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Communicate with children "Why study?"
When we ask children to do something, it is very important to tell them the importance of doing it in advance in a way that children can accept, that is, to tell them the truth of being a man and doing things in a "seamless" educational way that is moist and silent, which is helpful for cooperation with children.
Communicate with your child "Why do you want to study and what is the purpose of study".
Parents should help their children to establish the concept that:
You are not an examination machine, nor are you studying for your parents. You study to explore this beautiful world and make your life more colorful; You study to increase your wisdom, explore your unique personality and life value, and make your life more meaningful and happier; You study to make full use of your special skills and talents to help others.
Tell your child in a chat:
The process of learning is the process of constantly exploring yourself, and you will gradually understand what you like, what you are good at, what you don't like and what you are not good at; You will learn some knowledge and skills, which will give you more choices to do what you are interested in in in the future.
When a parent was discussing with his son, his son asked, "What if I am interested in collecting garbage from trucks?"
He told his son this way: "If you finish college and feel that driving a truck to collect garbage is really your interest and can give full play to your talents, then I hope you can be a conscientious person in the process of collecting garbage and study how to improve the existing system to make it more conducive to environmental protection, and then you will become the most attentive and excellent garbage collector in the world!"
Everyone can find his own talent through hard work and use it to serve others and society. Only in this way can you feel happy and meaningful in this job. On the other hand, if your talent is not collecting garbage, you will find it boring and it will not bring you happiness. All kinds of abilities and skills cultivated in the process of studying at school will give you more opportunities to choose your own industry.
For children, you only need to make three requirements:
1. You must work hard and sum up your experience, but don't care too much about the exam results.
In today's era when knowledge is updated so rapidly, how you learn is more important than what you learn from books.
3. I am curious about the world, want to explore the unknown of the world, have a strong thirst for knowledge, and have the spirit of lifelong learning.
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Gradually let the children bear it.
Tell children clearly that learning is your responsibility, not the responsibility of parents; You study for yourself, not for your parents.
Draw a clear line: For example, when winter vacation homework will be completed, it must be completed by itself, what the effect should be, and who to ask for help in the process of completion.
Gradually let the children bear it: including the consequences of not completing homework after school, criticism of high homework error rate and so on. Parents can also make other agreements with their children.
After the rules are made, parents only need to remind them occasionally: Have you done your homework? Tell the child that if he needs help in any subject, he can say so, and we can work it out together. As long as he knows how to arrange time and priorities, parents should not get involved too much and occasionally praise their children for their good time management.
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Check the implementation with your child.
After the academic achievements come, analyze the problems together and how to improve them until the children can make a summary and have a heart of change. Don't check your child's grades too often. Parents often pay too much attention to every mistake of their children, and then they can't help but want to "correct" every mistake of their children, thus causing conflicts between parents and children. To give children some room to grow up, parents should grasp the general direction and look further.
Returning the child's responsibility to the child, allowing the child to make some mistakes, cultivating the child's sense of responsibility and mobilizing the child's initiative. In this way, the children grow up and understand, and we are relaxed. Why not?
If a child can think, summarize, improve and grow through the experience of failure in the process of junior high school growth, this experience will be of great help to his later life, far more important than the excellent achievements made by the child under the support and supervision of his parents.
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Standing in the same trench with the children.
When children experience natural results and realize that their original choices are unwise, our attitude should not be to scold children when they are down: "Look, look, I told you, but you just didn't listen. Now you know you're wrong, right? " It should be an encouraging attitude: "Never mind, son. Mom (dad) did a lot of wrong things when she was a child. This is how people grow up. "
Every child is born with positive seeds. As long as parents have high-quality companionship, care, appreciation, listening and encouragement for their children, they will create conditions for the seeds to thrive and the children's internal drive will be stimulated. Of course, give children the time they need to make progress.
In the short term, under the constant supervision of parents, children may perform better than parents who let go, which is why many parents dare not let go. But the performance of children under the supervision of parents comes from external control, not from internal strength. In the long run, the power from within will be stronger and more lasting. After all, we can only accompany our children to complete a part of the road, and the rest of the road needs the children's own internal motivation to go on, so we must accept the "imperfection" shown by children in their growth. As long as we change our attitudes and ways, many "problems" of children will be solved.
From now on, ignite children's active learning and fall in love with the small flame of learning!
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