Education is divided into two parts: school and family. Compared with family education, school education only plays an auxiliary role. A well-educated child, even if he has not received the education from a top school, can become a kind, charitable and useful person, and this is the ultimate goal of family education.
So what exactly is "good family education"? This is the answer that many parents have been pursuing all their lives, but most people have not found the answer all their lives. They educate their children according to their own ideas, and eventually their children will be mediocre all their lives.
The answer given by Dou Guimei, a famous education expert and principal of Tsinghua primary school, is that the best family education is to put sugar first, then salt, and finally calcium. Many parents don't understand the relationship. Here are some examples to illustrate it.
One: put some sugar first to make the children more courageous.
There is such a little boy who has been a bad boy in the big population since he was a child. He is very naughty, teasing cats and dogs. He was finally admitted to the university, but decided to drop out of school and start a business. His first venture ended in failure and he was heavily in debt, but he still refused to give up. He borrowed money everywhere and started a business. In the end, he succeeded and became a famous entrepreneur. This boy is Jobs, the "father of Apple".
Jobs once said, "I can succeed because I have a good mother. Even if others think I can't, my mother has never hit me. "
Good family education needs to give children enough love and encouragement, become the strongest backing behind them, and give them enough courage to fly high.
Two: add some salt to let children face setbacks directly.
In the variety show Super Brain, Li Yunlong, a talented boy from China, thinks he lost to Andrei, an Italian player. When the results didn't come out, Li Yunlong once collapsed in his seat and began to cry. Only when he learned that he had won did he calm down.
On the other hand, Andrea, an Italian player of the same age, is much calmer. When he was in Li Yunlong, he felt the same way and cried with him. He also wants to comfort Li Yunlong. When he learned that he had lost, he also sincerely blessed Li Yunlong and gave him a big hug.
Although gifted teenagers are more or less proud, this character of not daring to face up to winning or losing will definitely suffer in the future. Therefore, parents can add some salt to their children in family education so that they can afford to lose money. Only by accepting defeat frankly can they make a leap to win.
Finally, don't forget to supplement calcium.
In a public service advertisement in Thailand, the little girl and her mother lead a hard life. The little girl often watches the children next to her eat popsicles. She is eager, but the situation at home doesn't allow her to buy them. Her mother came up with a good idea to make pineapple into popsicles, and the little girl was very happy to eat it.
Later, the little girl made her own pineapple popsicles and went out to sell them. On the first day, she didn't sell any. The little girl was depressed, but her mother didn't help her. She just suggested that the little girl learn how to sell it. The little girl was inspired to mark the price with crayons and attract people with DIY cute pictures. As expected, the little girl's popsicle business is getting better and better.
At this time, my mother knew that she would have the ability to survive after leaving her daughter. This is the calcium supplement in education. It is much better for children to do it by themselves than to teach them by hand. Cultivating children's independence is a necessary process of family education.
Putting sugar in the first place is to let children feel the love of their parents and give them the greatest encouragement. Adding some salt is to make children unable to afford to lose, face setbacks directly and have the indomitable spirit. Finally, calcium supplementation is to learn to let go and let children have independent ability.
A good family education is indispensable to all three. Only when "sugar, salt and calcium" are available can children fly high.