? After reading Tara Westerfer's You Fly to Your Mountain Like a Bird, I have mixed feelings: sadness, lament, sympathy, admiration or something else? I can't find the right words to describe my inner feelings at the moment. A girl who was thrown out of her childhood from the garbage, a mountain girl who had never been in the classroom before she was seventeen, and a girl who had no exact date of birth came from a family that few people could imagine. There is no sound of reading, only the roar of the crane. Don't go to school, don't see a doctor, is my father's loyalty and truth. Fathers don't allow children to have their own voices. Being beaten by violence is also considered an illusion. You can't complain, otherwise it will be regarded as betrayal. The child's will is the devil in the father's eyes. But it is such an ignorant girl who crawled out of the garbage, a girl who is different from others. With her own efforts, she just passed Brigham Young University through self-study. In 2008, he received a bachelor's degree in literature, followed by a Gates Cambridge Scholarship. In 2009, he received a master's degree in philosophy from Cambridge University. 20 10 won a scholarship to visit Harvard university. 20 14 received a doctorate in history from Cambridge university. But the girl said that she should be grateful for her achievements, but she was not enthusiastic at all.
This is an amazing story, which is really inspiring. When I read her extreme childhood story, I also began to reflect on my life. Bill gates
Ignorance is terrible. The book depicts car accidents, garbage dump accidents and many other scenes: Luke (my brother) fell on the ground behind the kitchen screaming. He was injured by the fire and his eyes turned white. When I was only ten years old, I took a few bottles of emergency medicine and poured them between Luke's lips. It was useless. I thought he might need to calm down, so I filled the trash can with water. Luke put his leg in the trash can. I threw away all the ice in the freezer and a dozen bags of frozen vegetables. Such a large area of burns frightened me. Dad came back, pushed the trash can into the shade, and then kept Luke's legs still until mom came home. If such ignorance is frightening, then I fell into a panic after knowing the truth: when my father asked Luke to open the mailbox, Luke caught fire, and Luke screamed loudly, clumsily trying to untie the hemp rope and running screaming in the weeds. Dad chased after him and cut corners to put Luke down.
Get down on the ground, then put Luke on the truck and let him sit in the driver's seat. Dad put in gear and the truck started. The truck is going fast enough. Luke held the steering wheel tightly. Dad jumped off the moving truck, fell heavily on the ground and rolled, then ran back to the burning weeds, shouting, "Then China will be ready", took off his shirt and began to put out the flames. ......
I don't know if my father hesitated when he chose to let Luke, who was burned by the fire, drive home alone. When he came home to face Luke with only a little skin left on his leg, he chose to let him wait quietly for his mother who didn't come home in the field ... these are unknown. If all these are accidents, my father has no choice but to make a choice. Then, when Sean (my brother) dragged my hair from the hall to the kitchen again and again, and then pushed my head into the toilet, I had to admit that I was a "prostitute". Can my father's inner "loyalty" be shaken a little? Mother was unable to dissuade her, but just grabbed her hair and cried. Many years later, I came home from college and told my parents about my past, including the violence suffered by my sister Audrey, but as a result, I betrayed this family, so I was "fired" and "isolated" ......
? Tara said: "I used to be timid, collapsed and doubted myself." Something in my heart rots and stinks. " The influence of family background permeates into the blood. We fled in despair, telling ourselves that it must never be like that. But when you really run away, that thing that penetrates your bones will come out inadvertently, and you have no idea. Stephanie, the wife of Tara's brother Taylor, told Tara that it took her years to persuade Taylor to allow her to vaccinate her children, because Taylor still believed that the vaccine was a conspiracy of medical institutions. Tara laughed at her brother's behavior at that time, because he was still a scientist, so he could not see through their paranoia. But the fact is that Tara has been trapped in the torture of this family. Refused to go to the hospital for treatment when he was sick. In order to complain to my parents about Sean's violent behavior, I surrendered to my parents again and again, to their "loyalty and persistence", so I was hurt again and again.
? How to get rid of it? Only education. Tara said: escape from the mountains and open another world. That is the new world that education has given me, and that is the infinite possibility of my life. When I listed all the resentment against him, all the cruelty and neglect that really happened and imagined, and removed him from my life to prove that my approach was correct, when I completely accepted my decision, stopped worrying about old grievances, and stopped weighing and comparing his sins with mine, I finally got rid of my guilt and stopped thinking about my father. I learned to accept my decision for myself, for myself, not for him. Because I need it, not because he is worth it. This is the only way to love him. I am not a child raised by my father, but he is still the father who raised her.
? We live in a country with thousands of years of civilization, and we are responsible for "loyalty and filial piety", but how to be loyal and filial is debatable. Whether you are a child or a parent, there is no need to live what others want. To liberate ourselves from spiritual slavery, only we can emancipate our minds. I hope each of you can fly to your own mountain like a bird!