On this day, the winter afternoon sunshine is comfortable and warm. Mothers gathered in the courtyard of Ma Zi, drinking tea and sitting around the round table. Under the auspices of Mr. Ou and Ivy, they began to discuss the "adolescent sex education" that children urgently need to put on the agenda. Sharon feels like a round table. Although this is a very private, shy and embarrassing topic, we can still overcome psychological barriers and get serious in the warm sunshine.
Teacher ou said from the beginning: parenting is like parenting yourself. Yes, as mothers, we have always been a path for parents to cultivate their self-cultivation on the road of education. All the appearances of children are actually the reflection of parents' words and deeds. Therefore, since mothers who can sit here and discuss together must realize the importance of "learning how to raise children".
Every salon, everyone will put a name tag, so that everyone can call each other's names accurately when discussing. Ivy is very considerate. Before the discussion, the teacher will ask everyone to give a brief introduction to the children, so as to know whether the beautiful mother's family has many children or only children; Whether the sex of the children at home is male or female; At what stage are the children at home? Through a brief introduction, we can quickly narrow the psychological distance between us and make it more convenient for teachers to know about your mother's family.
Teacher Ou quoted "About learning to drive before or after going on the road?" This question is to ask the sitting mothers their own opinions. Obviously, our generation almost crossed the river by feeling the stones. In view of social customs, psychological cognition, etc. We almost agree on the second mode of "learning to drive after going on the road". As for whether this model is right or wrong, I think everyone has their own evaluation. Maybe the mothers sitting in the classroom are taught "sex" or disgusting things, but in many western European countries, such as Finland, sex education has entered the syllabus of primary and secondary schools in Finland since the 1970s, and even kindergartens have positive sex education books. Set up sex education consultation telephone and child protection institutions to provide help to teenagers at any time. They have a nature education book-our bodies, and parents can talk about it every day like "One Thousand and One Nights", so sex education naturally begins.
It is worth mentioning that according to experts, children now begin to enter adolescence at the age of 9. Because beautiful mothers' children are basically between 1 1 and 15 years old, the time of "adolescent sex education" has been put on the agenda. It is especially important for parents to talk about this topic.
Recently, teachers and mothers will exchange some information about their children at school. For example, some mothers reported that fourth-grade children set up private chat groups on mobile phone WeChat and sent yellow photos and videos to their classmates. And the reaction of mothers. The fifth grade children upload who likes to attend classes and who begins to have their period. Of course, children in the sixth grade already know more, not only who will have their period, which little boy will start nocturnal emission, but also some people are saying things that surprise adults even more, such as homosexuality, masturbation sticks and AIDS. Nowadays, the society is a network society, and all kinds of information sources are more convenient and fast. Internet, TV, books and other media let children grow up at a speed we can't imagine.
This time, in view of all kinds of negative situations in society frequently appearing in front of public view, once again refreshing everyone's common sense and cognition, almost all mothers think it is very necessary to talk about "adolescent sex education" with their children, but how to talk to them is really brain-burning and embarrassing. A mother said, "I know its importance, but I can't pass myself." How can I talk to my children about such a sensitive and shy topic? " In fact, children are super simple. On the contrary, parents themselves are influenced by traditional education and taboo the issue of "sex".
Teacher Ou shared: "Sex, food and color are also important." It's as common and inevitable as eating and dressing.
About children's understanding of sex: A beautiful mother actively shared: She passed on adolescent sex education to her son through the media of books. She bought an English version, which is said to be straightforward and clear in scale, and there is no insinuation, euphemism, twists and turns and vague explanation that we passed on to our children. She said that the English version is direct, interesting and irresistible. Provide the reference book "Talk about Sex".
About the physical development of children during adolescence: A beautiful mother shared that her husband is a doctor and she has many friends of gynecologists. They showed her son the anatomical map very early, and also passed on various cases faced by gynecological clinics. As for the child's development, they know the child's physical development in time through the intervention of medical professionals and the detection of all-round body secretions.
Another beautiful mother shared that regarding her girl's breast development, she would tell her girl about all kinds of situations that will occur during her development, such as pain, and encourage her children to face it frankly and stand up straight instead of hunching over because of shyness. I especially remember that my girl class teacher was really a good teacher. When the girls entered puberty, she did very well. By the fifth grade, almost all girls have begun to develop, and some children who are faster and have obvious development will have hunchbacks. At this time, the teacher called all the girls for a short meeting, and the girls who wanted to develop rapidly began to learn to wear small vests. Other undeveloped children are accompanied by vests twice a week, and they also talk privately about their parents buying vests for girls.
On the question of girls' coming to have a holiday: My girl class teacher collectively told all the girls about the knowledge of having a holiday, and also educated the male students in the class not to play pranks and laugh at the girls, and even told all the children in the class frankly when to have a holiday every month, telling them that they would be in a bad mood and uncomfortable during the holiday, and asked them to be obedient during this time. Children will always know: Oh, the teacher has a period and has a bad temper. Who are you criticizing today? In the eyes of children, don't mess with teachers when they are on vacation. Children and teachers are very open.
About having girls at home, we need to know: through the discussion of group mothers, everyone agrees that it is necessary to let their girls realize that society is complex to prevent some people with ulterior motives from hurting themselves; You know, it is risky to get involved in sexual relations before maturity; Teenage pregnancy and abortion can harm health; Being infected with AIDS will ruin your life; The most effective way to stay away from AIDS is to lead an honest and clean life and keep loyal to only one sexual partner.
On how children are not influenced by pornographic online videos: Mr. Ou said that children should not participate when they see them. Children who are interested in pornographic videos are usually out of curiosity and know nothing about the theoretical knowledge of sexual knowledge. If children know everything about sex, they will stop talking about it. Of course, it is normal to tell your child that your heart will blush, your heart will beat faster and your heart will be frantic. Don't feel guilty or sick.
On the communication between teenagers and the opposite sex: Communication with the opposite sex is a necessary process of personality maturity, and it is also a very natural phenomenon to become interested in the opposite sex at a certain age. If it is deliberately banned, it will suddenly be lifted at marriageable age, which will inevitably make them feel at a loss. In the conservative society in the past, women had to strictly abide by moral norms. After marriage, they suddenly accepted the mission entrusted by society and family and played an active role in their sexual life. It is very natural for them to please their husbands and have children ... it is very natural for them to communicate with each other. In some rigid schools or rigid teachers, it is often forbidden for boys and girls to communicate. Teenagers have no chance to learn how to get along. How can they fully understand the opposite sex and maintain good gender relations in the future? As a result, many adults who don't know the opposite sex can't have a healthy sex life. There will inevitably be love letters between the opposite sex. When dealing with such letters, parents should ask their children to be honest, and children should know who to associate with.
On the question of "If you find your son has seen nude photos", you must understand that photos can stimulate his sexual desire and help him vent his sexual desire. If you ban them blindly, it will only be harmful. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill unless children are interested in photos of sexual violence and abuse. There is no need to make a fuss about parents' concern for women and their curiosity about women's bodies. Children's concern about sex is concrete from the beginning when they ask where it comes from. This question is the first step to establish yourself, and parents must answer it seriously. After attending primary school, little boys will be curious about little girls and show their concern for gender differences by imitating doctors and lifting skirts.
At the round table, mothers discussed a lot, and there were many topics, but the contents were summed up:
1. It is necessary to educate children in adolescence;
2. Education time is advanced;
3. Parents should be calm, accepting, tolerant, understanding and unconditionally supporting the children's various situations to help them build their inner strength;
4. For children's "adolescent sex" education, the stage content is step by step according to age.
Only by emphasizing the family's love for children and believing in love can we better establish the connection between children and parents.
6. Emphasize that children must love and appreciate their bodies, which are our good friends for life.
This round table meeting, I believe, has brought many bright spots to Phoenix's mothers, and answered many questions, taking shy topics out to bask in the sun, just as we enjoy warm sunshine in winter. On the way to children's education, mothers grow up together.
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3, "My Baby Body" Oriental children's sex education picture book (three volumes in total), sharing traditional values, preventing physical abuse and abduction, and letting children take fewer detours during adolescence. Korea 18-year-old classics, essential books for children's families.
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