As long as Eiko's academic performance is not good, her mother will tell her not to play and not to be admitted to her favorite university. Forcing her to proceed step by step according to her own plan, in such a high-pressure environment, Eiko's psychological unbearable problem appeared. Eiko is a sensible girl, and Song Qian will let her study hard for her sake. However, Song Qian's improper way of preaching made the children feel great pressure.
In real life, many parents are also thinking about their children, so they will preach. However, most children are unwilling to listen to their parents. Many parents think that their children are not sensible, but they ignore their own problems.
Children don't listen to their parents? Preach? The problem is that parents don't understand? Say? .
I am a child who doesn't like listening to parents' preaching. When I was a child, I wouldn't resist my parents' preaching, but just listened quietly. But when I was a teenager, I became extremely disgusted with my parents' preaching, so I would talk back no matter what my parents said.
Eat quickly and stop playing with your mobile phone. ? Mom said,? I just played today. Besides, haven't you been playing before? ? From then on, every time my mother preached to me, I would inevitably refute it, and gradually my mother stopped preaching to me as before. Later, when I grew up, I reflected on my previous adolescent behavior and finally found the reason why I didn't want to listen to my parents' preaching.
Although my mother won't solve problems with rude behavior, whenever I put forward my own opinions, she always denies me and accuses me with her mouth open. For example, if I lose my eraser, my mother will say: Why not throw others' and only yours? That's not your problem? ? Every communication is the object of criticism, so I don't like to listen to my mother's sermon.
In fact, children don't like to listen to their parents' preaching, and it's not entirely their responsibility. More problems lie with their parents. Parents always talk to their children in critical language in every conversation, so children naturally don't like talking to their parents.
Parents should also pay attention to the method of preaching, otherwise it will be the same as my growing experience. In fact, preaching is a good way of education, but paying attention to the way of speaking and learning to talk to children with appeal can play a better educational effect.
Infectious? What's the role?
Infectious communication can resonate with other people's same thoughts and emotions, and it can also inspire children's wisdom or stimulate their feelings when used in education. For example, through an infectious article, we can feel the emotions expressed in the author's article. If the appeal is applied to preaching with children, it will definitely get twice the result with half the effort and have many positive effects.
The use of appeal can make the communication between parents and children smoother and make children more and more like to communicate with you. Parents' use of appeal in conversation will make children understand that you are actually preaching for his good. When children learn to be grateful to their parents, they will naturally not reject their parents' preaching behavior, but will be more willing to communicate with their parents.
Vivid preaching makes children more willing to listen. Usually, parents' preaching is too blunt, and they always express themselves in direct and rude language, and sometimes even preach in a commanding tone. Obviously, children are unwilling to accept such a sermon. At this time, it is necessary to enrich the language of preaching and make the children sound more vivid. Vivid language is conducive to children's understanding, children are easily moved, and it is conducive to preaching and teaching.
As long as the method of preaching is used correctly, children can understand the meaning of parents and achieve the purpose of education. Parents' emotional and vivid preaching is easy for children to understand, and more friendly language will make children accept it gladly. When parents preach, they should formulate educational methods according to their children's personality in order to achieve better preaching purposes.
Parents do a good job in these areas, let? Preach? It's also contagious.
Mark Twain, a famous speaker, is listening to the priest's speech. At first, he thought the priest spoke very well and wanted to donate money. But he waited for more than ten minutes to finish his speech, and then he became impatient and just wanted to donate some change. 10 minutes later, the speech was still not over, and he decided not to donate at all. And he took two dollars when he left, because he was very angry.
This story tells parents that they need to grasp the time when preaching. If they don't preach moderately, it will inevitably lead to? Over-limit effect? . Parents' constant preaching will only make children more and more impatient and even contradict their parents.
Every parent wants his child to succeed, so he will look forward to his future in his heart. However, this expectation also needs to be based on the child's own situation. If the goal is too high, it is easy for children to feel frustrated. There will be many setbacks and the expected results will not be achieved. Slowly, children will feel more and more inferior because of this high-goal education, thus losing self-confidence.
Therefore, when setting goals, parents should be based on their own abilities. You can start with a small goal, and when children achieve these goals, they will also get a sense of accomplishment. Don't preach to children repeatedly when they make mistakes. Excessive nagging will only make children more and more disgusted with your preaching.
Parents who set an example and give priority to their excellent children will naturally be infected. A punctual and self-disciplined parent will certainly educate children to have such good habits, and conversely, children will also learn bad behavior habits. Therefore, parents need to reflect on their behavior before educating their children. If they only emphasize mistakes repeatedly, it is not advisable to change their behavior through preaching. In the process of social interaction, parents should regard their children as friends. Consider the child's thoughts and guide him with a positive and correct attitude.
Parents can strengthen communication with their children and let them find the right way to preach. No matter how busy you are, remember to spend time with your children. Be patient when communicating, so that children will listen to you patiently when preaching.