The child's first teacher is called a parent. Parents' daily behaviors are conspicuous to children and are of great educational significance. Due to lack of experience and judgment, I can't tell what I can learn and what I can't learn. Some parents say one thing in front of their children and say another later. Children are not fools, they all believe what they see more. Some parents ask their children to be polite, but they often curse themselves. As time goes on, children learn to swear instead of speaking politely. Always "duplicity" will only make parents feel that there is no certain WeChat. Children will be more and more dissatisfied because they don't have to carry out what they say.
Parents deny their children too much, and every child needs affirmation, praise and encouragement around him. Not every day, but "you can't! No way! Because some parents think that denying their children can make them work harder and go up a flight of stairs. But in fact, the child's heart is not strong enough to stop his parents' bullets. Most children are fragile and sensitive, and parents' repeated negation will only hurt self-confidence and self-esteem. Even some parents beat their children by magnifying their shortcomings. A person has been denied by the outside world for a long time. Over time, he will begin to doubt himself, whether he can really do well, and the people around him will be alienated.
When we were young, parents asked their children to do more housework by "paying for housework", but once this material compensation disappeared, the children would lose their initiative and be indifferent no matter how urged. What parents need to pay attention to is that once you master the degree of compensation, once you cross this degree, the child will be out of control. For example, I told my child that if he came first in the class in the final exam, he would buy his favorite toys. This encourages children too much, and over time they begin to rely on material compensation. If one day parents don't reward him, learning will lose its meaning to children.
With the growth of age, feelings are more and more full, but children can't express their feelings and meanings in the right language. When adults can't understand children's performance, children will become very anxious. In his opinion, his parents should be the people who know him best. Therefore, when a child grows up, his willpower is hindered, and his feelings are his best performance. Therefore, at this time, parents can't understand and think that children can't obey their own discipline, so they are angry. Jane nelsen provided us with the answer in her positive self-discipline. The core of active discipline is to let children grow up in a cordial and firm atmosphere and become responsible and capable people.
The best way to convince children that I can do it and let them live a better independent life is to improve their personal cognitive ability, make them believe that everything they do will be successful and cultivate their self-confidence. When a child wants to do something, parents can give him appropriate encouragement and give him some experience guidance. I believe you can do it! Make children feel valuable. I am very valuable. "I am not an indispensable existence." What everyone needs, my existence is valuable. How important it is to let children feel their own existence value through active discipline.