Any means of mind control is more harmful than beating. Corporal punishment is mentioned more because it is too easy to identify and define, but its harm is far less than mental torture such as cold violence. With the increase of social pressure, emotional violence will become more common, but it will be more difficult to identify and control. Parents who can go to Zhihu are mostly too low and lazy if they just don't use corporal punishment. Spending time on reducing emotional violence is a more effective means to improve the quality of family education.

This way of educating children by punishing themselves is to kidnap children with affection. Occasionally, it is not a big problem, and it can also make children realize that they are parents' little treasures and have distorted blood relations, which may really work. After all, blood is thicker than water. If you overuse it or try it every time, it is quite problematic. This kind of over-education, and finally the relationship between family and affection will be distorted and interpreted by children themselves. There is a family phenomenon that many people should know. The more parents quarrel, the better the child will become, or the better the child will become if the parents divorce. Thinking deeply about this phenomenon is actually similar to this kind of education that makes children feel guilty.

Mothers who are guilty of education are actually a kind of morbid education. The harm of this kind of education is that because of the excessive pursuit of academic performance, the cart before the horse is neglected, and learning is a child's own business. If the child is old and not around, if the mother uses this method again, can the child see and be moved? You can't have a mother with your children all your life! Parents' education should teach children that learning is their own business and let them have the self-driving force of learning. In behavior, develop good study habits and master efficient learning methods! Instead of taking your child's study to yourself, or even punishing yourself to motivate your child!

In today's society, any kind of education method will be controversial. Is this because the ideological views of social groups are divided, even split and antagonistic? Why is this happening? Traditional culture collapsed and a new culture was not established. We know that to judge anything, we must have a value scale, just like to judge the position of a point, we must have a coordinate system. If there is no coordinate system, we don't know where this point is. If there is no value scale, we don't know how to judge a thing. For example, it is impossible to judge whether it is appropriate to beat and scold naughty children alone, and it must be carried out with the social and cultural system at that time as the coordinate.