Case 1

Wang Hengyi, from Qingdao, Shandong Province, is a lovely baby of only four years old, but she has been able to read more than 3,000 books and become familiar with the poems of thousands of families. In the latest Happy China, Sa Beining called him the latest generation of "artificial" intelligence. Christina, Jerry Lee, Sa Beining and Kang Zhen took turns to give questions on the spot, but it was hard for him to fail.

I can not only recite poems fluently, but also know the meanings contained in them.

Wang Hengyi's grandmother, He Xia, said: Xiao Hengyi was never asked to read or recite poems, but was naturally cultivated, giving enough respect and encouragement to children's interests, which virtually made Xiao Hengyi really interested in China traditional culture.

Case 2

Xiaohua likes small animals very much since he was a child and is very keen on studying their living habits. When I was in junior high school, I often got covered in mud by observing small animals. Parents were very angry about this, thinking that he had nothing to do, so they tried to prevent him from playing outside. His parents want him to learn the piano so that he can get extra points in the middle school entrance examination in the future.

At first, he always sneaked into a nearby park to do what he liked when his parents weren't looking. Once, he brought a black spider home, and his parents flew into a rage and scolded him for not bringing such dirty things home. Dad also trampled the spider to death, and his mother broke the "treasure chest" containing various specimens that he had accumulated for several years. At that moment, Xiaohua froze and went back to his room to sit in silence for an afternoon.

Since then, his academic performance has plummeted and he has become silent. His parents are very worried about this and even wonder if he has mental problems.

Xiaohua's biology teacher said, "Xiaohua is a very clever child. If he is well trained, he will be a very good biologist in the future. "

Two positive and negative examples tell us that respecting children's unique interests in a certain aspect is the most correct way for parents to educate.

In modern society, competition is becoming increasingly fierce. In order to keep their children from losing at the starting line, some parents often blindly follow the trend when arranging their children's learning content, such as dance, piano, painting, foreign languages and calligraphy? I invested a lot of energy and financial resources, but I didn't really consider my children's actual hobbies. For some children who really like it, but don't meet their parents' standards, they will blindly stop and deny it.

Zheng, the king of fairy tales in China, said: "Don't let children do things that he is not interested in without interest and understanding."

"Interest is the best teacher." Interest can maximize and last a child's intelligence. When children do something they are interested in, they often go all out; On the contrary, if parents ask their children to give up things they are very interested in and do things they don't like, children will inevitably have conflicts with their parents and it is difficult to achieve anything.

How do parents discover children's interests from their daily behaviors?

Usually pay attention to observe children's activities, find children's interests and talents, and guide them well.

Children have just come into contact with the world and feel very novel about everything in the world. They have a strong desire for knowledge and beauty. Because of individual differences, different children have different interests in things. For example, some children like music, and they have a near-perfect feeling of notes at an early age, and can accurately sing each note; Some children love art and can paint at will, no matter what the environment. Clothes, paper, floor and walls are all their drawing paper. Some children have a strong memory and are obsessed with the books and paintings they have read; Some children have special feelings for all kinds of insects and small animals, and sometimes they can't eat several meals to die a kitten, and so on.

These are children's initial interest in something, or their talent in a certain aspect. Parents should not turn a blind eye, nor take it for granted, let alone criticize and deny it blindly. Instead, we should carefully observe and discover our interests and talents, guide them according to the circumstances, teach them in accordance with their aptitude, and let our interests develop in a positive and healthy direction.

Always exchange thoughts and feelings with children and respect their hobbies.

Children feel the kaleidoscope world with their own wonderful and peculiar fantasies, and enjoy it, thus having a strong interest in everything in the world. For example, some children always like the new clothes and shoes they just bought, and take pains to put them on, take them off, touch this and touch that; Some children would rather give up delicious food in order to get their favorite toys, such as Transformers and airplane models. One boy likes plasticine very much. His room, desk and bedside are filled with all kinds of small animals made of plasticine. Mother suspected that he had made the house dirty and messy, so when she helped him clean the house, she threw away all the plasticine toys. As a result, the little boy cried and didn't eat a few mouthfuls.

This shows that parents can't just interfere with their children according to their hobbies and subjective wishes, but should respect their children's wishes, often take time to play games and activities with their children, exchange feelings with them, enter the children's game kingdom, discover their talents and interests, and guide them correctly. Otherwise, it will only backfire, haste makes waste, and kill the child's personality. Isn't there a tragedy in society in which children hurt their hands in order to refuse to learn piano? This shows that when children's interest development is forcibly hindered, they will have excessive psychological pressure, which will seriously affect their physical and mental health. Our parents should take a warning.

Cultivate children's interests, hobbies and specialties in life.

It should be said that there is a process for a child to cultivate a certain interest, form a hobby and develop into a certain specialty. Our parents can't rush for success. We must pay attention to gradually cultivating children's interests, hobbies and specialties in life.

Respect children's interest in learning, and parents can do the same.

Respect children's hobbies.

Children's hobbies may be completely different from parents' expectations. Parents always hope to have a daughter who can play the piano, but after the child is born, he is very interested in painting and always doodles. Do parents respect their children's interests or force them to put down painting and learn piano? Smart parents must know what they should do. Respecting children's hobbies is the best help for their healthy growth, while forcing children to give up their hobbies and learn interests they don't like is a kind of harm to children.

There is no hurry to deny the child's interest.

For children, maybe their hobby is only three minutes hot. They said they would learn to draw today and dance tomorrow. This is a normal phenomenon, because children have the right to choose before insisting on one thing. Therefore, there is no need for parents to rush to deny their children's hobbies, but to encourage their children to fall in love with a hobby and stick to it for a long time. This is the best support for your children. Some parents are disgusted with the behavior that their children like this today and that tomorrow, and even refuse to let their children participate in various interest classes because of this, which is not conducive to the development of their interests.

Understanding interest is the best teacher.

Perhaps many parents pay more attention to their children's academic performance in the main course and don't know much about other non-main courses, so they don't agree that children spend a lot of time on hobbies. This understanding of parents is incorrect, because interest is the best teacher. Some children's favorite courses are not tiring and will not affect their normal study. Children feel that they enjoy and relax in their favorite courses, which is why they fall in love with this course. They will study hard and create, which is what we often say.

Support and encourage hobbies.

I wonder if parents have this kind of distress, that is, other people's children are versatile, but their own children have no hobbies. When children are together, there is nothing to talk about, and there are many fewer friends. Parents should prevent this from happening in advance and encourage and support their children's hobbies, such as music, art and sports. Children can always find their favorite interests, and parents will naturally have their own hobbies and have more support.

postscript

In the process of education, parents let their children have the consciousness of independent thinking, sound personality and excellent personality quality, which is actually a successful education, so that children can strengthen their views and go their own way in the process of pursuing and persisting in their hobbies.

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