China implements the family planning policy, and most families only have 1 child! So this life should bear all the hopes of this family! As soon as the child was born, many parents' fantasies began. They hope that their dreams that they failed to realize when they were young, or simply some irrelevant fantasies, can be realized by their children. In this case, in the name of love, a protracted abuse began. When you first learn to speak, you should recite Tang poems and formulas. When you can run and walk, you have to be sent to various training classes to learn various skills.

Under the Chinese-style educational concept and mode, life has become a tool for the strong since birth, just like greedy folk monkey tricks have got new monkeys! Some even went to the abnormal condition, gave up their lives, lost everything, and even started Chinese education at all costs. After children go to school, in the name of love, the school turns children into tools to pursue fame and fortune. Achievement, ranking, key schools, Peking University and Tsinghua have become the only goals in children's life, and everything has to be paid for. According to the wishes of parents and schools, it will become an examination machine. And all this, no one has ever considered whether children need it?

"At that time, our conditions were poor and we didn't have the opportunity to go to college, so you should study hard and strive for further study in college!" Most parents in China think so, at least when their children are young: study hard, get into a good university and get a high score. This seems to be the only expectation of China parents for their children. But after entering the university? "You see, I went to college and got a degree, but I still didn't become a decent official, so you must be a big official when you finish college!" This is another part of highly educated parents. So, from helping my child choose a primary school, I even went to a key middle school, and then my child went to college. I went home and asked my parents, what should I fill in? This is the evil result of China's family education: children passively obey their parents' instructions, gradually deepen, tend to assimilate, and finally ask their parents for it, and finally become the tools for parents to realize their unshakable ideals.

Second, use material incentives to induce money worship.

Children who grew up in China's family education must be familiar with the word material stimulation. It is understood that this seems to be the unique killer of China's parents: all test scores are above 85 points, buying airplane toys and yogurt for children; If you can enter the top three in the class, you will be awarded 100 yuan. On the contrary, the stimulation effect is strikingly similar in different ways. When the pursuit of outlook on life turns into greed for material things, where can we talk about independent competition consciousness and sound personality?

Sometimes, the reason is the same. Sure enough, the so-called "courageous award" and other absurd systems have been introduced one after another. This is not the sorrow of one person, but the sorrow of a group of people, and even reflects the sorrow of a country, a nation and a culture with an imperfect legal system. In children's minds, this is a disguised form of money worship induction. Perhaps from this moment on, a curtain of corruption quietly opened.

The current education model in China is actually an education of survival of the fittest ── screening the survival of the fittest, fierce competition among schools, blind expansion of successful schools, massive enrollment, loss of students in failed schools, and unsustainable human resources and wealth resources are increasingly concentrated in some superior schools, and the educational level gap between successful schools and failed schools will become wider and wider. What will happen? Education determines the future-education is the way to train future members of society, and the level of education determines students' future viability. The individual's viability is not only related to the prosperity and stability of society, but also to the harmony and happiness of families and the educational environment of the next generation. This cycle is endless, either virtuous or vicious. As you can imagine, if we provide educational services for the rich and the poor today, there will be a future society with a bigger gap between the rich and the poor tomorrow!

Third, parents replace children, killing independence and individuality;

For high school students in China, they must choose their own direction or major before entering the university. Usually, they will choose a field that will get them into a famous university, and maybe they are not really interested at all. Parents will advise them to choose a more promising major. Maybe they don't like this major. A student may choose accounting because he knows that this major will make him more likely to enter Peking University or Tsinghua, but he may really like chemistry and learn it well.

Sadly, after trying their best to get into a good school, they can't change their major. After graduation, they still work in this field and don't think about finding opportunities to try what they really want to do. This is mostly due to the pressure from their parents. Therefore, through the game with the education system, students in China denied themselves as a whole and refused the opportunity to exert their greatest potential.

For example, if you enter a top MBA school, the school will select students according to their exam results. However, applicants with high scores are not equal to the best management talents. A primary school teacher may have a lot of time to study these standardized tests, but an investment banker has no time to prepare for them because he works around the clock. So, the result is that primary school teachers beat investment bankers in the MBA exam. However, companies looking for employment opportunities from these schools will eventually find that these graduates simply do not have the necessary qualities to climb the business management ladder.

Fourth, "utilitarian" education makes children lack public morality from an early age;

On the evening of 20 11April1,Wang, a 23-year-old young man who had studied in Japan for five years at Shanghai Pudong International Airport, was stabbed 9 times by Gu Lian, his mother who came to pick him up, causing him to be unconscious on the spot. The reason is that his mother didn't send him money on time. The seriously injured mother was stabbed in the stomach and liver with a knife, and was treated in the intensive care unit for 8 days before being transferred to the general ward. Wang studied in Japan for five years without a job. His living expenses and tuition fees are entirely borne by his family, which costs about 300,000 to 400,000 a year. The Wangs even borrowed money to support their sons. On the road of children's success and daughters' success, parents experienced joys and sorrows, while the people began to reflect on how helicopter parents who run their children's lives can cultivate children with sound personality but are not absent at all stages of life in the two poles of club threat and wholeheartedly service.

There is a serious deficiency in the current one-child education, that is, there is no requirement for the quality of children's will, and they rarely hone their will. Everything is spoiled and pampered, lest the children be unhappy. There are many bad will qualities such as fragility, dependence and willfulness among the only children, but parents seem to turn a blind eye. Parents often endlessly satisfy their children's desires, don't give them opportunities, and don't realize that they should let their children exercise to restrain their desires, which invisibly weakens their will quality. The tempering of children's will quality is irreplaceable by parents, teachers and others. Children can only develop in practice again and again, and parents should create conditions for frustration education for their children.

From elementary school to leaving college, a young man can only memorize this book by rote. His judgment and personal initiative have never been useful. Education is his recognition and obedience. Primary and secondary education is obedient. Teachers are in charge of cadres and cadres are in charge of classmates. Children have learned hierarchy and adult thinking. Since childhood, China people have learned to please their teachers, get good grades, be obedient and flatter others as a means of life. Children go to college to satisfy their vanity. Students are more like monkeys in a circus. As long as they remember the fixed movements and constant conditioned reflex, they will be rewarded ... It may sound shocking, but we grew up in such an educational system and environment, but no one knows which day the pain of education in China will last.