. Finally, mother and son made a scene at home.
Until one time, Hao Hao and his mother clashed again because of playing games. When Xiao Ting raised his mobile phone and was about to break into pieces, he suddenly remembered the new emotional management, so he withdrew his hand and said, "I am very angry now and need to calm down, but my mother loves you."
Then go back to the house and calm down.
Unexpectedly, Hao Hao timidly entered the room a few minutes later, and even cried and hugged his mother.
After patient guidance, she realized her son's true voice:
It turned out that Hao Hao thought that his mother was angry because he didn't do well in the math exam last time and would make her lose her second child.
Plus, when Xiao Ting was in hospital, the whole family panicked and didn't care about him, which deepened the vast thoughts;
So, he thought that his mother didn't want him to love him anymore, and he would only attract his mother's attention in a naughty way.
Mo Yide's Dream
In this short story, Xiao Ting first controlled her emotions and said, "I am very angry now" and told her children the reason. Besides, "need to calm down" is to tell the child what she is going to do; Finally, saying "but mom loves you" is to let the child wait for her to come back.
These three sentences not only ease the mother's mood, but also increase the child's sense of security.
If Xiao Ting continues to be angry, Hao Hao's thoughts will continue to strengthen. As a result, she may completely close her heart to her mother.
On the other hand, Xiao Ting controlled his temper and made the children feel safe. He couldn't bear to be wronged any longer and confided his heart.
Nowadays, children are very sensitive and enjoy the exclusive love of their parents for many years. If parents are going to have a second child, they should pay attention to Dabao's emotions in time and keep effective communication with their children in time. Try to avoid this situation in short stories. Timely and correct handling of the mother in the short story can not only maintain the parent-child relationship between Dabao and his mother, but also make Dabao grow up healthily and happily.
Only when parents adjust their emotions can parents and children put down their shields and let pure love and wisdom flow at home, so that children can be happier and parents can worry more.