Why how to raise children is the key? How to raise children scientifically?
1. Why is it that how to raise children is the key?
Education determines children's future, and early education is a milestone in children's education. Choosing a scientific parenting style is something that many parents must learn. Parenting can not only make children have a wonderful childhood, but also help couples to relieve the pressure of parenting, which is also a way to help families create harmony. In short, attaching importance to parenting methods and developing early education are the only way to help children grow up. So parenting is the key.
Second, how to raise children scientifically
1. Respect children.
Children are independent people. He belongs to society and to himself. We should respect children. Although children are young, they also need trust, independence, self-esteem, progress and so on. If parents don't take care of and meet their children's needs and treat their children wrongly, it will affect their life development. Respecting children means treating them equally. Speak to children at a moderate volume, not loudly; Try to squat down and talk to your child in a negotiated tone. Don't interfere with children's activities too much, don't always say "don't do this" or "don't do that", respect children "do it yourself, you are great!" Give it a try. Trying is the beginning for children to learn to be independent. Do more demonstrations and give more encouragement to help them succeed. Parents should overcome the impulse to lend a helping hand. Children may want to do everything by themselves, but they can't do it well, which adds a lot of trouble. But we should let children do it, which is another kind of learning for children.
2. Pay attention to the child's personality.
Every child has a unique personality. Many parents like to compare the shortcomings of their children with the advantages of other children. They are sadder and more unfortunate than their parents. In social life, this is incomparable. The question is how to compare. We advocate using a magnifying glass to see the advantages of children, to see their development, and to be happy for every progress of children.
Don't interfere too much with children.
It is said that parents should participate in the process of children's growth, but it does not mean that you should interfere with children too much. When children are absorbed in something, it is best not to interrupt him, which helps to cultivate their concentration. While cooperating with their children to develop some good habits, parents should also be careful not to destroy their original good habits.
4. Keep pace with the times and adjust the way of parenting.
Learn more advanced parenting methods and maintain the same development speed as children. The children are growing up slowly. Don't always treat children as children who are not sensible. We should consider different ways of raising children at different ages.
The above is
How can parenting be considered as scientific parenting?
You have to ask an expert.
I think scientific parenting is just a concept. Actually it varies from person to person. In front of the standard, every child is unique, and the most scientific one may not be suitable for you, so we only look for the one that suits us, which should be the most scientific.
There is no standard answer to scientific parenting, which varies from baby to baby. As long as children grow up healthily and happily, I think it is scientific.
Our children have been busy since childhood. When they were born, they thought about going to early education when they were older, going to after-school classes, and going to preschool when they were in kindergarten, because they were afraid they could not keep up. Many times, it is the anxiety of parents, and the choice of parents is not the choice of children. Of course, there are also families who do everything for their children, and eventually the children become talents, but more mediocre, but the children's psychology has left a shadow.
Choosing the right parenting style is the most scientific, don't compare with others.
I think "knowing why, knowing why" is the scientific way to raise children.
Nowadays, information is more and more developed. What I used to get by reading books can now be obtained by reading an article on the official WeChat account. However, in order to attract people, some parenting articles repeatedly concentrate the knowledge points, which seems to be more and more extensive, but there may be "one-sided" misunderstandings.
For example, many articles will tell you that children grow taller and need calcium supplementation, and cheese is the first choice for calcium supplementation! But what I didn't tell you is that it needs natural cheese! The cheese strips in the supermarket belong to processed cheese and cannot be supplemented with calcium!
Calcium supplementation in cheese is a knowledge point of scientific parenting, but if you buy processed cheese, it does not belong to scientific parenting.
Still the same question. Using cheese to supplement calcium, knowing the selection criteria and buying calcium-supplemented foods suitable for babies belong to scientific parenting.
Let's take a look at the conversations between adults and children recorded by Stanford University.
The survey found that families with good social and economic conditions will communicate with their children in more diverse languages and ask their opinions.
Families with lower socioeconomic status are more prescriptive about their children's language. For example, you can't do this, you have to do that. You should eat! You are going to read a book! Simple and rude, do not discuss with children.
Although the survey is simple, it shows the differences in educational concepts. A family respects children and talks on an equal footing. The other is to suppress as a parent.
It is not obvious which is scientific parenting.
Respect, affirmation, encouragement and equality are the basic concepts of scientific parenting.
Next, how to carry out scientific parenting? Several methods are provided:
1. Find authoritative books and authoritative expert comments.
First of all, I recommend some necessary parenting books after upgrading my parents. Sears Encyclopedia of Intimate Parenting, American Academy of Pediatrics Encyclopedia of Parenting, Montessori: The Secret of Childhood. All these give parents a correct and comprehensive understanding of the baby's growth process.
In order to raise children scientifically, we can upgrade the scope of books, such as positive discipline, and systematically introduce the process of raising children.
Authoritative experts include, Bao, and are all first-class scholars and pediatricians in China. Read their comments more and build a knowledge system for parents.
2. Communicate with peers more.
For example, your relatives and friends, such as mothers, such as children.
Although these contents have no expert authority, they are grounded and more related to the experience of the parties.
3. Attend paid learning courses.
If it is advanced, parents can take part in some fee-based parenting activities, such as lectures, such as online courses. There will be a whole set of systematic courses waiting for parents to learn.
Raising children is a kind of practice, children are growing, and parents are also growing in this process.
May every mom and dad learn from their parents and make continuous progress in parenting.
It is a good mother to have such a sense of growth. Parents should be conscious first, and then take action to be effective.
Scientific parenting is a very broad concept. I think the "child" here includes not only the unborn fetus, but also the newborn baby and the growth period of the whole child, which is about 13 years old. So how to raise children is in line with scientific parenting standards? Is it necessary to completely abandon the traditional experience of the older generation? Or just raise children according to book knowledge? Let me talk about some personal opinions, hoping to play a role in attracting jade.
Scientific parenting, the key word lies in science, so where is the key to science? I think the key to science lies in stage and reality, that is, taking care of children in stages from the actual situation of each stage is the essence of science. So what's going on? I will elaborate on them one by one.
1. unborn fetus
Some people will be surprised: it is not necessary. However, many studies by parenting experts show that babies who have experienced prenatal education and are actively preparing for pregnancy will be more active and responsive than those who have not, so I think scientific work should start from the time of pregnancy preparation.
When you're pregnant. This stage is mainly carried out from the aspects of diet, work and rest, mood, etc., so as to achieve diet nutrition, work and rest rules and relaxed mood.
Early pregnancy. This stage is mainly to accept pregnancy, relax and take the initiative to go to the prenatal examination.
Second trimester pregnancy. This stage is mainly about changing diet, positive prenatal examination, relaxing mood and exercising more.
Late pregnancy. This stage is mainly to learn the knowledge of childbirth, make psychological preparations, and reasonably prepare the articles for childbirth.
2. Newborn babies
We can use Freud's psychological development stage to carry out scientific parenting.
Oral desire period: this stage is mainly to satisfy the child's original desires, such as oral sucking, chewing, swallowing, etc. The mother should give the baby enough sense of security and love.
Anal desire period: at this stage, children's self-awareness develops rapidly, showing curiosity and desire to explore, and their creativity is strengthened. Mothers should guide their children on the basis of respecting them, cultivate their good will quality, satisfy their desire for exploration and cultivate their self-control ability.
3. Children will have adult consciousness when they grow up.
Genital stage: also known as Oedipus stage and sexual budding stage: children at this stage like to touch their sexual organs, which is the beginning of "masturbation" in nature. Parents' opposite sex is often regarded as the object of "sex". Thus appeared Oedipus complex and Oedipus complex. At this stage, parents should pay more attention to their children's sexual orientation. The most important thing is that both parents should participate in the growth of their children together. Good guidance can alleviate the rebellious situation in the rebellious period.
Incubation: At this stage, children's interests expand, and they begin to pay attention to things around them, avoiding too much sexual contact and playing with the same sex. Parents should pay more attention to their children's psychological changes and actively guide their children to treat gender relations correctly.
Reproductive period: at this stage, the physiological and psychological characteristics of individual sex organs of boys and girls show that gender differences begin to be significant and sexual psychology develops to maturity. In the meantime, children should be encouraged not to avoid interacting with the opposite sex, cultivate more hobbies and learn more skills of sexual communication.
Generally speaking, the knowledge that children need to learn and store at each stage is different. No matter what parenting methods or skills are, they should be rooted in the actual situation of children, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, and parents' parenting concepts should also change with the changes of the situation. Only in this way can we respect the growth law of children and realize scientific parenting.
I'm glad to answer this question. I'm Mr. Leo. Thank you for your attention.
First of all, in response to your question, I think there is no definite answer to parenting, and no one can say that parenting methods are completely correct, because education itself is teaching without definite methods.
Therefore, education must be suitable for children, their personality characteristics, their hobbies and their learning characteristics.
On the way to parenting, the first thing we should do is to find the characteristics of children and carry out targeted education according to their characteristics.
No parenting method is suitable for all children, but I believe that every child has his own educational method. This is what we adults need to find and discover for our children. The long road to parenting is full of difficulties and twists and turns, but once you find a method suitable for your child, parenting will become very simple.
I'm glad to answer this question for you. Let's walk into this problem together. Now let's discuss it together.
I would like to share my personal views and thoughts with you on this issue. I hope my sharing is helpful to you and you will like my sharing.
I think we should always pay attention to children's physical and mental health. To have more in-depth communication with children, it is best to talk for 0/0 to 20 minutes before going to bed every day, and at least once a week. Try to be a good friend of children.
Let children develop the ability to do things independently. In kindergartens and primary schools, teachers often assign some manual homework. You can teach him the method. If he can't, you can teach him several times. Many parents will help their children directly. This is terrible. You should let him study by himself. Doing it by himself is very helpful for his growth.
From an early age, children should learn to be grateful and share with others. Never let him form the habit of being self-centered and know how to think of others. Never let him form the habit of being self-centered and know how to think of others. Send a rose and leave a lingering fragrance in your hand.
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After being a mother for three years, I deeply realized one thing: there is no correct parenting method, just like there are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people, and every child is different. Of course, mothers know their children best.
Therefore, the correct parenting must be based on understanding the baby, such as me and the baby.
First of all, I will do something beneficial to him on the premise of respecting him.
My children don't like to drink soy milk or milk. I respected his eating habits at first, but I will insist on drinking a bag of milk every day and tell him that milk is really delicious. Slowly, he will take the initiative to ask for a try. Time and time again, he also fell in love with drinking milk. Now it is the basis to drink a bag of milk and eat an egg every morning.
Secondly, understand his crying, willfulness and grinding.
Children are children because they have parents who love them. You will cry when you are unhappy, toss when you are hungry, grind people when you are sleepy, and "torture" you in his own way when you miss your mother. Behind all this behavior, he knows that his mother loves him, so he will be unscrupulous and "not sensible" to show you.
My way to deal with this situation is: let the baby vent, tell him that his mother loves you very much, that his mother understands you and hugs the baby, and that the baby has been wronged, so he should use full patience to resolve his unhappiness. He will feel safe enough, and he will become reasonable and understand adults.
I believe everyone has heard a saying: the baby loves us more than we think. Don't complain when you find that the baby has done something wrong. Be sure to ask the child why. After you listen carefully, you will often be moved to tears. There is no right way to raise children, but you must be patient, patient and patient. When you have some patience, I believe that it is difficult for a baby to be excellent.
Different people teach students in accordance with their aptitude, don't stick to books and other people's experience, master the core principles, and so on!
How do parents do scientific parenting?
How do parents do scientific parenting?
The first thing a child sees is his parents. It is true that his parents are his first teachers. Parents' words and deeds affect their children all the time. Next, I sorted out the related contents of how parents do scientific parenting. I hope you like this article!
First, squat down and talk to the child.
Whether at home, at the home of relatives and friends, or in public, when you want to say something to your child, please try to squat down, keep yourself at the same height as your child, hold your child's little hand with your hand, look at him kindly, and then tell your child your requirements with a happy face. Have you ever found that if you talk to your children like this, they will listen to you, and they will be more willing to carry out your "instructions" and finish them faster and better. You achieve the same or even better results. The only difference is the way you talk, but the children are happier and have carried out your "orders". This is because you squatted down and you spoke to him in a friendly tone.
Second, protect children's self-esteem.
Teaching children in front of strangers and outsiders is the easiest way to hurt their self-esteem. In fact, a child's understanding ability is quite strong. When you don't want him to do anything, just shake your head gently or stare at the child quietly, and his kindergarten conservation knowledge will be understood. There is no need to say it out loud. If you are still not at ease, you can also reach a tacit understanding with your child before going out as a secret between you: "If you see dad shaking his head, that means you can't do that; If dad nods, it is agreed. "
Third, respect children's sense of independence.
As the child grows up, his sense of autonomy will also grow. You feed him, he says "I eat by myself", you help him dress, and he says "I dress by myself". Maybe he will be full, maybe he will be dressed in a mess, but we should not discourage you, trust him, encourage him and give him a chance to learn, otherwise the child will never "grow up".
Fourth, communicate with each other more.
Don't just want to know your child's thoughts on spring parenting in kindergarten, but also tell your child your thoughts on large class parenting, such as what dad does at work, what mom likes to eat at ordinary times, and what mom and dad are happy about the baby's performance. Open your heart to your child and he will treat you in the same way. When the communication problem is solved, there will be a tacit understanding between parents and children, which is conducive to the growth of children.
Fifth, unexpected education.
Educating children must be persistent, and educating children must not ignore details. A friend saw an old woman getting on the bus with her little grandson in England. The little boy stepped on it first and was stopped by the grandmother. The old woman had to go first and said to the little boy, "Ladies first!" Gentleman education is probably developed from such an early age!
Six, can't talk about education.
The less you communicate with children, the less you know how to communicate with them and the less you understand them. What do you usually say to your child when you have a chance to talk to him? A child in junior high school told me that what his parents said most to him was: eat quickly, do your homework after dinner, and go to bed after finishing your homework! As a parent, do you know the inner pressure and pain of children? Can you walk into the child's inner world? Parents gradually fade out or even miss their children's emotional world, and conversations with children are more likely to become preaching, criticism and reprimand. After the child reaches the age of 13, even the opportunity to criticize will not be left to you.
Seven, don't compare other people's children.
Every child is very different, and every child has such a reason. The best way to educate a child is to aim at his "like this". Mozart played the piano well at the age of five and composed music at the age of seven. That's Mozart. For children, simple comparison can't solve the problem. We might as well patiently analyze with him, so that children will neither feel inferior nor be jealous and hostile to others.
How to raise children scientifically
Parents should change their ideas, cultivate their children's interests and raise their children scientifically.
First of all, respect children
Children are independent people. He belongs to society and to himself. We should respect children. Although he is young, he also needs trust, independence, self-esteem and progress. If parents do not take care of and meet their children's needs and abuse them, it will affect their lifelong development.
Respecting children means treating them equally. Speak to children at a moderate volume, not loudly; Squat down and talk to your child in a consultative tone as much as possible. Don't interfere with children's activities too much, don't often say "don't do this" or "don't do that", and respect children. "Do it yourself, you are great!" Just try it. Trying is the beginning for children to learn to be independent. We should do more demonstrations and encourage them to help him succeed. Parents should overcome the impulse of always wanting to help. Children may want to do everything by themselves, but they can't do it well, which adds a lot of trouble, but we should let them do it. This is another kind of learning for children in life.
Second, pay attention to the child's personality.
Every child has a unique personality. Many parents like to compare the shortcomings of their children with the advantages of other children. The sadder they are, the worse their children are. It is impossible to compare them in social life. The question is how to compare them. We advocate using a "magnifying glass" to see the advantages of children, see their development and be happy for their progress. If you have time and energy, keep a diary. Such criticism will dampen and kill children's self-confidence. Cultivating good psychological quality is to establish children's self-confidence from an early age.
Knowing and liking yourself correctly is the foundation of self-confidence. It is necessary to cultivate children's self-confidence and let them succeed within their abilities. After success, praise him, encourage him and praise him. Parents should not expect too much from their children, and their requirements should not exceed their actual abilities. If they criticize children easily, their thirst for knowledge and curiosity will be dampened and destroyed.
Psychologists say that many people are unsuccessful, not because they can't succeed, but because they don't make themselves successful, because they lack self-confidence, which makes them afraid to face challenges and thus lose the chance of success.
Some parents said that I said that children can't do it is a provocation, and the purpose is to inspire children. Everyone does what he understands. If children are often said to be careless, they will really think that "I am careless" and become more careless. Therefore, we should not strengthen negative factors, but should strengthen positive guidance.
Parents should also have confidence in cultivating their children, believing that every child can become a talent. But the same is true of a child. We should carefully observe the characteristics of the child, accept him as he is, and don't use his own frame to trap the child. We should actively create conditions suitable for children's development.
Scientific parenting methods
Scientific parenting methods
Lead: Good habits are cultivated from childhood, but what are the parenting methods of parents? Let me recommend them for you.
Parenting methods of parents
1. The premise of educating children is to know them.
Dewey, a famous American educator, said: "Children are not immature adults, and childhood has its intrinsic value." After children enter junior high school, it is easy to close themselves off. Parents must understand their children and find the language code to communicate with them, but pay attention to cherish "words" as gold.
Mature parents should study their children's pedagogy and psychology, read more family education books and periodicals, understand the characteristics and laws of their children's different growth stages, and often communicate with their children to understand what they are thinking and doing.
Parents study hard and children make progress every day.
Parents have changed, so have children. Most of children's problems are caused by improper parents' education. When a child is "sick", parents must "take medicine". Good parents are good schools. Parents are the best role models for children. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. Parents should grow up with their children.
The way from work should be the way home.
After junior high school, children need their father's care more. As fathers, we must be aware of our educational responsibilities and remember that the way to get off work should be the way home. Children who eat with their parents are better. According to the survey of research institutions, junior high school students who eat with their parents can get better nutrition and higher academic performance, and rarely smoke, drink, fight and have premature sex. As fathers, we should give our children more emotional care, such as providing some dolls and small gifts to better convey the feelings between father and son. Father's gifts to his children are not many, but fine. If children like painting, they can go to the doll master to turn their children's paintings into dolls. Let children draw what they like and participate in the production, which can not only make children happy to get gifts, but also give them a sense of accomplishment in return. Don't educate children when they are eating and sleeping; Don't turn talking to children into educating them.
We must take good care of the children, and the key is how to take care of them.
The most basic purpose of education is to cultivate "normal people". The education of "one hand", "one eye" and "one track-minded" is not desirable.
Educate children in different ways and strive to enrich their own educational methods.
5. praise the teacher in front of the children.
Learn to look at the teacher with appreciation. Parents and teachers are comrades-in-arms in the same trench and must form an alliance with teachers. If parents always talk about the teacher's "no" in front of their children, criticize the teacher and even quarrel with the teacher, it will only increase the child's rejection of the teacher. Over time, it is the children who suffer, and the parents who suffer.
6. Be a loving parent.
Many parents' love is confused, misplaced and sometimes overindulged. Don't cultivate "super baby". Love is an art. Love needs expression as well as action. Sometimes a hug is worth a thousand words. Love should be moderate, and don't let it overflow. The result of doting is injury.
What are the scientific parenting methods?
Guide: Parents must master scientific parenting methods in order to help their children grow up.
1. What is the scientific parenting style?
Some parents always want to give their children a lot of food when they take care of their children. This is a very wrong way for children. It is good to eat a proper amount of food when they are young. If you see your child crying all the time, you can pat him well, let him sleep in your arms, and let him have no other situation. Parents must learn to protect their children. Things were different when the child was young. He must learn to use his own actions to make children feel that they are actually safe, so that children will not be afraid.
Second, accompany the children.
Parents must learn to accompany their children well. No matter what happens to the child, parents must calm the child's emotions in time and don't let the child cry all the time. It may be that children need to be pampered when they are young, so at this time, you should think about what kind of development children are suitable for, and you must help them slowly according to their situation. If you find that your child is unwilling to sleep, or your child is always crying, you must discuss it with your child.
Third, summary.
You must learn to help your children well. No matter what the situation is, you should help your child adjust in time. If you find that the child's sleeping position is not good, then you must adjust the child's sleeping position at this time and let the child sleep quietly. If a child is particularly prone to crying when he is young, then parents must think carefully about how the child is. If the child is hungry, you can give him some milk powder, but don't force him to eat it. The child won't. Parents should know what kind of way the child is suitable for, and then make a summary to see if the child is hot. If the child is hot, don't cover it so thick, so the child is very uncomfortable.