I don't agree with the sentence "children are disobedient and grow up to be worthless" The ancients often said that "heroes don't care about their origins." Besides, being naughty is a child's nature. Facts have proved that the smarter and more active children are, the smarter they are. The more disobedient you are when you are a child, the more filial you will be when you grow up.

After all, they are children. They know nothing and have never experienced anything. Even we adults don't know how long we have memories. In addition, we say that children have different family backgrounds, so family education is also different. Some families have more children, so older children are sensible earlier.

Every parent wants their children to have a bright future and has been teaching their children textbooks since childhood. Everyone has different ideas at different stages of life. The most important thing in educating children is not to let them know that everything is enough with their own temperament, and one thing is not easy to solve.

I think we should forget the past and not bear it silently. If you don't protect your child when it is hurt, it is the most powerful harm to your child. Children's qualities, strengths and weaknesses are all made by ourselves, not boasted everywhere. The most important thing is to make it clear to him that if you don't want to listen to these contemptuous words, you should use your own strength to silence those who look down on you. Don't think that he is too young to know anything. Everyone can understand the truth.

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Hello, I'm glad to answer your question!

My son, too, is 8 years old now. He belongs to the kind of active and naughty, but he still listens to adults. I've been in your situation before. A classmate lives nearby, and two people play together occasionally. It was a little late that day, so I went to meet him at his classmate's house and arrived at the door. Just after hearing the speech inside, the parents of the students chatted with a friend and said that my son was too naughty and would be worthless after disobedience, saying that her children were good. I was angry at that time. I want to go in and ask, why do you say that? Forget it later. There is no need to be embarrassed, mainly because I didn't say it in front of me, otherwise I would definitely go back.

In fact, sometimes we don't comment, and parents don't care who studies hard or who doesn't! The key is to say this in front of you, feeling disrespectful and contemptuous. Let's just say you're like a baby. Stay away from such people! If you can't contact, don't contact. As for the children who want to play together, just play. If not, forget it.

Now some people just like to belittle others and raise themselves, which has nothing to do with boys and girls. Her family is always the best, and no one's children can do it. She said that others can do whatever they want. If you say her baby is not good, you can jump, you know. Stay away unless you are fiercer than her!

Let me get this straight. It's called having an independent mind and making a decision later. Don't be silent, this is a silent injury to children. Remember, the child is yourself, and others have no right to make irresponsible remarks! Children also have dignity. At this point, shoulder to shoulder will make children feel that you are very close! The child is our copy, and there is something wrong with the copy. This can't escape responsibility. Talk to the children after the guests leave. We don't live without looking at it, nor do we live as others want. Is there anything we need to change? Solve it together!

Hello, this question is what I think. My friend said that if the child is disobedient, there will be no future when he grows up. I won't go back. But I will say, is there no promise if the child is naughty? Will children succeed if they obey? When we were young, we were also called naughty and worthless by our parents. When we grow up, we can only work at home, but this is not the case.

There are many times when people say how your children are. Why should they care what others say? If the child did something wrong, he should say it. We shouldn't care too much about what others say. Because others think so, we can't. Everyone likes us. Quite simply, you will definitely like your own children, but you won't like other people's children. Like your own children, you are worried about whether your children are eating well and whether they are happy at school.

I feel that no matter what the child does, he feels that his parents love him. Let children feel the love of their parents. For a friend, this sentence will be forgotten when he says it. If you really give him a more serious situation, he will say, "Did I say that?" But the baby is our own. For a child, you are the most perfect and sacred parent in his mind.

There is a common phenomenon in most families. Parents seldom care about their children's thoughts and expressions, and think that children who listen to their parents are good children.

When children do what parents want to do, parents will praise them. When children are rebellious, they often get a sentence: "Why are you so disobedient?"

As parents, why do you have to force your children to obey?

Pippi Ma believes that it is a good thing for children to obey, but they should not be blindly obedient and lose their personality and thinking. Such a child must be worthless when he grows up!

1 Be obedient, so that children won't think alone.

An obedient child listens to his parents at home, teachers at school, and bosses at the company ... when did he listen to himself in this process?

To cultivate obedient children, rather than puppets manipulated at will, the most basic thing is to let children know themselves first, and then parents know them.

What do children like and dislike? What does the child want to do? ..... If the child does something he doesn't want to do in order to obey, then I'd rather he chooses not to obey.

Children's obedience is actually parents' laziness. Parents want to cultivate their children in the most convenient and effective way, but the result is to kill their children's personality in the cradle.

Children without personality are children that parents are proud to bring out. "Your child is so obedient! You are really cultured! "

Children without personality are not children, because children don't even know what they want most and what they are to their parents.

2 Obedience, so that children dare not express their emotions

One of Pippi's friends' children just went to kindergarten and behaved well during the day. The children don't cry or make trouble, which makes the mother feel particularly at ease. But children always wake up crying in the middle of the night, and they also develop the bad habit of hitting people.

The kindergarten teacher told her: "Your children are too obedient and sensible to express their emotions directly."

When children go to kindergarten for the first time, in their eyes, it is like leaving their parents. It is normal for children to cry.

An obedient child will think that his parents will like him better only if he goes to kindergarten without crying, so he has been suppressing this crying mood.

To put it bluntly, children try to hide their inner feelings in order to make themselves a good boy who is obedient and sensible in the eyes of their parents forever.

The consequence is that the accumulation of these inner emotions is to a certain extent. If you suppress your feelings for a long time, it is easy for children to have psychological problems and bury a time bomb in the process of their growth.

3. Obedience makes it impossible for children to live independently

There is an interesting phenomenon. Those children who are obedient and sensible when they were young often have excellent academic performance, but it is those children who are naughty when they are young that can make greater achievements on the road of life.

Why should I ask? It can only be said that obedient children are highly dependent and have poor independence.

Obedient children walk on the road of life copied and pasted by their parents. He is an obedient student who never asks questions and an ordinary obedient employee. He is an obedient "mother-in-law" arranged by marriage ...

When Pippi Ma sees her child looking for something to do at home, sometimes opening this alarm clock and sometimes playing with that toy, I won't threaten him with "I don't like you if you don't listen", because I know that I love my child not because I love him and want to listen, but because of who he is.

So whenever someone asks me "What do you want your child to do in the future", I always smile: "I support whatever he wants to do as long as he doesn't do bad things."

Since obedient children are worthless, should we cultivate naughty children?

Of course not, but we should find problems from our own educational methods.

To get rid of "obedient education", the most important thing is to listen to children's voices. What parents should do is to make their children obey rationally and keep their own thinking and attitude.

1 Encourage not to beat and scold.

Beating and cursing is often the last resort to restrain children's personality development, which is extremely undesirable. It is very unlikely that there will be a dutiful son under the stick, let alone whether such a dutiful son can make a living in society.

Encouraging education does not mean that parents should support children in everything they do, but give them appropriate encouragement and support when they express themselves when they have ideas, so as to develop their thinking mode and hands-on creativity.

Give guidance instead of denying it.

When children put forward some conditions against their parents' wishes, most parents will kill them with a stick, directly denying their true inner thoughts, which makes the children's inner emotions backlog for a long time and difficult to release.

Smart parents will guide their children with words or practical actions in the face of their children's conditions or nonsense ideas. Support affirmation if it is right, and guide correction if it is wrong, so that children can learn to distinguish right from wrong by themselves.

3 broaden your horizons and cultivate independence

Don't always keep your children at home on the pretext of safety, or let them form a habit of "staying at home" and take them to contact people and things outside to broaden their horizons, instead of being a frog in the well.

Leaving some things to children to solve independently can not only reduce their excessive dependence on their parents, but also let them learn to complete a task by themselves and become confident and sunny.

There is nothing wrong with cultivating obedient children, but it is necessary to cultivate children who are not blindly obedient.

They have their own ideas, dare to face the questions they question and speak out confidently.

The best counterattack is not verbal.

It is better to make children better and better than to go back in anger. Strength is the best counterattack.

The upper hand in words is only instantaneous quickness.

Hanshan monk, there is a good saying.

What if someone insults me?

Let him go, treat him for ten years, and see how he is?

My friend said that my child was in trouble, so I told him face to face. There are several reasons:

First, it is to protect children. Children nowadays are smart enough to know what others mean. If someone has no intention to slander him, he will have doubts about himself, feel that he is not a good boy, and will gradually feel inferior and have psychological problems. This may be more serious, but it is. How many adults' psychological shadows are planted by others' unintentional sarcasm.

Second, tell your child that your mother will protect you. The child was wronged outside. If his mother can't help him, who can he turn to for help? Children should be given enough sense of security when they are young and let them grow up healthily. Being wronged outside, I have to be scolded by my parents for not working hard when I go home. In this environment, the child's psychology is definitely unbearable. Look at the pressure of students now. If parents don't rely on them, they will have a nervous breakdown and be very hard.

Third, we should communicate with our children in time. After others have said those bad words, you should explain to your child when you go home. He is a good boy and he is great. Encourage and guide in time.

In any case, we should give priority to our own children, do not compare, do not compare, give priority to praise, supplemented by punishment, let children cultivate self-confidence from below, and don't let other people's gossip or jokes ruin the original lively and cheerful children.

Let's not talk about why children don't listen. Let's talk about your friends first. What he said was too rude. You can say that the child is disobedient. What makes you say that children are worthless when they grow up?

What is obedient? Do you have no opinion about anything and listen to others? It's easy for children not to do what adults think. If a child is rude, abusive or does something inappropriate in public, such disobedience really needs education and criticism from others. If it is other aspects, no one is qualified to say that other people's children are worthless.

Your friend is also a worthless person, but how can a promising adult say in front of his parents that his children are worthless when they grow up?

No, I have the same problem. I have been trying my best to educate my son. I think it's normal for my boys to be naughty. My sister's daughter is five years old. My children run and dance every day. The boy is very naughty. My sister said that when my child was restless, his daughter was five years old, but she couldn't wear clothes, eat or wet her pants. These children will behave well in two and a half weeks. I think she has a problem with her children's education. She thinks. Aren't farmers glorious? I don't ask much. When I grow up, I will be healthy and safe, as long as I can support my family and take care of my family.