Sexual apathy refers to women's loss of interest in sex life, even indifference and disgust. This is a typical sexual dysfunction. People's sexual response is controlled by thinking activities, and all kinds of negative emotions such as inhibition, self-blame, anxiety and fear can inhibit the emergence of orgasm through the influence of cerebral cortex on the central nervous system and hypothalamus-pituitary gonad axis. The reasons for this situation generally come from two aspects: ① The patient has some diseases, such as ovarian insufficiency, or dysfunction of endocrine glands such as adrenal cortex and pituitary gland. ② It is caused by psychological factors such as inhibition, fear and sexual disharmony. Generally speaking, women produce sexual pleasure and orgasm more slowly than men. If the man can't adapt to the physiological characteristics of women, it will lead to long-term unsatisfactory sexual life, and some even cause abdominal tension, pelvic muscle spasm and vaginal spasm during sexual intercourse. This is not only the result of frigidity, but also the reason that causes or aggravates frigidity. According to medical research and analysis, the vast majority of female frigidity is caused by mental (psychological) factors. So first of all, let go of the burden on your back and build confidence. A large number of survey data at home and abroad prove that female frigidity decreases year by year with the increase of marriage age, and the sexual life between husband and wife will become more harmonious. Secondly, coordinate the feelings of husband and wife. Because there is no love, marriage or disharmony in marriage, there will be no pleasure in sex. In the family, the wife is not a vassal of the husband. Only with more care and consideration can she gradually forget her unfortunate past and stop expressing her dissatisfaction in words. I can often walk, travel and watch movies with her. Make more efforts in housework, give more encouragement in spirit, and constantly give her psychological comfort. When there are different opinions in life, we should adopt the attitude of seeking common ground while reserving differences and being tolerant and generous, so as to alleviate and solve contradictions. Third, the two sides need to cooperate closely, make more preparations before sexual intercourse, and have sexual intercourse when the wife has sexual desire, which also contributes to the transformation of sexual apathy. When a wife temporarily doesn't want to share a room because of physical or psychological factors, don't force her to have sex just to satisfy her sexual desire, which will make her more disgusted and disgusted with sex life. -Analysis of female frigidity. Among all kinds of male and female sexual dysfunction, female frigidity is the only one that patients can talk about. There is a simple reason. In order to show "seriousness", a man can say that he never goes out to have sex, but he will never say that he is not interested in sex, otherwise he may be suspected of incompetence by his peers. Women, on the other hand, tend to admit that they are not interested in sex in front of their peers and will not ask for sex on their own initiative. People will not only laugh at their "incompetence", but also praise their virtue and virtue, because this is the requirement of moral education in China since ancient times. On the contrary, if they say that they have a strong sexual desire and often ask for sex, they are likely to be considered adulterers. Therefore, some scholars have pointed out that the traditional moral education in China not only makes people virtuous and their families "stable", but also brings misfortune to women in China. Dr. Ma Xiaonian, who is licensed as a global therapist, wrote that the incidence of female frigidity is about 30-40%, in other words, one third of women have frigidity. With such a high proportion, are these women born like this? No, the ancients said, "Eating color is also sexual." Sexual desire, like appetite, is innate, but it can only be expressed and released incisively and vividly after sexual maturity. Some female compatriots will ask: "Is sexual apathy normal?" The answer to this question is "Is it normal to have no appetite and not want to eat?" The answer is the same. Anorexia is morbid, and frigidity is certainly morbid. Another patient asked, "Can frigidity be left untreated?" Sure! But you have to bear the risk that the marriage will break down because of the disharmony between husband and wife's sexual life or that the husband will find an affair because he can't get sexual satisfaction. Is it worth it? It turns out that "if only from the perspective of physiological ability, women's sexual desire is much stronger than that of men, because she has four advantages." First, women have more emotional areas on the body surface, including vaginal opening, clitoris and nipple, while men only have penis; Second, women don't have refractory period, and they don't necessarily' fade' after reaching orgasm, so it is not easy to produce depressed physical and mental reactions; Third, you can reach multiple orgasms in a row; Fourth, she doesn't need to accumulate semen like a man and then throw it into the next sexual intercourse. But it is difficult for women in real life to achieve the above four points. Even if some women are adequately and properly caressed, it is difficult for them to reach orgasm or even have no sexual desire. This is not a physical problem, but a cold heart. " (Excerpted from an article by Wu Zongjian, a lecturer in Marxist philosophy) So, how is sexual apathy caused? There are many complicated reasons for women's frigidity, which is not easy to understand. Common clinical causes are: 1, past or even childhood trauma (rape, incest, sexual harassment, etc. ) .2. Some adolescents are abnormal in shape, afraid of being known, and have a sense of inferiority. 3. After the failure of love or marriage, they think that they have been cheated, and even form a revenge mentality for men. 4, worry about pregnancy, curettage, sexually transmitted diseases and other possible pain, so as to avoid sexual contact. 5. Sexual pain or discomfort makes them afraid. 6. The woman only regards sex life as her wife's obligation, not her physical and psychological needs like eating; If coupled with the lack of sexual knowledge, leading to lack of sexual skills, monotonous way, and even orgasm disorder, sex life will be no fun at all. I expect too much from my spouse. After marriage, I found that the real husband is far from the ideal spouse before marriage, but I don't want to face the reality and adapt to it. 8. The husband lacks sexual attraction or sexual dysfunction. 9. If the relationship between husband and wife is tense or bad, the wife will refuse sexual intercourse as a means of revenge or seduction. This is the stupidest means in the world, which leads to marital change, affair and husband's impotence and premature ejaculation, and the ultimate victim will be the revenger himself. 10, some acute and severe diseases, chronic diseases and the side effects of their therapeutic drugs will reduce sexual interest, or inhibit sexual desire for fear that sexual life may aggravate diseases and damage the body. 1 1, things that lead to apathy, such as high work pressure, fatigue, excessive drinking or ideological pressure. 12. After giving birth to a child, his posture changes. He thinks that he has lost his attraction to the opposite sex, or he will pay too much attention to his husband (some because the baby sucks nipples to satisfy his sexual desire), or because the tedious housework makes him lose his old passion for sex. 13. Some women feel unclean in their private parts and dare not defile their spouses. 14, due to the influence of traditional moral education since childhood, I think that "women can't actively ask for sexual relations, otherwise they will be lewd", "husband and wife should actively have sexual intercourse, and the woman should passively cooperate", "Sexual intercourse is shameless behavior" and so on, even if they have sexual desire, they dare not express it clearly, and long-term suppression of sexual desire may turn into sexual apathy. In fact, these views are all wrong. Since sexual desire is the same as appetite, it should be treated equally, that is, eat when you are hungry and eat how you want. For the treatment of frigidity, it is mainly aimed at the above reasons, among which psychological counseling is very important. Re-learning correct sexual knowledge and learning to appreciate yourself and your partner's body will help to improve the fun of sex. Taking medicine to regulate body function will lay a material foundation for overcoming sexual apathy. If necessary, female sexual AIDS can be used for treatment, or doctors can consult masters's sexy concentrated training method. Joint treatment between husband and wife is a powerful measure to ensure curative effect, and the most important thing is to establish determination, patience and confidence. How many good things are there in life? Family happiness, how can you give up? ! -The treatment of female hyposexuality refers to a desire or driving force generated by stimulation of a specific part of the brain, which is a special feeling that makes people seek or accept sexual experience. The low sexual desire of women refers to the persistent, repeated or complete lack of sexual fantasies and desires, except that it may be the result of mental disorders such as obsessive-compulsive disorder or major depression, that is, women lack subjective will and interest in sexual activities, or the requirements of asexual activities, including sexual fantasies, sexual dreams and masturbation, and even hate all sexual and non-sexual intimate relationships. Low libido is the most common and serious female sexual dysfunction. It can occur alone, or it can coexist with other sexual dysfunction, which is mutually causal. For example, women who have asexual orgasms inhibit sexual desire for a long time, and the decline in sexual desire reduces sexual excitement, so it is difficult to have orgasms. The low sexual desire of women is mostly caused by social and psychological factors. Because sexual values that discriminate against and restrict women's sexual activities are still widespread in society, women are more susceptible to social and psychological factors than men. Women's anxiety, depression, excessive pressure in life, a blow to their career, serious illness or death of their children or relatives, and long-term marital discord will all cause low sexual desire. Among them, some women can trace back to childhood and adolescence to receive repressive education or suffer sexual trauma, such as rape, incest and sexual harassment. Due to the above factors, the negative conditioned reflex they established in their early years is strengthened, while their sexual desire after marriage is obviously suppressed and low. A few women can also have low sexual desire due to gonadal insufficiency, increased prolactin secretion by pituitary adenoma, long-term use of antihypertensive diuretics, acute and chronic alcoholism and other factors. Therefore, women's low desire can be caused by social psychological factors, physiological or organic factors, and can also be the result of the joint action of many factors. The treatment of female low libido is difficult, but not all of them are incurable. As long as we cooperate closely with sexual health care doctors and insist on long-term patient examination and treatment, we will also receive certain results. Let's talk about the corresponding treatment methods according to the reasons. If it is caused by psychological factors, it is necessary to find out the potential reasons, and with the guidance and assistance of doctors, dispel concerns and hidden worries, and then even if sexual desire is low, it is possible to stimulate sexual excitement and obtain sexual satisfaction through sexual intercourse. When necessary, take the sexy concentrated training method. This method is to let the patient and his wife first give up sexual intercourse for a period of time, and sexual activities are limited to hugging and touching other parts of the body except genitals and breasts. When touching can bring sexiness, they will start touching genitals and breasts. After about two weeks of training, they will have sexual intercourse when touching genitals and breasts, which can cause a good sexual response, but orgasm is not necessarily necessary. In the course of treatment, patients can strengthen their sexual imagination by reading some erotic books or images, get rid of the old idea that only men can be the initiators of sexual activities, and adopt a female-led approach to stimulate and mobilize women's subjective initiative in sexual activities during sexual intercourse. In addition, they can also try some Chinese and western medicines with aphrodisiac effect, such as female patients with depression. Taking clopidogrel can not only make some women's depressive symptoms disappear or alleviate, but also enhance some women's sexual desire. If endocrine examination confirms hypogonadism, low-dose estrogen therapy can be used to replace the deficiency of estrogen in the body, and methyltestosterone therapy can also be used to enhance sexual desire. If pituitary adenoma is found by pituitary angiography or CT scan, bromocriptine can be used for treatment or surgery to enhance sexual desire. For those who take antihypertensive diuretics or alcoholism for a long time, the drugs or dosage should be adjusted according to the condition, and alcohol should be gradually stopped. There are many reasons for women's frigidity, which are also very complicated, and it is even more difficult to find out absolutely. But in clinic, there are many factors, which often have a certain relationship with female frigidity. When sexual apathy occurs, you may wish to analyze it yourself. If there are any abnormalities or incentives, get out of the shadows as soon as possible, improve the predicament and enjoy human sexual happiness. Common factors that easily lead to sexual apathy: a history of sexual trauma (rape, incest, sexual harassment, etc. ) In the past or even in childhood; Some adolescents are abnormal in shape, afraid of being known, and have inferiority complex; After the failure of love or marriage, I thought I was cheated, and even formed a revenge mentality for men; Worried about the possible pain caused by pregnancy, curettage and sexually transmitted diseases, so as to avoid sexual contact; Pain or discomfort during sexual intercourse makes them afraid of sex; Women only regard sex life as their wife's obligation, not as their physical and psychological needs like eating; If coupled with the lack of sexual knowledge, resulting in a lack of sexual skills, monotonous way, and even orgasm disorder, sexual life will be no fun at all; I expect too much from my spouse. After marriage, I found that the real husband is far from the ideal spouse before marriage, but I don't want to face the reality and adapt to it. The husband lacks sexual attraction or sexual dysfunction; If the relationship between husband and wife is tense or bad, the wife will refuse sexual intercourse as a means of revenge or seduction; Some acute and severe diseases, chronic diseases and the side effects of their therapeutic drugs will reduce sexual interest, or inhibit sexual desire because of fear that sexual life may aggravate diseases and damage the body; Work stress, fatigue, alcoholism or excessive ideological pressure caused by something lead to indifference; After giving birth to a child, she changes her posture, thinking that she has lost her attraction to the opposite sex, or shifted too much attention to her husband to her children, or lost her previous passion for sex because of the tedious housework; Some women feel unclean about their genitals and dare not defile their spouses; Influenced by traditional moral education since childhood, they think that "women can't ask for sexual relations on their own initiative, otherwise they will be lewd", "men should take the initiative to have sexual intercourse, and women should passively cooperate" and "sexual intercourse is shameless". Even if they have sexual desire, they dare not express it clearly. Long-term suppression of sexual desire may turn into sexual apathy. In fact, these views are all wrong. Since sexual desire is the same as appetite, it should be treated equally, that is, eat when you are hungry and eat how you want. It should be noted that women really should not be frigid. From the perspective of physiological ability, women's sexual desire is much stronger than that of men. Women have unique sexual advantages. There are more emotional areas on the surface of women's bodies, including vaginal opening, clitoris and nipples, while men only have penises. Women have no refractory period, will not inevitably fade after reaching orgasm, and will not easily produce depressed physical and mental reactions; Women can reach multiple orgasms in a row; Women don't need to accumulate semen like men and then throw it into the next sexual intercourse. These advantages are worth exploring.