1. Everyone has this tendency. Once there is a problem, it should be solved immediately. Otherwise, they will be upset and fidgety. This mentality is obviously unrealistic, but what is even more frightening is that waiting for the problem to disappear by itself usually does not bring any good results.

The best decision-maker is willing to bear the pain caused by his own decision-making, but it does not affect his decision-making ability at all. Whether a person is outstanding or great depends on his ability to bear pain.

Quite a few people are not interested in knowing the facts. Some people give up drawing maps after puberty. Their original maps are narrow, vague and rough, and their understanding of the world is narrow and extreme. After middle age, most people think that the map is perfect, the world outlook is flawless and even sacred. They are not interested in new information and materials, and seem to be exhausted. Only a few lucky people can continue to work hard. They continue to explore, expand and update their understanding of the world until the end of their lives.

Only true love can help you improve yourself. The deeper you love, the greater the degree of self-improvement. True love, while promoting each other's mental maturity, will also make your mind grow, you will feel incomparable joy, and your happiness will become more real and lasting.

In essence, tolerance is a very selfish behavior, because its greatest value lies in its ability to heal its inner wounds. Therefore, the first beneficiary of tolerance is the forgiver himself, not the object of tolerance.

6. Suffering is the only way to maturity, and no one can avoid it.

7. An important feature of love is that love and being loved are not accessories of each other. People who give true love should always regard the object of love as an independent individual and always respect each other's independence and growth.

8. Those children who are bathed in the love of their parents can develop their minds soundly. They may also be dissatisfied with their parents' temporary neglect, but they are grateful for their love. Parents' cherish makes them know how to cherish themselves, how to choose progress instead of backwardness, and how to pursue happiness instead of giving up. They regard self-esteem and love as the starting point of life, which is more valuable than gold.

9. Love is neither an affair nor an affair. If you love someone, you must let him be independent, whether it is your parents, wife or children. If your behavior hinders their mental maturity, it is not true love. To love children, we must let them leave their parents and have the ability to think independently. You must let them face problems and pains bravely, face difficulties and be independent with their own feet.

10. If you want others to really love you, you have to make yourself a worthy person.

1 1. Undoubtedly, the love of parents determines the quality of family education. Love-filled education brings luck; Lack of love education can only lead to misfortune. Caring parents are good at examining children's needs and making rational and objective judgments. They may also suffer pain and suffering with their children when facing painful choices. Of course, children will gradually realize that parents are willing to accompany them to endure pain. They may not show gratitude immediately, but they can understand the meaning and essence of pain. They remind themselves that since mom and dad are willing to accompany me to endure the pain, the pain is not so terrible, and it is not necessarily a bad thing. I should also take responsibility and face my own pain. This is the starting point of self-discipline.

12. Delaying satisfaction means not coveting temporary comfort and rearranging the order of happiness and pain in life: First, face the problem directly and feel the pain; Then, solve the problem and enjoy greater happiness, which is the only feasible way of life.

13. Life is a hard journey, and the journey of mental maturity is quite long.

14. Most fears are related to laziness, which I deeply agree with. We are often afraid of change, in fact, because we are too lazy to adapt to the new environment, too lazy to learn new knowledge, and too lazy to set foot in new fields. But if this is always the case, how can we mature ourselves?

15. People can refuse anything, but they can never refuse to be mature. Refuse to mature, in fact, is to avoid problems and pain. The tendency to avoid problems and pains is the root of human psychological diseases. If it is not handled in time, it will pay a heavy price and suffer more pain. Mental maturity can't be achieved overnight. It's a hard journey.

16. If you can't solve the problem, it will become a problem.

17. Respecting facts means looking at reality truly and putting an end to falsehood, because falsehood and facts are completely opposite. The more facts we know, the more handy we will be in dealing with problems. The less you know about reality, the more confused your thinking will be. Falsity, illusion and fantasy can only make us feel at a loss.

18. It is a common problem for many people to be obsessed with the disabled and divorced from reality. Sticking to outdated concepts and ignoring reality are the root causes of many psychological diseases. What do psychologists call this situation? Empathy? .

19. The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a proactive attitude, which mainly includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.

20. The more honest a person is, the easier it is to remain honest, just as the more lies he tells, the more lies he has to make up to defend himself. Those who dare to face the facts can live calmly between heaven and earth, and can also get rid of the torture of conscience and the threat of fear.

2 1. Falling in love is a sudden collapse of a certain part of the self-boundary, which makes us? Self? With someone else? Self? Become a ... We suddenly rushed out of the boundaries of ourselves, and our emotions broke out into a torrent of our loved ones, so the loneliness disappeared and was replaced by an indescribable sense of ecstasy. We were integrated with our loved ones!

22. Nothing in the world can last. In other words, happiness is short-lived, and misfortune should be the norm. ? It is hard for him to accept that some people in this world are trustworthy. He believes that if you take the risk to trust them, it is tantamount to deviating from the inherent map.

23. Life is a process of facing and solving problems. Questions can inspire our wisdom and courage; The problem is that our success or failure has reached a watershed. Trying to solve problems can make the mind and mind mature. The tendency to avoid problems and pains is the root of human psychological diseases. In fact, if you are desperate to avoid problems and pains, you will lose the opportunity to solve problems and promote spiritual growth, which will lead to more and more serious mental illness, and long-term and chronic mental illness will prevent people's spiritual growth. Without timely treatment, the mind will atrophy and degenerate.

24. Everyone is afraid of pain. When you encounter a problem, you panic and run. Some people choose to delay time, and the fantasy problems will disappear by themselves. Some people choose to turn a blind eye to the problem, deluding themselves that the problem has nothing to do with themselves; Some people choose entertainment, alcohol or drugs, and want to get rid of the problem from their consciousness, so that they can forget the existence of the problem as much as possible in exchange for a moment's relief. We always avoid problems instead of solving them head-on. We always want to stay away from problems and don't want to suffer the pain of solving them.

25. Life is really short, far from what we think, and it will never be really far, so be kind to those who love you and to yourself. Today is your pillow, tomorrow may be your stranger. If you can't love well in this life, don't expect to meet again in the next life.

26. Life is full of hardships. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths in the world. Its greatness lies in that once it is figured out, it can realize the transcendence of life. As long as we know that life is hard? As long as we truly understand and accept this, then we will never suffer from the hardships of life again.

27. There is also the most common misunderstanding of love, that is, regarding dependence as true love. Psychologists encounter this problem every day. This often happens to patients who are extremely depressed because of emotional frustration. They can't stand loneliness, and even have suicidal thoughts or threats of suicide. They said bitterly: I don't want to live any more! What's the point of living without my husband (wife, boyfriend, girlfriend)? How much I love him (her)! ? I want to tell them: what you describe is not love, but over-dependence. To be exact, that's parasitic psychology.

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