From the perspective of educating children, the duties and responsibilities of mothers are irreplaceable and of decisive significance. Children are most sensitive to their mother's emotional expression, often the mother is gentle and the child is happy; The mother is serious and the child is obedient; The mother is serious and the child is disciplined; Mothers are autocratic and children are timid; When parents spoil themselves, children can't control themselves, even make noise and toss. Therefore, mothers should take the attitude towards their children as an important means of education and make good use of this most effective "emotional weapon" to shape their children's future character.

(1) Kindness

A mother should be happy, laugh, friendly, polite and respect her children. Sometimes mothers should take their children seriously and cultivate their independent personality and self-control ability. A mother's love for her children should be subordinated to education, which is the art of making children lively and obedient. To this end, the heart treats him as a child and the surface treats him as an adult; I love my heart very much and keep calm; I care very much in my heart, and I often pretend to be careless on the surface. Children who grow up in this emotional environment are naturally lively, obedient and not spoiled, and they are serious and focused.

(2) learn to respect

It is the most rational and profound love for parents to learn to respect their children, which can enable them to acquire a healthy and perfect personality. Mr. Lu Xun once said, "If you don't treat your child as a human being, he can't be a human being when he grows up." We must often meet many teenagers who don't know how to love themselves, lack self-reliance, or are lazy, degenerate or violent. It can be said that most of them are children who have not been respected in their childhood.

Respect for children should use more polite language and get along with each other in a democratic and equal way; Don't treat children as toys and jokes, and don't make too many jokes; It is forbidden to treat children as punching bags, and not to insult, abuse or treat children rudely; Don't talk about your child's shortcomings, weaknesses and mistakes to his face, criticize his shortcomings in front of others and vent his dissatisfaction; Don't always hold your child in your arms and kiss him in your mouth after infancy, but encourage him to stand up straight, sit up straight and talk well; Don't play tricks on children, keep your word and do things seriously.

(3) Encourage praise

Mother should let the children unconsciously realize that she is a good child, and everyone likes him. A good "self-image" is a great driving force for children's progress. Always encourage and praise to cultivate a good "self-image" of children, so that even if children make mistakes, they will believe that they will correct them immediately. Encouragement should be carried out before behavior and praise should be carried out in time after behavior, but praise must be realistic, not perfunctory and cajoled by words, nor excessive.

There are many ways for mothers to praise their children. They praise their relatives, friends, family and teachers in a low voice, but deliberately let them hear them instead of telling them directly. This kind of positive suggestion is very effective, and sometimes it can "turn fake into true". Other forms of encouragement include a smile, a compliment, a hug, inserting a small red flower, rewarding a school thing and playing in nature, as the case may be. However, when all the praise and rewards are implemented, the mother should not be too happy, but should be serious and calm.

(4) Cultivate habits

Habit is a psychological stereotype cultivated by repeating a certain pattern in behavior, and the psychological stereotype of happiness and concentration should also be cultivated in behavioral habits. When children have good habits, mother's education will save time and trouble. This is the truth that "less becomes nature, and habit becomes nature".

Educator Ye Shengtao said: "What is education? In a word, it is to form good habits. All good attitudes and methods must become habits. Only when proficiency becomes a habit, a good attitude can be expressed anytime and anywhere, and a good method can be applied anytime and anywhere, and it will be inexhaustible for a lifetime. " When children's good habits are developed, they can control themselves, concentrate on playing and learning, and be free from the temptation and interference of bad factors.