Hello, I'm Yan Shu. Here, we talk about reading and parenting, love and growth.

I watched a short film yesterday, in which psychologist Peng Kaiping talked about how to discover children's talents.

I first met Peng Kaiping in the Hero Reading Group in Yongcheng, reading the book "Self".

Peng Kaiping is the head of the Department of Psychology in Tsinghua University and a doctor of psychology at the University of Michigan. Besides, he has many other titles, so I won't elaborate here. Interested friends can find out for themselves.

I like listening to him talk about psychology and children's life growth.

Maybe I have read a lot of books on pedagogy, psychology, cognition and other disciplines in the past two years, and I have also learned a lot of classes and often reflected on myself.

Now, I know more and more about the education of children, and I know more and more about how to raise children and how to help them develop.

In this short film, Peng Kaiping talked about how to discover a child's true talent, which is what parents and friends should do.

Because every child is unique, they are born with their own mission.

When it comes to natural mission, parents may think it is too illusory and unrealistic, so it is better to pay attention to visible academic achievements.

But what I want to tell you is that it is really important to discover children's talents, which determines that children's lives are often invisible to the eyes, which is also advocated by many psychologists and educators.

Psychologist Peng Kaiping mentioned five simple and feasible methods in the short film.

First, pay attention to communication with children.

Communication is something we do every day, especially between parents and children. But if you ask everyone, how effective is the communication between parents and children? Maybe many parents will sigh and feel very bad.

I never paid attention to parent-child communication before, and the direct thing was to lose my temper.

On children, as long as I speak, they must keep their heads down and keep silent. Then it goes in one ear and out the other, ignoring what I said and never taking it seriously.

The reason why I can communicate well with children now is because my cognition has improved and I have a deeper understanding of parent-child communication; Secondly, I know how to communicate with children.

The book Carl Witt's Education says:

Karl witte also attaches great importance to communication with children.

When the child was 3 years old, he took Carl Jr. as a member of the family meeting, discussed problems with Carl Jr., and developed the habit of reviewing the events of the day before going to bed.

Carl Witt believes that learning to listen to children's voices and pay attention to parent-child communication can enhance each other's feelings and make them better understand and respect their children.

Therefore, we must pay attention to communication with children.

Second, hug the children more and say something passionate.

I think it's very useful about this, and I'm doing it.

Hugging my youngest son almost every day. Then I posted some inspirational words on the wall at home.

For example, "together, we will be great", "I can fix everything as long as I fix myself" and so on.

Early in the morning, we began to fight chicken blood. We held hands and shouted slogans. Say it again before going to bed at night.

At first, my children and I felt embarrassed and funny, but after shouting a few times, the more I shouted, the more powerful I felt, and a cohesive force seemed to surge in my heart.

This cohesion can strengthen family unity and further deepen the parent-child relationship between me and my children.

Regarding "chicken soup", Peng Kaiping also said that it is not as useless as people say. People still need it in many cases, and it can give people positive power.

In addition, he also mentioned a very simple way, that is, hugging and watching children for four minutes can also enhance the relationship.

Parents and friends can try. Oh, it's simple.

Third, learn to laugh, and be sure to laugh more.

Laughter is a beautiful expression that everyone is born with. Laughing at yourself and your children can not only make you happy, but also bring happiness to your children.

Be sure to laugh more and don't frown, because the child is watching!

Fourth, look for the truth, goodness and beauty in life with your heart.

Finding the truth, goodness and beauty in life needs your heart more than your eyes. The eyes see the surface, but the heart can see the inside.

When a person's heart is open, he can see the beauty that his eyes can't see.

The innocence of children, the truth of the air, the vastness of the universe, the kindness of people, the beauty of the soul and so on. Everything in the world should be seen not only with the eyes, but also with the heart.

The heart is the master of mankind.

Fifth, experience some pleasant feelings and do something you like.

When you are upset and sad, think more about things that make you happy.

People's feelings are very important Whether they like someone or do something comes first.

If you don't feel good, the experience is not good. Only when the feeling is positive and positive can the experience give people comfort, relaxation and happiness, and things can be done with ease.

Keep a positive attitude, smile more, and your troubles and worries will be less.

Having said that, I don't seem to talk about how to discover children's talents. Everyone may be so confused.

Yes, at first, I thought Professor Peng Kaiping didn't talk about how to discover children's talents at all.

But when I watched the whole short film, I realized that it is actually very simple to discover the child's talent, depending on whether the child really likes to do it.

What a child really likes to do is what he is willing to spend time and energy on. He just likes it, just likes it, even if you don't let him do it

Then why say the five points above?

According to psychologist Peng Kaiping, the above five points are to consolidate the foundation of parent-child relationship.

Only when parents establish a good interactive relationship with their children, walk into their hearts and make friends with them can they really understand their children, find them and help them develop.

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