Family education experience 1
1, there are no parents who are naturally successful, and there are no parents who don't need to learn. From the perspective of lifelong education, everyone is lifelong learning. Therefore, family education is different from how parents educate their children, but how each family member learns by himself and for life in this family.
Many parents think that if children work harder now and sacrifice their immediate happiness, they can get happiness in the future. The happiness of life is complete. If you sacrifice his youthful happiness, he can't have a happy life, and adults have no right to make this choice instead of children and sacrifice his youthful happiness.
3. Don't ask children about their own level. There are two contents. First, you are a successful person. You can't force your child to reach and surpass his own level. The second is to assume that there are still some defects in your life, and you can't use children as substitutes to make up for your life defects. This is a problem of education in China, the core of which is that children are not regarded as an independent subject and a complete person with sound personality.
4. The achievements are just the boring figures boasted by vain people and feared by lazy people. You are neither vain nor lazy.
5, don't break the walnut shell, walnut kernels can't be eaten, and let the children eat bitter.
6, playing games is not bad, the key is how to play. Children have the final say at school and parents at home have the final say. Only in the game does he have the final say, so he has the motivation. Game spirit is three things: vitality, rules and innovation. We should cultivate this game spirit.
7. I also enthusiastically look forward to my child becoming a vice mayor or mayor in the future, but in fact, I think this possibility is very small, because it takes both efforts and opportunities to get to this position, so I ask my child to have a normal heart. Now parents often have an idea that I am excellent on a platform and my children must surpass me. This positioning is sometimes difficult to achieve, and parents and children are very painful.
Family education experience II
Recently, through communication with parents, I found that many parents have some problems in their children's education. Combined with these problems, I put forward some suggestions for family education.
First, family education should adhere to "health first".
Health refers not only to the absence of disease or illness, but also to a completely good physical, mental and social state. In other words, a healthy person should have a strong physique and an optimistic mental state, and be able to maintain a harmonious relationship with the social and natural environment in which he lives.
When educating children, we must see whether it is conducive to their physical health, mental health and social adaptation. Many parents have to cope with meals in order to let their children go to extra long classes. Compared with your child's health, which is more important, specialty or health? Some parents even let their children do exercise when they have a fever and an injection, instead of taking a good rest. Is children's health more important than academic performance? Many parents, when educating their children, open their mouths and say, "Look at others, why are you so stupid?" Or: "You really embarrass me!" Wait, these words are not good for children's mental health. Is it important for children's health or for us to release our emotions?
The other is good social adaptation. Many parents arrange their children's time very full in order to let them do more problems and learn more specialties, so that they have no time to play with their classmates and friends. We should consider it calmly. Children will eventually study all their lives. If it becomes a learning machine, how can children talk about life? How to let children learn to get along and learn good social adaptation? These problems, when we arrange children's life and study, should be considered as a whole and adhere to health first.
Second, family education should be humanized.
It sounds bad to treat children as adults, but in fact, many parents really don't treat their children as human beings. When communicating with children, most parents show paternalism, so you should be condescending. Children are our wealth and an important part of our family. When dealing with family problems, we should consider children's feelings and listen to their opinions.
I once met a parent whose children were learning roller skating, because of the poor quality of roller skating, their own strength was small and their learning speed was slow. As soon as the mother's parents were in a hurry, they went over and kicked the child down. Is the child itself a tool for parents to save face? Do parents treat their children as human beings? We still have a child with us. Now in the third grade, parents let their children practice learning every day and rarely let them play. Looking at this child now, he is not only extremely athletic and short, but also has a young mind and can hardly communicate with children. I don't think this parent treats the child as a human being. At the school gate, I also saw a scene of a mother kicking her child step by step. The child obviously has something to say, but the parents don't give the child a chance and kick the child into school. I don't know whether this parent regards his child as a treasure or a thing, at least not like a person.
As parents, we really work hard, and sometimes our children will be disobedient, but we must try our best to restrain ourselves before getting angry and try to reason with our children in an equal tone. Children need respect as much as we do, because they are human beings! The child is herself, so don't pin all your parents' hopes on the child, because he will be very tired!
Third, family education cannot be blindly followed.
Many parents choose to follow blindly, learn to dance and participate in TV performances in the development of their children's specialties. Let's go dancing, too Xxxx learned the violin and passed the exam. Let's learn the violin, too In short, I see the radiant side of others and rarely consider the feelings of children.
Our children are one of the victims. Li Yixuan began to learn piano at the age of four and a half. Actually, she doesn't like it. I stubbornly believe that the piano is very useful for girls' temperament, so I insist on letting her practice. Li Yixuan likes painting very much. I didn't give her a chance to study because I didn't have time. It was not until I was six and a half years old that I signed up for a painting class at the repeated request of my children. There is also a child around me who likes painting very much, but her mother thinks that dancing can improve her child's temperament and has always insisted on letting her children learn. It's one thing that children don't like it, and the impact on their hearts caused by the blow in the learning process is probably irreparable. When rehearsing dance in the children's class, I saw that many children who had studied dance were not particularly outstanding. On the contrary, some movements are very uncoordinated. Should dancing be a compulsory course for girls? (And, of course, taekwondo for boys. ) When we choose our children's specialties for development, we should combine their own characteristics and hobbies, and we must not blindly follow them. Only with hobbies, our study will last and get better results.
In addition, many parents see some articles about family education, or posts in class, or hear other parents' teaching experience, and often feel good, so they quickly use these methods to do experiments for their children. These parents may forget that every child has his own characteristics, and it is his own child who is hurt by other people's methods. Every child has his own habits and must not blindly follow the educational methods. What we want to learn is a concept, a scientific concept of family education, and it is by no means the operation method of others.
Fourth, example is better than words in family education.
Every child is born without any shortcomings. Many shortcomings of children are mainly problems of family education. I really want to remind parents that when you reprimand, blame or complain about your child, think about what you have done first. Some parents complain that their children are unsociable and introverted, so do you spend much time with your children? Does the child have a favorite group? Have you created opportunities for children to integrate? Some parents complain that their children don't study hard. Are you serious when dealing with problems? Did you give serious guidance to your children when they were reading? Some parents complain that their children swear. Do you usually say it? Some parents complain that their children are unsanitary, so what do you usually do? When we calm down and think carefully, we will find that many problems are caused by parents, and many bad habits directly affect children's study and future life. So parents and friends really need to review their own problems. Habits are not formed in a day. If you want your children to be excellent, you must first be an excellent parent.
Li Yixuan participated in the defense of my master's thesis. When I finished my defense, the defense committee and the students present gave me long applause. The child is very proud. Later, she asked me how I did it. I said to my children, "No matter what you do, you should take it seriously and work hard." Children seem to understand, but they don't, but now look at children, no matter what they do, they are really serious and self-motivated.
For the sake of children, we must be careful, Marx. As parents, we should always remind ourselves to be a good example for our children, because it is better to do one thing well than to teach them a hundred sentences.
Experience of family education 3
I have been a teacher for decades, and my baby is five and a half years old in a blink of an eye. I have kept a baby diary for more than six years. Always want to share too many feelings. Success or failure depends on one person's words. The theory of teaching children also needs practice, and more importantly, exploration and induction. Of course, the law of education should follow the individual differences of children, and all successful tutoring experiences are not exactly the same. Therefore, I hope that parents who care about their children's growth will participate in the topic exchange and discuss the topic of successfully cultivating emotional intelligence and IQ. Let our next generation grow up healthily (physically and psychologically) and steadily!
Walking into the door of education, I hope I can integrate and spread my educational thoughts one day. Although I am a drop in the ocean, I hope to give full play to my weak light and heat for education. Therefore, I will integrate my educational experience and sentiment into my classroom in time, so that children can feel the new educational atmosphere every day and fully enjoy the excitement and pleasure brought by new ideas.
Early education at the age of 0 and preschool has always been an important topic discussed by many knowledge families. We should do our best in early education. Some even spend a lot of money to send their children to better kindergartens, sacrificing their careers and jobs. Parents are great, we should cheer for ourselves! However, many people in preschool education are confused, and chatting with friends is more difficult for education. I think everyone feels the same way, so do I. When I use some theories to guide the practice of preschool education, I also fall into deep contradictions and self-blame, because it is not suitable for children! I began to think about new courses.
Children are motivated, smart, clever, kind, often help others, care about others, and are especially considerate. When others have contradictions, they will always comfort others in a reasonable way, just like a little adult! I went to kindergarten this year, and the repetition of knowledge made me feel a little wasted. I think I should guide and improve his learning ability in time during this critical period of learning. Having been engaged in Chinese teaching for many years, I feel that what Chinese cares most is the accumulation of basic knowledge. Memorizing words, reading comprehension and conversational writing are the cornerstones of language learning, so I decided to start with reading.
My children have learned pinyin in primary school, but they are not very skilled. I decided to show him a story book with pinyin and illustrations. I was a little stiff at first, but my child was influenced by my father's habits and was interested in reading since he was a child. Let's cultivate interest. We read our own books, but the children enjoy them with their little knowledge. After a summer vacation, children still have time to sit there and read. At first, he made a noise, and then he was silent.
One day, my son had a whim and told his story. It turned out that he memorized all the stories he had read, and some descriptive words, four-character words and idioms even blurted out. We were stunned! It was really unintentional!
I can read books, read story books fluently without pinyin, and make comments!
Then while cultivating children's reading habits, guide them to write early. Diary is a compulsory course for children every night. Since he didn't know how to write, he insisted on writing every day, which made his mind go through a rapid mature process: …… I am a man! ..... I'm brave! ..... I'm strong! ..... self-evaluation and self-awakening immediately appear in the diary, which we didn't expect!