Then, in our family life, whose business is it to educate children? Many people may answer: it happens all the time. However, how can the division of labor be reasonable? Is it more suitable for children's growth? Principle of division of labor: lose personal feelings and start from the needs of children? 0? 2? 0? 2? 0? If you argue about educating your children as a housework, you must not be a mature parent. In this case, when we complain to each other and the words of blame are about to blurt out, we take a deep breath first, then calm down and say to ourselves: children need our company most, not quarreling, but raising children is to enjoy family happiness. Interpretation of responsibility: Zhou Zheng (psychologist, CCTV psychological interview guest): One person takes care of the child, and one person becomes the child's friend completely? 0? 2? 0? 2? 0? Education is just like management. Under the unified thinking, the division of labor must be clear. A person is mainly responsible for the daily life of children, avoiding the situation of broken files and disagreement. For example, the mother asks the child to wash his face and sleep at 8: 30, and the father takes care of the child at 9: 00. Although it is only a small difference, it will be very confusing and confusing for children. When he doesn't want to obey his mother's rules, he may say: Dad. Another advantage of letting one person (the most suitable candidate is the mother) mainly take care of the children is that this person can do more research on the health, nutrition and psychology of the children and be an expert parent to raise the children scientifically, while the other person does not need to be a mother-in-law and does not need too many terms in his heart. He took time out to play with the children and became their friends completely, giving them freedom and room for "mistakes" in a regular life. Xiaowu (Master of Education, Rutgers University, USA): Is the relationship between three people an isosceles triangle with the child as the vertex? 0? 2? 0? 2? 0? 2 Educate children, and husband and wife should participate together. Although the role is different, the impact on children is equally important. In the family relationship among children, father and mother, it should be an isosceles triangle with the child as the vertex, and the two antennas of the child and the father, the child and the mother are equal in length. Only in China culture, the participation of fathers is particularly neglected, and families without the role of fathers are problematic. Some people call it a single mother in marriage. Father is a boy's role model, and his attitude towards his mother and family determines what kind of relationship a boy will establish with his family members when he grows up. Father is a reference for girls, and his attitude towards girls affects girls' understanding of men. If the father ignores the girl, the girl will think that it is natural for her husband to ignore herself in the future. Therefore, neither mom nor dad should underestimate their responsibilities. Huang Xiaoxing (Waldorf education expert): Are there different responsibilities at different stages? 0? 2? 0? 2? 0? In family life, there is no absolute difference between who takes care of children more and who takes care of children less. However, both father and mother need to play their respective roles and give them love and help when they need it. Before the child is 3 years old, the mother's care is the source of the child's sense of security and affects the child's future growth. Insecurity can make children anxious, timid and unable to concentrate. Therefore, before the child is 3 years old, it is absolutely necessary for the mother to take care of it. At this time, the mother had better not say: I want to work, and you should take care of the children. Slowly, with the growth of children, fathers should participate more and more in children's lives, set a male example for children, let boys learn how to love their wives, how to deal with interpersonal relationships, and let girls know how to get along with men. General comment: The words of the three experts seem to be somewhat contradictory. After careful consideration, their thoughts are the same: parents play different roles in the process of raising children, but they are indispensable.