This means that the baby has entered the "terrible two-year-old" resistance period. At this stage, we need to pay attention to certain tricks and tricks. The following methods should be collected by parents.
Children's 2-year-old resistance period: resistance to parents
John ross Mond, a famous American parenting expert and family psychologist, wrote in The Terrible Age of Two: Real education begins at the age of two.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong pointed out: After birth, children enter the period of "all-round narcissism", that is, they think they are the center and master of the world, and everything around them will change with their own wishes.
Once a child is two years old, he already has a certain level of cognition. They find that many things are out of their control, even parents will not be obedient to themselves as before, and children will have anxiety and panic.
At this time, the child's physical exercise ability has been well developed and his language ability has been greatly improved. This sense of control will make children unwilling to be bound again, so they will have a strong sense of resistance, and they need to prove their existence and value through resistance.
Therefore, it is normal for children to behave disobediently and like to oppose their parents. This is a necessary stage for them to grow up.
In the "terrible two-year-old" resistance period, there are many "tips" to deal with the baby! Parents hurry to collect.
1, give children the choice. Parents should remember not to show their authority by coercion or repression when dealing with children. Because children will have more resistance to their parents' coercion, the more they are forced, the more they have to break through the bondage.
In many things, children should be given the initiative to choose. For example, if it is cold and the child refuses to wear a coat, the parents' orders will be useless. At this time, you can say to your child, "Look, here are three clothes. Which one do you like best? Do you wear what you like best now, or do you wear it after you go out? "
2. Don't order children. Many parents will feel that they should show their parents' majesty in front of their children. As long as they say it, the children must do it. So I always like to give orders to my children, but it will have a bad influence on their psychological development.
Parents always order their children to do things, which may arouse their children's more serious rebellious psychology, or children may obey their parents' orders on the surface, but their inner emotions are suppressed and become timid. Parents should treat their children equally. It is more useful to listen to children's voices in advance and take the initiative to understand their thoughts, discussions and invitations.
It is useless to enlighten EQ with picture books and teach children how to express their emotions. At this time, you can show your child some picture books about emotional management. Rich and vivid illustrations in picture books can give children a more intuitive impression. Simple and vivid language can teach children to understand and handle their emotions correctly.
For example, emotions such as "fear, sadness and worry" are difficult for children to understand only by parents' explanations, and picture books can visually present the specific expressions of these emotions, so that children can see them at a glance.
4. Don't "reason" with children. It is most useless to guide and reason with children with stories, because they don't understand at all and children don't want to listen. Parents should be good at using short stories to help their children learn these truths. Children can find their own role models from stories, and their behaviors and thoughts will be close to the role models in the stories.