1. Don't hide the truth from the person you love. Explain the situation to them appropriately. You need to talk about your troubles. They will be your spiritual and even actual supporters.

Try not to hide the truth from the unit leaders and colleagues who care about you. I believe they will give you understanding and help.

3. Give a moderate and sincere answer to the neighborhood's inquiries and concerns, eliminate speculation and curiosity, and avoid the embarrassing situation of being afraid of being known by others because of hiding.

Let the children integrate into the normal society and get out of their closed world, so we should pay attention to making necessary preparations. In public, we should calmly face the child's misconduct and deal with it calmly. At the same time, it is necessary to briefly explain the child's condition to relevant personnel and people around him, and apologize. This is much better than losing your mind because of face anger.

5. Find an indomitable education and training institution for children, so that children can receive education and skills that the family can't give.

Second, learn to be a teacher and teach children to learn skills.

In the process of development, autistic children have fallen far behind normal children due to diseases. If parents overprotect and replace their children out of guilt and psychological compensation, then everything you do will only increase the difficulties for autistic children in self-care and verbal communication, because they will give him something as soon as he loses his temper. In this way, children will only become more clumsy, willful and difficult to manage. So, what is the right way to do it?

1, learn to be a teacher and teach children to learn skills. Parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. Especially in a family with disabled children, parents' duty is not only to take care of his life, but also to teach children all kinds of skills that should be mastered but not yet learned. Even if there are educational institutions willing to accept your children, family education and training are always indispensable.

2. Say "no" to your child. When children have very wrong behaviors or behaviors that we don't want, such as taking things casually in the store, taking off pants in public, and rolling on the ground if they don't meet the requirements, parents should help solve the problem decisively and quickly on the one hand, and say firmly and briefly words that show your attitude, such as "no", "no" and "bad" on the other. Let autistic children gradually establish the concept of what can't be done, and it is necessary to be reasonable.

3. Train children to listen to instructions. If parents want to succeed in education, they should first train your autistic children to listen to instructions, so as to complete the education and training plan step by step. Children must be allowed to do things by themselves, such as dressing, eating and going to the toilet. Let him do what he can't do step by step. In most cases, the first autistic child will strongly refuse orders, such as putting him on the balance table, and he will not say anything. At this time, you should persist and don't give in. No matter how he cries, as long as he can set foot on it, it is the victory of education. At this time, he will be rewarded and consolidated several times, and things will be smooth in the future. Sometimes because children don't understand the meaning of instructions, they don't carry them out. For example, squat down and pick up pieces on the ground. Maybe he doesn't understand the meaning of the verbs "squat" and "pick". At this time, parents should pay attention to give their children a demonstration, let him understand and then practice.

Third, make mental preparations for long-term education.

It would be great if professionals can help you make an education and training plan. Besides, parents can learn to make their own plans by reading relevant materials. The following questions should be considered when making a plan:

1, current situation of children's skills: can they eat by themselves? Can you handle defecation? Is walking and running coordinated? Can you jump? Can you imitate sounds and distinguish colors? Whether attention is easily distracted, etc. Planning begins with actions that children have not yet mastered but are about to develop. For example, if a child can already hold a spoon, the next step is to train him to master the skills of taking food from a bowl with a spoon in a certain period of time.

2, the plan should consider the possibility of success, that is, in a short time. Learn at least three behaviors every week. The behaviors you choose and the goals you want to achieve must be gradually achieved by your child through one or two weeks of hard work. And practice every day to ensure the time and frequency of practice.

When making a plan, we should also consider the importance of skills. In other words, whether training skills are the most important at present. For example, children are uncomfortable eating independently and handling defecation, so training the latter is more important than the former, which involves social behavior problems. Therefore, when making a plan, you should put it in the front and gradually learn your own eating skills. Training must not be fully rolled out.

In addition, parents should be prepared for the long-term education and training of their children. The difficulties of autistic children are obvious. And almost for life. Even some autistic children with high IQ can go to school and even have special talents in music, mathematics or other aspects, but they still have inappropriate behaviors due to ignorance of the world, especially in understanding profound language and social skills, and need lifelong help from their parents. Not to mention those severely disabled children, parents should persevere and make long-term efforts to improve their situation.

Fourth, look at children's progress objectively.

Autistic children are so different among individuals that you can't find two autistic children at all. Therefore, in education and training, we put special emphasis on personal education and training. When evaluating children's progress, first, don't simply compare normal children. Generally, the overall development of autistic children is 3-5 years slower than that of normal children.

Secondly, you should not compare another autistic child as a simple object, because each autistic child has different factors such as etiology, degree of disability, time of education and training, and its development has its own characteristics. Third, you should compare your child's today with the past. The best way is to take notes. It can also be described in words or recorded in charts, so that parents can easily see every progress of their children.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) Family members unite as one.

The unity of the whole family, at least the unity of parents, is an important factor in successfully raising an autistic child.

In a United, intimate, harmonious, comfortable and safe family, children can enjoy happiness and receive education easily. Therefore, parents are advised to do the following:

1. Both sides should try their best to control their emotions, and don't lose their temper, nag or get angry. Even if they can't sleep at night and fidget during the day, it won't help. The only way is to face up to reality and insist on education.

2, don't blame each other because of the child's disability, and don't find some hypothetical evidence to infer that the cause of the child is inherited by one side of the family. How can you draw a conclusion on a problem that even modern medicine can't explain?

You should support the other party's decision, put the problem behind you in case of disagreement, reach an agreement through discussion, do not quarrel, and "cooperate". It is unfortunate enough to have a disabled child, and this family can't bear any more trauma.

4. Encourage each other. A family with disabled children is often easily troubled by troubles, setbacks, disappointments and helplessness. If both parents love their children, don't forget to love and comfort each other, which is undoubtedly a great spiritual strength.

5. Do everything possible to create a small world of activities for children, we should arrange time for parents and children to have activities and games together every day, establish parent-child feelings with children, and let children integrate into their world. You must not let education and training become an inhuman mechanical operation.

In addition, it is also important to help children integrate into the surrounding environment.

The quality of neighbors and social members of autistic children has a direct impact on helping families to withstand stress, including positive or negative. The attitude and behavior of neighbors can not only add courage and confidence to the families of autistic children, but also make the families of autistic children worse, and collapse because they are overwhelmed. Careful and kind neighbors may find children's "autism" (abnormal) behavior characteristics earlier than their parents, and remind their parents to pay attention to them so that their children can be diagnosed and trained as soon as possible. At the same time, neighbors can also create a "protective" environment for children, so that they can get the experience of interacting with social members outside their families and reduce their frustration in social interaction.

Therefore, as parents of autistic children, we must first overcome our inferiority complex and not swallow our troubles in our hearts. Opening your heart to your neighbors and colleagues is the first step to accept the challenges of life, because it is not enough to face your children at home alone. Today, when the whole society has no awareness of autism, parents should not only learn how to face their children, but also learn how to take their children to face this society that is not very tolerant of disabled people.