The first article: the transformation of coke

Coke has lived with grandparents for a long time, and has become very "free" under the pampering of grandparents. It either interrupts in group activities, or runs around, or solves disputes with fists and does dangerous things, which makes us nervous, so that whenever something goes wrong in the big class, the children say "it must be coke" without thinking. In order to change Coke's behavior, I decided to talk to Coke's mother.

After listening to my simple description of Coke's performance, Coke's mother was surprised: "The little guy is so naughty, I will go to find him when I go home!" " "I quickly said," Yes, if we don't start adjusting now, it will be a problem in primary school! """I have been ready to be looked for by my teacher every day since I went to primary school." Coke mother answered a little helplessly. I felt a little strange after listening to it. How can Coke's mother say something discouraging so quickly? So I advised her: "whatever happens in class now, the children will say that it is coke." I really don't want to see such a result. However, all the children are watching. Coke really always does something that violates the class rules, so children will leave a bad impression on coke. If we start to help Coca-Cola learn to control its behavior now, then Coca-Cola will have the opportunity to re-establish its image in the new environment of primary schools. " I hope to use "new environment, new starting point" to encourage coke mother and let her rebuild her confidence. Sure enough, Coke's mother seemed refreshed and her brow stretched slightly.

I went on to say, "At present, Coke's self-control ability is still relatively poor. We must help Coca Cola know what to do and what not to do through external control. " But I was shocked by the information provided by Coke's mother: "This child is emotionally disordered, so his self-control ability is very poor. We have trained him in class outside. " I was surprised: "sensory imbalance?" "Yes. Because coke was delivered by caesarean section, it was not squeezed, so the sensory system was out of balance. We tested him, and he wasn't serious. There are still many children who are more serious than him, and some of them were discovered in the third and fourth grades. " I quickly searched my mind about the attitude of Coke's mother to Coke's behavior problems, and then I understood why she felt so helpless. It turned out that she attributed the "free" behavior of coke to physiological reasons, so she relaxed her requirements for coke ideologically and thought that he could not do it naturally. I really hope that coke mom can understand that although there are physiological reasons for coke problems, this is not the most important thing. Good behavior is formed under the conscious cultivation of adults. I decided to go back and have a good look at the information and learn more about sensory disorders. I also hope that coke's mother will not give up coke because of this, but help coke through effective strategies. So I said, "Since there are some physiological reasons, it is more important for adults to consciously intervene." I really hope that you can reach an agreement with your teacher, and strictly demand coke in your behavior and habits, so that coke can make progress. We can start from a small aspect, such as letting him sit and eat well, and holding his hand when grandpa comes to pick him up, don't run around. You can also negotiate a contract with Coke, for example, make some demands on him for a week, and you will be rewarded if you do it, and punished if you don't. The content of rewards and punishments should also be agreed with children, preferably positive. Don't ask too much at a time, step by step, so the pressure on coke will be less. Let's try it together, shall we? ""ok, we will cooperate. " Coke mother nodded in agreement.

After about two weeks, the situation of Coca-Cola has not improved at all, but has intensified. One morning, as soon as I arrived at the kindergarten, the class teacher said to me, "Coke didn't listen well to the group activity yesterday, so he ran to play with toys. I told him to run until he ran outside the activity room." I was very angry when I heard that, so I immediately talked to Coke. Coke didn't care at first, then took my hand and said, "Teacher, don't give up on me!" " "This sentence deeply touched me. I re-examined my conversation with Coke and felt it necessary to talk to Coke's mother again.

At noon the next day, I invited Coke's mother to the office. I briefly described the performance of Coke the day before, and Coke's mother was very angry: "Really, this little guy is terrible!" " "Yes, I was as angry as you at first, but later when I talked to Coke, I was moved by the children." Coke mother wait for a while stared at me. I continued: "After I called you, I said to Coke:' Coke, when I called your mother just now, I could hear that your mother was very sad and her heart was broken!'" "Hearing this, Coke cried and said to me,' It's all your fault. You told my mom! I said,' If you hadn't done this, I wouldn't have told your mother. Coke didn't speak after listening. It can be seen from here that coke cares about your mother, and children with love have hope. "Coke mother listened to the rim of the eye instantly red. I paused and then said, "I also asked Coke,' Do you know what giving up is?' Coke said he didn't know, so I told him,' Do whatever you want, even if you become a bad person, no one cares about you! Do you want the teacher to give up on you? Coke shook his head and said,' No, teacher, don't give up on me! This sentence really touched me. So, I asked you to see what we can do to help Coca-Cola. "

Coke's mother suddenly shed tears, and it can be seen that she was also moved by my conversation with Coke. At this time, I took out a piece of material, which I recently collected about "sensory imbalance". I showed her the information in order to make her understand that sensory disturbance is not a terrible disease. In fact, many people have some degree of sensory impairment. The tests done by some institutions outside are not necessarily scientific, and the influence of this physiological factor on children's behavior habits is not decisive. Coke mother listened to my analysis while reading the information and nodded thoughtfully. So, I went on to say, "In my conversation with Coke, I found that Coke knows what to do and what not to do. He knows in his mind, but he can't do it in his behavior. In addition to physiological factors, the influence of adults is also very important. We can't let go of his behavior. Once we make a request, we must stick to it. "

At this time, the child got up after a nap. I said to coke's mother, "there will be a group activity later." Let's go and see how Coke performs. " Coke mother nodded in agreement. Not long after the activity started, Coke got up and ran to the toy cupboard to play with toys. Coke's mother pointed with her hand and shouted, "Coke!" "Coke smiled shamefully and returned to his seat. But after a while, Coke stood up, pushed open the chair and walked to the back of the activity room. Coke's mother hurried over, sent Coke back to her seat and explained a few words in Coke's ear.

After watching the activity, Coke's mother nodded thoughtfully: "I didn't expect him to do this in a group activity." I nodded and said, "Yes, now Coke needs adults to supervise him all the time and help him restrain his behavior." Coke's mother shook her head and said, "His father and I still pay more attention to him, but his grandfather is too fond of him, so he is not afraid of his grandfather at all, and we are busy at ordinary times ..." "I know you are busy, but there is only one child. If you help Coke develop good habits from childhood, it will benefit him for life, and you can enjoy the happiness brought by Coke in the process! " On reflection, she said, "I see. I'll go back and discuss it with his father. We will talk to our grandparents. Or we'll take coke home and bring it ourselves. ...

It can be seen from this conversation that Coke's mother was deeply moved. On the one hand, she felt the words of coke, on the other hand, she also felt the behavior of coke. The performance of Coke in group activities made Coke's mother realize the seriousness of the problem and made her really pay attention to it ideologically. This conversation also made me realize that Coke's grandfather is an important role in changing Coke.

In the next period of time, in addition to strengthening the guidance of cola behavior, we also use the opportunity of parents picking up their children every day to communicate with grandpa cola. In addition to timely feedback on Coke's performance in the park, we also listened to Grandpa's performance at home, understood Grandpa's thoughts and made euphemistic suggestions. We learned that after the last conversation, Coke's parents would go to grandpa's house to accompany Coke after work every day until Coke fell asleep. I will take coke home and bring it myself on weekends. After listening to Coke's mother talking about Coke in kindergarten, Grandpa began to pay attention to it. When he sees coke's bad behavior, he will stop to correct it, and he won't just let it go.

Gradually, we found that coke's behavior is changing quietly, especially in group activities, the phenomenon that coke casually goes to play with toys is much less, and the conflict with peers is also reduced.

From this home cooperation incident, I summed up two experiences:

1. To carry out effective home cooperation, we must first understand the background of each family and find out the key points. In the Coke incident, the children's physiological reasons made parents give up hope and relax their demands. In view of this situation, we consciously pass on scientific ideas to parents and give them professional guidance, so that they can regain their confidence and realize that the power of education can change children's behavior habits. Parenting style of ancestors is another important issue of Coke family education. After realizing this problem, we put forward some specific suggestions and requirements through the mutual influence of family members and daily communication with Grandpa Coke, so that the family's requirements can be agreed.

2. Various communication methods can be used in family cooperation. In the Coke incident, we not only talked with parents, but also collected information to let parents know the scientific knowledge of "sensory disorder". Our careful preparation made our parents see our good intentions, and it was easier to persuade them than to preach. In addition, we invited parents to the activity site to witness their children's behavior problems with their own eyes, so that parents can really pay attention to them and make up their minds to help their children change.

Chapter II: Living Water for the Source

I once read a report that a group of China children who are considered excellent in all aspects were selected to meet with foreign children at festivals. When foreign children were laughing and shouting, people found that children in China did not cheer, but just sat quietly, without that kind of ecstatic expression and expression at all! Then, someone bemused and sighed: China's children won't cheer!

Is this a story? No, this is the fuse for every educator to reflect. Throughout the ages, countless facts tell us that only in life can children find the truest feelings and seek the most comprehensive development.

I remember once organizing children to carry out social activities. First of all, I guide the children to carefully observe the four paintings in the courseware, and think in combination with what they usually see and hear: Are the children on the screen doing it right? Then discuss in groups: What did they do wrong? What would you do in this situation? After a heated discussion, the children talked to each other and talked clearly. Jessica Hester Hsuan said: "Children play ball on the road, and the car drives fast, so it's easy to bump into it." Then he said quietly, "Even if you have time to brake, the car behind you will hit several cars together. Mom said it was a serial accident. " I gave her a thumbs-up and praised her: "You are amazing, you know so much!" She solemnly told everyone: "The last time I took my father's car, the car in front suddenly braked and we almost hit it!" " "Well-meaning laughter rang out from the class. I took the opportunity to ask everyone: "Yes! How dangerous this uncivilized behavior is! If you don't say that you are victimized, you may harm others. The teacher believes that no child in our class will do this. But what would you do if you were in this situation? " Chen Chen immediately said, "I'll dissuade him at once! Last time I saw my sister kicking a shuttlecock on the road, I asked her to kick it in the yard. I praised him: "You did a good job! Each of us should have such a sense of responsibility. "The discussion continues. ...

At this time, I led the discussion to life: "What other uncivilized behaviors have you encountered in your life that hinder traffic?" I didn't expect the little guy to talk too much, all criticizing mom and dad for crossing the street at ordinary times. Yang Yang said seriously, "My father always runs a red light when he takes me to school! The uncle next to him honked his horn hard and didn't listen. He also said that this is called' foresight'! " "For me! I will say it! " The children's little hands were held high and flushed. There seems to be a lot of opinions. Wen Wen blushed and said excitedly, "I said to my father,' Stop at the red light, go at the green light', but my father said he was racing against time!" I took the opportunity to ask my child, "What would you do if you were in this situation?" "You bet? Give him a yellow card warning! I won't let him be my father until I change my mind! " At this time, I saw the innocent but firm eyes of the children. Undoubtedly, this discussion has written a brilliant stroke in their young hearts. Listening to their heartfelt words, I can't help but think of what the great people educator Mr. Tao Xingzhi said: "Life is everywhere, that is, education is everywhere; The whole society is a place to live, that is, a place to educate. "

Our education should really turn from "expanding knowledge" to "returning to life", giving children life and happiness, paying attention to their whole life world and giving education life meaning and value.

The third article: the story of bacteria

The morning game is over, and the children are sitting in small chairs. I asked them to wash their hands in groups.

I said, "Please roll up your sleeves and wash your hands with soap." After a while, Xinxin ran over and said, "Yang Yang rushed away." After a while, Zhou Zhou also said, "Xixi doesn't need soap." Nannan also said that "Dongdong didn't use soap" ... I was really helpless at that time. In small classes, we focus on cultivating children's living hygiene habits, encouraging children to wash their hands seriously, and also compiled a nursery rhyme about hand washing: "Rub, rub, rub, rub, change hands, rub again, shake, shake clean." In the middle class, we still attach importance to the cultivation of children's good hygiene habits. We draw the process of washing hands, soaping and washing hands in the form of icons and stick them in the bathroom to remind children not to forget. However, there are still children who don't wash their hands carefully every day. If this continues, it will definitely be bad for your health. What shall we do? I think hard.

So, at lunch, I told you a story: Mao Mao, a bacterium, has red hair and green eyes, but he is so small that he can only be seen with a microscope. He proudly said, "No one can see me. I can go where I want." On one occasion, Diandian didn't wash well. I got into his stomach when he was eating chicken legs with his hands, ate good things in his stomach, and did some somersaults, which made my stomach hurt a little and I had to go to the hospital. Look how bad I am. I have to change someone today. "Say that finish, Mao Mao hid in the gaobao toy. Mingming came to play with toys (at this time, the children said, "Don't go, there are bacteria"), but he didn't know that Mao Mao took the opportunity to stick to Mingming's palm. "Go and wash! "The children couldn't help it. It's time for dinner. Yao Ming went to wash his hands. How should he wash his hands?

Everyone raised their hands and said, "Wash up." I asked, "How do you call it clean?" "Rub hard" and "use soap". "Yes, that's what I did." After interacting with the children, I went on to tell a story: obviously, I had a good time and it was time to eat. He was the first person to wash his hands. His hands were wet. Mao Mao said, "I'm not afraid to wash them with water." Yao Ming squeezed some more soap and began to rub his hands. Mao Mao shouted, "Stop rubbing, I'm going to fall." (Children interjected and shouted "Rub hard, rub hard") Obviously, I rubbed my hands back and forth, rubbing and rubbing, and a few soap bubbles came out. When Mao Mao saw the bubbles, he was scared and shouted, "The bubbles are coming. They are going to take me away." Sure enough, when Bubble came to Mao Mao, he wrapped it in a bag. Obviously, I washed all the bubbles in my hands into the pool with careful water. Where is Mao Mao? Shouting "help! Help! " Before I finished shouting, the water rushed into the small hole in the pool and flowed into the dark sewer, which would never make the children's stomachache again.

"Now which one of you will kill bacteria like Mingming?" "I will!" The small hands of the class are raised in unison. "How to eliminate it?" I asked again. "rub hard", "use soap" and "rub out bubbles and wrap bacteria in them" ...

Everyone went to wash their hands. No more complaints, only the good news: "Teacher, I rubbed bubbles" and "I washed bacteria into the sewer" ...

Children aged three or four generally have a unique psychological phenomenon-animism. Animism is a psychological tendency of children in this period to regard everything as living and intentional. I gave life to the bacteria through the story, and urged the children to change the external and passive teacher's preaching of "washing hands seriously" into the internal and active "I will kill the bacteria", so that the children can fundamentally change their behavior and gradually form good habits.