How to educate children to hit people? In addition to the little protagonist of the party, there are three children coming to the party. These three are all boys, one is almost three years old, one is one year and ten months old, and the other is Wewe Chan, one year and more than three months old. Compared with the other two children, Wewe Chan is very quiet. He focused on what he was interested in and was curious about the furnishings in the room. The other two children are very aggressive. Wewe Chan just watched, didn't take or want their things, and was knocked down by a three-year-old child. The one-year-old and ten-month-old child reached out and hit Wewe Chan. For the first time, his mother fended him off and told him not to hit his brother. Mother didn't hear clearly how his mother taught him. After a while, the little guy came running again and tried to hit Wewe Chan again, but his father stopped him. When he came to fight Wewe Chan, Wewe Chan just stood there, not knowing how to fight back or hide. When the child came to beat Wewe Chan for the third time, his mother was really angry. Because I think his mother is really out of line. In the process, I didn't see her give any strict education to the child in their family. I think it is because his mother didn't get proper education that his children beat Wewe Chan again and again. Mother shouted at the child in that family and told him, "Don't hit your brother again. Your mother doesn't care about you, does she? Then I'll handle it. If you want to hit your brother again, I will hit you. " Of course, the little guy didn't listen to me. This finally helped his mother. At least, he kept a close eye on his children and took many preventive measures. Unlike at the beginning, he just followed casually and let the little guy mess around. One-year-old and ten-month-old children tried to fan three-year-old children with flies in their hands. If he didn't help his mother quickly, he would have been pushed down by a three-year-old child. This one-year-old and ten-month-old child was taken away. I heard the mother of a three-year-old child say, "Don't you dare hit us, grab the fly swatter from his hand and take your brother to hit him." The three-year-old child came and took Wewe Chan's hand to find another child. Of course, mother can't let Wewe Chan go. What happened next was that the two children got into a fight as soon as they met, and it took two adults to stop it. The mothers of two families just pretend to say "this child, this child". I'm afraid that Wewe Chan will get hurt. I always stay with Wewe Chan and never leave. This banquet is really exhausting! How should children be educated when they hit people? Wewe Chan's current friends are a few days behind Wewe Chan. They can't hit people yet. Sometimes they push because they want the same toy. If Wewe Chan pushes others, her mother usually scolds them and sometimes slaps Wewe Chan's hand. Mom didn't feel anything wrong with what she did before, but she was a little worried when she came back from dinner. If your mother keeps educating you, will you be bullied by children who are used to being indulged by their parents because you can't fight when you grow up in kindergarten? Mom is really worried. Before you could walk, my mother took you to the community garden to play. I once saw a two-and-a-half-year-old girl hit a boy over three years old. The little boy just stood there, didn't fight back or hide, just cried when it hurt. Later, I heard from his mother that he was very strict in hitting people when he was a child, so now he dares not hit others when others hit him.
Your child was beaten by other children. How to educate parents not to get angry in a hurry, but to calmly distinguish between different situations. Is it your child's fault in the first place? Because of the lack of language skills, very young children often have physical movements in front. At this time, other children will think that the child is "grabbing toys" and drive the child away by hand.
If it is really an "aggressive" beating behavior, it is mostly because of the child's "self-centered consciousness": if parents often let their children act willfully in the process of parenting, it is often easy for children to become possessive and unwilling to share, which will lead to the behavior of fighting for toys, beating people and arresting people. In addition, children are not good at expressing their wishes and dealing with problems in words, so they choose the simplest and most direct way to deal with them. Children's imitation of adults' behavior is also a reason why children solve problems through quarrels and fights. After clarifying the reasons, parents can guide their children to face it correctly: be tolerant of understandable beating behavior, and learn to face it if it is bullying, provocation and malice. This is an important lesson that everyone should learn all his life.
Avoid extreme methods
When a child is beaten by a child, experts remind parents that patience is not desirable. If parents blindly teach their children to be patient in everything, or even scold them without asking why, it will make them cringe, timid and unconfident, which will not only have a negative impact on their physical and mental development, but also make children who like to hit people take pleasure in provoking "war." It is actually the most instinctive self-defense response for the child who was beaten to fight back.
On the other hand, "fighting violence with violence" is not omnipotent. If parents insist on letting their children "fight violence with violence", it may lead to more and more serious physical injuries, which no parents want to see. Children may learn from fighting, but don't learn to fight. If you are beaten, don't fight back, fight back; You can bear it, but don't give in everywhere.
Step 3: Teach children to protect themselves.
It is very important for parents to teach their children how to protect themselves as soon as possible. If you can learn to react in advance, that's good: don't get close to aggressive children; If you are a very young child, you should pay attention to keeping the child at an appropriate safe distance from other children when playing; Start doing it and walk away to avoid further injury. In addition, experts remind kindergarten children that when children want to hit him, they should tell the teacher loudly and stop it in time. In addition, parents should also teach their children correct communication skills, learn to win with wisdom, and pay special attention to cultivating their language skills.
Step 4: Give your child time to grow up.
Judging from children's psychological development, aggression is inevitable in children's social interaction. It is in the process of "attacking, being attacked and fighting back" that children gradually form their own sense of strength, gradually understand their own strength and limits, find out how to solve problems through their own strength, and thus learn how to get along with others. With the growth of age, children will gradually realize that overbearing children and cowardly children are often lonely; A confident and friendly child can get along with others and be happy.
Children always quarrel with their peers. Adults must first learn to stop fighting: if two children fight together and we adults see it, we must first learn to stop fighting and separate the two children so that they can't continue fighting, instead of conniving at them. Fighting will always hurt children, and adults will feel uncomfortable, especially when they see children suffering. It's best to pull them away first.
Let the children admit their mistakes voluntarily: if they are found fighting, ask why they are fighting. After pulling them away, ask what the reason is and ask the children to apologize to each other. If they are smart parents, they should educate their children in a smart way. If it's not your child's fault, you should also express it euphemistically to the other party. After all, children don't hold grudges, and they are still good friends after fighting. Control your temper: If both parents see their children in the crowd and their children suffer, they will take the initiative to help, and the other side will take the initiative to help, then this will turn into a war between adults. If it is radical, there will be casualties. I regret it when I think about it later, and I often can't hold my breath. Therefore, parents should treat their children objectively, not just for their children, but let them face it themselves. Parents should take the initiative to take responsibility for their children's past: if two children fight, parents should take the initiative to apologize if it is the child's fault. Don't think this is a shameful thing. Taking the initiative to admit mistakes is also a role model for children. You can't ask the question of face. After all, children's education is the top priority. We can't put it off any longer. Sum up experience for children's future life.
Children help classmates fight and stop classes to go home. How to educate and reason with children and tell them where their interests lie so that children will not make such mistakes in the future.
Two children had a fight. How can I persuade them to see what the children are arguing about first? If they are fighting, they should find out who started it first. They must accept criticism and make a rule that no one can start a fight first, and those who pick things up should be severely punished. If you are bored and don't talk, talk to each other alone, find out what the problem is, and then make the best use of it.
Fighting with others, if others can't beat me, grab the bench and try to attack me, what should I do? Put the plate sideways, or step back, and don't try to guard his bench with your limbs.
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How to educate a child who steals money from others in the dormitory? If the child has never had these inappropriate behaviors, then first understand why the child steals money and what she wants to do with it, and then make a decision. If the child steals money for a reason, we should guide him to tell her the legal consequences of such behavior, and tell the child that doing so will not only hurt the interests of others, but also hurt his own morality. If there is a need for money next time, he can tell his parents generously, and their parents will help her solve the difficulties, with less scolding and more guidance. If the child steals money without reason and has no intention of introspection, tell him the seriousness of the matter severely, and then communicate with him in the next step according to the child's personality. The point of this matter is 1, building trust between children and parents. 2. Let children realize and understand that such behavior has violated the law and hurt the interests of themselves and others. The education of children is really not easy, and I have encountered many problems in the process of re-education. Please wait patiently and learn more about this education information at ordinary times. Personally, I feel that traditional culture is still very suitable for children's education, which saves a lot of worry.