Every student is a unique world, and students' individual differences are just valuable resources for education and teaching. Teachers should change their ideas, establish a sense of resources, respect and cherish individuality, and carry out teaching activities on this basis. Teacher-student relationship is a special interpersonal relationship. In the process of teaching, students intentionally or unintentionally hide some personal things, and family life is the space where children's personality naturally forms and displays. At the same time, in the long-term interaction with parents, children's intelligence will be fully displayed, and parents will have a thorough and detailed understanding of their children because of their special identity and emotions. Knowing students is the premise of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, and the cooperation and exchange between school education and family education provides rich resources and realistic possibilities for this. 2. The tendency of school teaching divorced from life can be corrected by combining with family education. The interaction between school and family in education and teaching is originally the communication inside and outside the school and inside and outside the class. In this way, the off-site nature of school education can be corrected through life-oriented family education. Specifically, on the one hand, school teaching should be good at absorbing students' accumulation in family education, making it the starting point and wisdom resource for students to further study; On the other hand, in teaching, teachers should encourage and advocate students to apply what they have learned in class to life practice, so that the dead knowledge in books can surge in the flowing water of life. 3. Schools and families should have the same requirements for children. The so-called requirements for students here mainly refer to what kind of person to be in a broad sense, while in a narrow sense, it is the goal of learning specific subjects. In this respect, the angles of understanding are also different, and there are often cases of disconnection, even contradictions and naysayers. The combination of school and family makes teachers and parents reach a consensus on students' understanding, which provides a premise for putting forward consistent requirements for students. 4. Unify thoughts and educate students together. Teachers should publicize the correct educational concept to parents and guide and help some parents in the ways and means of educating their children. Nowadays, most students are only children. On the one hand, many elders and parents spoil them too much. They reached for clothes to make ends meet. They don't like hardship and can't stand the test of setbacks. On the other hand, parents generally "look forward to their children's success" and "look forward to their women's success", and demand too much from their children. Once the goal is not achieved, compulsory and rude measures will be taken, which will lead to children's weariness of learning and even self-abandonment. These educational methods all violate the educational laws. Only by giving correct education and guidance according to the characteristics of children's physical and mental development can children grow up healthily. Therefore, in the process of contact with parents, teachers should publicize the correct educational concept to parents, let them establish a correct view of children, let them know that educating children should be strict, persuasive and personalized, and set an example while respecting and trusting children. Only by improving their self-cultivation can parents improve the family education environment and adjust the ways and means of educating their children, and family education and school education can be unified. 5, always grasp unremitting, can not be thirsty to dig wells. The long-term nature of education determines that teachers should always communicate with students at school and at home. Only in this way, teachers can fully and carefully understand students' personality characteristics, hobbies and performances in all aspects, and can teach students in accordance with their aptitude. This also requires teachers to pay more attention to students' performance, observe their movements, find problems early in time, solve problems with parents, and let education appear before problems occur, not after them. In the process of educating students, teachers must not be ignorant of their parents and lack contact and communication. When there is a problem, I will get in touch with my parents and discuss countermeasures. This kind of education is lagging behind and very passive. Education cannot be put in place in time, and students cannot receive a good education. 6. Various forms to create good contact opportunities. In the process of contact between schools and families, schools should adopt various forms of contact and actively create opportunities for contact. Teachers can use the most common way-home visits. Through this form, teachers can learn more about students' family situation and students' performance at home, and fully exchange views with parents. In addition, schools and teachers can also hold some parent-teacher conferences, reports and symposiums regularly or irregularly, to report the work situation and work plan of school education and teaching to parents, put forward specific requirements for education to parents, listen to their opinions, and exchange some educational issues with parents of individual students. At the same time, we should try to avoid simply asking parents to "visit the school" as the only way to solve the problem of students' education, rather than knowing the situation in many ways and in many ways. This form of contact is too one-way to thoroughly educate students. 7. Communicate comprehensively and don't criticize blindly. In contact with parents, teachers should pay attention to the comprehensive exchange of students' study and life at school and at home, and objectively and truly tell each other their own advantages and disadvantages, study and life, ideology and morality. People often say that "no one is perfect without gold". When communicating with parents, teachers should also look at students in two ways, not only to see their shortcomings, but also to pay attention to their bright spots. When reflecting problems to parents, we should not only grasp the shortcomings of students, but also criticize them. Instead, we should analyze students' situation comprehensively and objectively, affirm their advantages, treat their shortcomings correctly, and work with parents to find out the best way to educate students. Criticizing students blindly will only embarrass parents, and will only make parents see their children's shortcomings unilaterally, which will lead parents to go astray in the content and way of educating their children and have a negative impact on their growth. 8, timely feedback, do a good job in re-education, education is continuous, and students' physical and mental development is also staged and unstable. In a certain aspect of students' education, schools and families have made contact and taken actions, but it should also be noted that this is not the end of education, but to prepare for another contact. "How to correct students' mistakes? Whether students' interest in learning is still high; Are children still introverted? How to educate children in the next step? "And so on, all these can be contacted again. Teachers and parents timely feedback each other's students' situation, so that schools and families can grasp students' trends purposefully, planned, step by step and with emphasis, adjust educational methods and contents in time, and guide children correctly. The benign combination of school education and family education has many advantages. Generally speaking, dealing with the relationship between the two can not only give teachers the opportunity to fully understand students and adopt the best educational strategies, but also let parents often know the dynamics of their children's study and life and prepare for education. In the long run, schools and families can educate children together to make them grow up healthily and healthily.