In education, the power of methods is limited. What do parents really lack in educating their children? What they really lack is not the method, but the state, which is the educational state of parents. Now there are many mothers' rationality that makes me feel terrible. Talking about children lacks emotional foundation and emotional support. The mother's rationality is terrible in educating her children. There is a distance between father and education. It is not terrible to have a distance, but the father should show his position in the family education space and clearly express what is the spiritual guidance for his children at home. The best state of education lies in the word "education". Family education focuses on nurturing, not teaching. At present, children's learning problems, all kinds of problems are summed up as lack of mental energy, and their hearts are facing lack of enthusiasm for learning. Fish farming focuses on water, trees focus on roots, and people focus on their hearts. If the child's heart is not maintained at home and cannot be effectively nourished, there will be no foundation for natural intelligence; No matter how high the IQ is, it is difficult to give full play to one's talents without appropriate and corresponding psychological support. Forget about the child's heart. Let's look at the person who raises the child's mind, that is, whether the parents' mind is suitable for raising children, or how to reach the realm of raising children. How to ignite children's inner enthusiasm for learning requires a certain temperature and a certain state to ignite. If parents are indifferent, numb or anxious, it is difficult for us to ignite children's enthusiasm for learning. No matter what state the child is in, ensuring the mother's emotional calm is your greatest education for the child.