"The struggle between children is different from the struggle between adults. Their attacks are rarely malicious, but more for their own purposes, such as grabbing delicious food and fun. " Sun Yuanyuan said that to some extent, fighting is also a way and channel for children to explore communication. As long as the safety of children can be guaranteed, parents should not interfere too much and let the children handle it themselves. If you ask your child to "fight back" at will, it may strengthen your child's awareness of "fighting to solve problems". "However, if children are often bullied, they are prone to negative emotions such as timidity, fear and anxiety. If parents continue to ignore them, these negative emotions will not be alleviated for a long time, which will affect children's mental health and personality development. " Rong said that this is a slight blow to children's self-confidence, but it will lead to personality withdrawal and avoidance of social interaction. "When they grow up, some people's self-awareness deteriorates, and some people are indifferent to people." What should parents do at this time? Rong suggested: First of all, save children from the danger of fighting and protect their safety. Secondly, when a child is wronged and crying, don't stop it, which is also a release of negative emotions. Finally, when the children are emotionally stable, teach them some self-defense measures. The first step is to learn to declare that "you have no right to hit me"; The second step is to stretch out your hand to stop each other and protect yourself; The third step is to ask teachers and parents for help; The fourth step, if the above methods are ineffective, the child can fight back. "However, this strike back is for self-defense. Parents must tell their children that the real purpose of fighting back is to let the other person experience the pain of being beaten, not to hurt him, so as to avoid developing the habit of hitting people. " She reminded.