As parents, everyone must have thought about their children's future and want them to win at the "starting line of life" as soon as possible.

But what is the "starting line of life"? Pay attention to what is "profound" for children?

I found the answer from many speeches by teacher Zhu Muju, an expert in preschool education.

Teacher Zhu Muju participated in the drafting of early childhood education rules and regulations such as Kindergarten Work Rules, and was the director of the Center for Basic Education Curriculum and Textbook Development of the Ministry of Education.

Engaged in preschool education and basic education for more than 30 years, Zhu Muju deeply realized the key role of early education in children's life development.

The international research results on early childhood development also show that in early childhood (0-6 years old), the development of some key social abilities has a strong impact on children's future integration into society and career success.

Teacher Zhu Muju pointed out that these key social skills should include six aspects, namely, communication ability, self-esteem, self-discipline, emotional ability, initiative and prosocial behavior.

Communication skills are easy to understand Prosocial ability is simply an act that has no obvious benefit to oneself, such as helping others, comforting others and making appropriate contributions in cooperation. It can be said that children's communication ability and prosocial ability complement each other.

Which parent doesn't want their child to grow up to be a respectful, caring, compassionate, kind and moral person?

However, words and deeds are not enough. In the book How to Cultivate Children's Key Social Competence, Teacher Zhu Muju suggested that in order to cultivate children's communication ability and prosocial behavior, parents should create a caring, positive communication, humble, sharing and considerate environment in the family and influence their children by example.

Psychologists believe that children have the ability to express their emotions from the sixth week of birth. Around the age of 2, they can experience happiness such as self-confidence and sense of accomplishment from the evaluation of their families and the outside world, and generate self-esteem.

In fact, the importance of self-discipline and initiative goes without saying. Whether in life, study or work, strong self-discipline and initiative are necessary conditions for success.

I even think that self-discipline and initiative are actually more important than children's IQ. After all, most children's intelligence levels are actually similar. In the end, some can complete the counterattack of "Carp yue longmen", and some are willing to be "salted fish". The difference lies in whether they are self-disciplined or active.

Teacher Zhu Muju believes that initiative and self-discipline are not innate, nor will they never die once they are owned. Parents need to know how to motivate their children, help them find ways to motivate themselves and cultivate positive and self-disciplined children.

Taking self-discipline as an example, the book clearly expounds the development stage of children's self-discipline, the factors affecting children's self-discipline and how to cultivate children's self-discipline

If parents want to know these six key social skills training methods, they may wish to have a look.

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